Just occured to me, I would have started my 3rd tri this week...

vanessagorc

I'm not sure what this says about me, but I feel like I blocked the mc out of my head.  It's something I never think about.

I'm sure this is a defense mechanism, but not sure if it's a healthy one.  I never talk about it, almost like it never happened.  Only from seeing a PAIF ticker, did i even realize it.

Hummmm, maybe i am really losing it?

chizzle09

I'm sorry

Edwina.McDunnough

I doubt any of us really forget our losses, but I don't think it's good to dwell in the past either. There is no right way to mourn these things, and really, only you know if you're in the right place with it or not. Not that EDD anniversaries or other milestones are fun.

You're not losing it. The ebb and flow are part of the coping.

ooo

M&MBride0506

I'm so sorry. 

baloneydisc

I'm sorry ((hugs)). I know what you mean though, I didn't think about my loss at all for awhile and then it hit me a couple of weeks ago that my EDD was coming up.

illinigal

I'm so sorry about your loss.  Best of luck with your upcoming cycle for a super sticky BFP!

smilee

You're not losing it at all.  You are just trying not to dwell .

I'm sorry- it really sucks when these things sneak up on you.

Guess I am going to have to have another glass of wine for you tonight.  

perry7285

(((huge hugs)))

vanessagorc

smilee:

You're not losing it at all.  You are just trying not to dwell .

I'm sorry- it really sucks when these things sneak up on you.

Guess I am going to have to have another glass of wine for you tonight.  

Please do! 

Imanurse03

So sorry for your loss.  I think everyone deals with m/c differently; there's no right or wrong way of dealing with pg loss.  I used to remember all the due dates for my m/cs but I've had 4 of them now and I can't keep them straight.  Probably better that way anyway. 

Big hugs to you!

Mayan2011

I am so sorry sweets!  I hope IVF 2.2 is it for you!  ((hugs))

kthappy76

I don't think you're losing it FWIW.  Everyone deals with difficult situations differently, but I don't think there is a right way.  For me too, moving forward is the most effective coping mechanism.  There is no joy in dwelling on what could/would have been, but I also find myself thinking about milestones still, I'd be 24 wks/V-day.  I hope that when we get our BFsPs we can look back at all these sad times as the path it took to get us to our happiness.   (((hugs)))

matt'sbride

(((HUGE hugs)))

blueberries8

I usually don't post here, because I haven't been around the IF board for so long, but I just wanted to let you know that I have been feeling the exact same way lately. I had a missed m/c at 7.5 weeks the week before you (Nov 15). For a long time I was able to mostly put it out of my head (especially since I believed that once my June 30 EDD rolled around I'd be pregnant again), but now that all the mamas expecting around that time are REALLY showing and I know I'd be in 3rd tri now, I can't help but start thinking again about what might have been.

(((hugs))) I really hope your upcoming IVF will be a success...it looks like we will probably be cycling around the same time.

babystinkbreath

Edwina.McDunnough:

I doubt any of us really forget our losses, but I don't think it's good to dwell in the past either. There is no right way to mourn these things, and really, only you know if you're in the right place with it or not. Not that EDD anniversaries or other milestones are fun.

You're not losing it. The ebb and flow are part of the coping.

ooo

could not have said it any better.  Big hugs V.  I would almost be in my 3rd tri too.  these things hit us at strange times but it does not mean we are crazy, just human.  

OCW2010

I'm sorry V.  I don't think you're crazy, btw.  On all the posts I've seen you on, you always sound very put together, if that means anything.  I agree with the others that ppl react in different ways to things, we're all human after all.  *hugs*

mdluv21

((hugs))  I think like the other ladies said, everyone deals with it differently.  Some days I forget how far along I would have been until I visit PAIF and see tickers of other ladies who were due around the same time.

I hope this IVF leads to your take home baby sweetie.

mikeandangie

Big (((hugs)))

DeputiesWife

::hugs::