Tacky, re preschool parties?

GinandTonic

Until recently, both DH and I usually go to the kids' parties - because they've been the kids of people that we're both friends with -usually before we all had kids.  But, now DS is starting to get invited to parties of preschool friends - and I don't even really know the parents other than "Hi" at dropoff. 

 The last one was on a weekday afternoon - too early for DH to get home.  I actually had NO idea who the kid or the mom was - it was maybe 3 weeks after school started.  I emailed the RSVP and told her that DH wouldn't be home, would it be okay to bring my 9-month old?  She said, of course, but thanked me for asking.  It was at a jumpy place, so clearly, the baby wouldn't be participating, etc.  But, I didn't just want to show up with the baby.  There were two other moms there with babies too.

 So, he got invited to another one.  On a weekend.  I figure that one of us will stay home with DD.  But, when I emailed the response, I said something like "If, for some reason, it doesn't work out that one of us can stay home with her, do you mind if I bring the baby?"

Is that bad to ask?  I realize that at some point, she's going to be old enough that, unless she's invited too, she can't tag along, but under a year is okay, right?  And asking the mom is good too, right?

PinkPiano

I think it's pretty much a given that younger siblings are fine to tag along to parties.  Everytime I've taken my dd to a party with her pre-school friends there are always siblings there.  I take my youngest too if it's during the week and I've never asked if it's ok.  I think it's nice of you to do so but probably not necessary.

 

 

CleoKitty

I think it's just fine to ask in those type of situations, especially when you're talking about a baby-in-arms.

JOEBunny

I think that is perfectly normal up until the point of drop off parties.  With DD's parties, we still invite the whole family and probably will until the age of 5. 

AZ_Erica

I agree. If it is a party you are staying at it's ok to bring the baby.  What else are you suppose to do, leave her home with the Dog???  Once your DS starts getting invited to parties in probably K or 1st grade where they are just dropped off, then it's time to not let the other sibling tag along.

gracendantho26

Around here siblings always seem to be welcome!