update to the vent post

ssinca

I called the doctor (my sister's neighbor) to cancel my appt on fri.  I specifically spoke with the office manager because I know the doc was coming in earlier than normal just to see me, and I told the OM "please tell Dr. E I'm grateful for her help but we've decided to go with another doctor."  I didn't call my sister because I wanted my emotions to settle down and I knew she was going to try and talk me out of it.  

well, my sister beat me to the punch and called me after Dr. E called her to ask why I canceled the appt.  all hell broke loose.  I am so hormonal, slept for about 3 hrs last night, my stomach hurts from the stress, and I am a hot mess.  my sister was pissed that I didn't call her first - you know why I didn't?  because I knew she would talk me out of it or make me feel bad for my decision.  she likes to do that. I was crying hysterically, like hyperventilating-type crying (I can't remember the last time that happened), that I basically just threw the phone at MH and made him deal with it; it was that or hang up on my sister...uh, which I've done before. 

in the meantime, I've faxed my records to yet another doctor and hope she'll take me as a new patient.  I still have an appt with the backup doctor so I'm trying not to stress.  both deliver at the nicer hospital with private rooms.  deep breath, I know all will be OK.

and now I need a nap. 

/vent

rssnlvr

Dude. How your sister thinks this is any of her business is beyond me. She needs to STFU and support you, not create more stress for you.

Are we FB friends? I'll go post that on your wall so that she can see it.

 

michelleaxo

((hugs)) that sucks. Your sister is being a royal PITA about that. You have every right to choose the doctor you want to deliver your baby and it is none of her business. Hopefully she will get over it soon.

ssinca

rssnlvr:

Are we FB friends? I'll go post that on your wall so that she can see it.

we aren't but I don't want to stir up anymore sh!t!  I really would like to start this day over.

she's pissed because I didn't call her first, said she and the doctor went through all of this hassle just for me.  I get it, but gimme a break - she didn't part the sea for chrissake. 

ssinca

MrsRosie:

Am I the only one who thinks Dr. E violated your right to privacy by discussing your medical biznass with someon other than you?

oh, I don't really care about that.  honestly.  she doesn't have any of my medical info, she just basically knows I'm PG and that's it. 

misjenn

MrsRosie:

Am I the only one who thinks Dr. E violated your right to privacy by discussing your medical biznass with someon other than you?

THIS! And your sister needs to shut up and support you. You are family and Dr.E isn't.

brooke152

I am still trying to understand how anyone thinks it is OK to share a room after giving birth.  That would turn me away in .5 seconds. 

Sorry you're having such a rough time.  I hope everyone will figure out it's none of their business and let you enjoy your last few weeks of pregnancy, not to mention birth.

joyco

Does your sister work for this doctor?  Or are they BFFs?  I don't get why your sister is so involved, I'd be glad to join in the "leave ssinca alone" campaign on your FB wall, b/c that is ridiculous for her to think she can just control whatever you do.  Good grief.

keado

You need a nap AND a pedi   Sorry you are dealing with all this crap. 

FireChiefsBride

I have a bully sister as well.  I'm sorry.  Maybe in a day or so you can call her back and reasonably apologize for not telling her after she did you a "favor" (eyeroll) to keep the peace. At least that's how it works with my sister and I to drop it and move forward. They're such cows.   

ssinca

keado:

You need a nap AND a pedi   Sorry you are dealing with all this crap. 

ha!  the ironic part is I was on my way to get a pedi but I left my purse (and brain) at home so I went back - that's when she called me.  I'm over the pedi now, I'll try to go tomorrow. 

mlf625

SO annoying!  My friend who moved during her pregnancy never did get back to me by email, but I know she delivered at the nicer hospital where she'd have her own room (because I remember her being really unhappy about the idea of sharing a room, too).  Do you want me to text her to get her doc's name?  Lemme know.

ETA: I just went ahead and texted her.  I'll let you know when I hear back. 

L L CG

FireChiefsBride:

I have a bully sister as well.  I'm sorry.  Maybe in a day or so you can call her back and reasonably apologize for not telling her after she did you a "favor" (eyeroll) to keep the peace. At least that's how it works with my sister and I to drop it and move forward. They're such cows.   

Very good advice.  I am so, so sorry you are having to deal with this. 

ssinca

mlf625:

SO annoying!  My friend who moved during her pregnancy never did get back to me by email, but I know she delivered at the nicer hospital where she'd have her own room (because I remember her being really unhappy about the idea of sharing a room, too).  Do you want me to text her to get her doc's name?  Lemme know.

