Guests not RSVPing!

salliecat07

How typical is it that people don't RSVP on time! I inquired about a specific invitee to my hostesses and they said they haven't received a single RSVP. I followed up face to face or via email and almost everyone stated they were attending but haven't seen me to let me know. The invite stated to RSVP the hostesses! What gives!

CocoBrynne

How far away from the RSVP date is it?  I am kinda wondering the same thing, my invites went out 2 weeks ago and my mom has only had 3 people RSVP so far.  Maybe people just wait til the last minute?

mammcg88

Apparently RSVP'ing is becoming something of the past. My shower is on Saturday and few people have let my hostess know, so she's now making calls to get a head count for food. I'm sure it's annoying for her to have to track them down. Good etiquette is not something everyone practices anymore

kgunz11

mammcg88:

Apparently RSVP'ing is becoming something of the past. My shower is on Saturday and few people have let my hostess know, so she's now making calls to get a head count for food. I'm sure it's annoying for her to have to track them down. Good etiquette is not something everyone practices anymore

This.  Manners are fast falling by the wayside for many people.  It's very frustrating and depressing.

Temp38995750004016

What date did you give them as the RSVP deadline?

EBathory997Wed74688

A week before my rsvp date (4/15) my mother had still not heard from 28 people out of 50 invitees so she requested all the contact info.  Then all of a sudden last week, my mom's phone was ringing off the hook.  She now is waiting on only 2 people, one of which she gave a verbal extension until 4/20 to see if she has off from work and one of my husband's invites.  My invites were sent out in early march so many people forgot/lost it.

Gennag1

I have been to a few showers, (babies & Wedding) and never had to RSVP?! So maybe people aren't used to it for a shower? I even asked about doing RSVPs for my wedding shower and my mother-in-law said "I have never had to RSVP for a shower so I don't think you need it". For my wedding shower and wedding we didn't do RSVPs, because we were told by my wedding planner that people don't use them anymore. On the other hand I can imagine how annoying it must be to have included them, and then your not getting any back, hope as it gets closer you will start getting them.

mikesch1k

I didn't have any RSVP to my wedding shower either. Here in my community, some people might write "RSVP" on the invitations but few expect any responses. Its just not something we really do around here. Especially for just a shower. Our showers are generally pretty relaxed and are more like "open houses". So I totally agree with you. I also understand how it might be frustrating if there are really hostesses who are counting on the guests to respond.

beautiflaw

I have had the worst time with this too. We did a facebook invite and a lot of people still haven't rsvp'd. I followed up with an email reminder and more people are rsvping now.

For my wedding when we sent out formal invites only 1 person rsvp'd and we invited nearly 150 people. Almost everybody that was invited showed up tho. It was weird.

salliecat07

At the time, the shower was about two weeks away. Fortunately, everything turned out great in the end.

blulady48

this is MY big rave!!  sent out invites early since graduations and father's day is in June.  very few RSVPs    how to plan for food and beverage is my concern.  do I assume that if you don't answer, then the person is coming?  any advice would be appreciated--first time to hostess a shower

Mrs.B6302007

blulady48:

this is MY big rave!!  sent out invites early since graduations and father's day is in June.  very few RSVPs    how to plan for food and beverage is my concern.  do I assume that if you don't answer, then the person is coming?  any advice would be appreciated--first time to hostess a shower

What date did you put for the RSVPs?  After that date passes, start calling those who haven't contacted you.  And no, don't assume anything.  You'll end up spending money on things you don't need or not have enough.