ETA: I just went ahead and texted her.  I'll let you know when I hear back. 

awesome, thanks!  if she doesn't get back to you, don't worry - I'm honestly over it at this point and need to stop stressing about it.  I'm assuming she delivered at hoag if we're talking about the same nice hospital? 

Xtina712

I'm sorry your sister is making an already stressful situation harder on you.  GL on your dr search and try and put your sister out of your mind for a bit.

mlf625

ssinca:

mlf625:

SO annoying!  My friend who moved during her pregnancy never did get back to me by email, but I know she delivered at the nicer hospital where she'd have her own room (because I remember her being really unhappy about the idea of sharing a room, too).  Do you want me to text her to get her doc's name?  Lemme know.

ETA: I just went ahead and texted her.  I'll let you know when I hear back. 

awesome, thanks!  if she doesn't get back to you, don't worry - I'm honestly over it at this point and need to stop stressing about it.  I'm assuming she delivered at hoag if we're talking about the same nice hospital? 

That definitely rings a bell. You are talking about delivering in San Diego, right?  (Just realized maybe you're not having the baby there now, if you're going to be living in HB?)  I'll post when she responds.  I'm guessing it's lunchtime at her house.

SaraLouiseBride08

Hooooleee crap! I'm so sorry. It comes down to what YOU want and YOUR hospital experience. In the end, you'll be glad you "stood up" to your sister. I really, really hope she got that off her chest and you can relax about it now! Remember, you're moving across the country while very, very pregnant. That is STRESS-FUL. If you can do this, you can do anything. And soon, this drama will be over and you'll be having fun with your son

GuavaGal

Ugh, how frustrating!  I'm sorry your sister is stressing you out.  I have helpfully prepared an email for you to send to her:

Dear ssinca's sis:

Baby ssinca will arrive at the hospital and with the dr. of his mama's choosing, because she knows what's best for him.  Until you can be supportive, STFU.

Fondly,

GG

 

chargermama

HUGS to you!

Your sister needs to STEP OFF!!!

ssinca

mlf - no I'll be in OC, not SD, hoag is in newport. Thx again though!

Nessia

You know besides the whole it's your baby and you can deliver wherever the hell you want but am I the only ones turned off by going to a obgyn my sister is BFF with? I mean if you're in the same city now you'll probably see this obgyn in a social setting and isn't that weird? I have a close friend who is now an obgyn and I would never want her to be my OB.

mcurban

I didn't respond to your other post, b/c you were getting a lot of the same advice. But, since it has come up again, I will

You are absolutely making a great decision by finding a dr. who will deliver at the hospital where you get your own pp room. It is hard enough to get a decent night's sleep when it is just you/ family in there, I would flipmyshit if I was *also* woken up in the night when someone else's needs were being addressed (i.e., if the nurse came in to give meds to my "roommate." No. No way. 

Sorry your sister is being lame. Umm...and yeah, Dr. E definitely should NOT have called your sister. So, feel good about the fact that you have left a dr. who would be talking to your sis about *your* medical care.

ditzydi_2000

rssnlvr:

Dude. How your sister thinks this is any of her business is beyond me. She needs to STFU and support you, not create more stress for you.

Are we FB friends? I'll go post that on your wall so that she can see it.

 

This.  Why is it that family always has to start drama?  

thethomps

rssnlvr:

Dude. How your sister thinks this is any of her business is beyond me. She needs to STFU and support you, not create more stress for you.

Are we FB friends? I'll go post that on your wall so that she can see it.

 

This.  Totally.  YOU are the one delivering the baby, not her!

mlf625

ssinca:

mlf - no I'll be in OC, not SD, hoag is in newport. Thx again though!

That makes more sense! Another friend had her baby at the Newport Hoag last month and raved about it. Yay!

ssinca

mlf625:

ssinca:

mlf - no I'll be in OC, not SD, hoag is in newport. Thx again though!

That makes more sense! Another friend had her baby at the Newport Hoag last month and raved about it. Yay!

I wouldn't expect anything less being in Newport. They need to cater to all of the rich ladies.:) And my sister just sent me an email, sort of apologizing. I can't go there right now.

HSartteach

The other downside to sharing a pp room is you don't want to accidentally pull a Pam (from the office).

For those that don't watch...  She had to share a pp room and in the middle of the night, a baby started to cry so Pam told Jim to get the baby so she could try to nurse (she had been having tons of problems with latching).  Jim grabbed a baby and Pam started to nurse with no probs.  She was super excited.  Until someone (I think) came in to visit and she suddenly realized she had the wrong baby.

Just wanted to lighten things up a bit.

CollieJade

MrsRosie:

Am I the only one who thinks Dr. E violated your right to privacy by discussing your medical biznass with someon other than you?

WORD.