Tyler for a girl?

IronyandNachos

PhoebeJones3:

mj.reilly:

IronyandNachos:

PhoebeJones3:

TysMomPlusOne:

PhoebeJones3:

Did you know that Lindsey and Hilary used to be strictly for boys?

It does not sound like you really wanted opinions, just validation on your choice, if your mind is made up then great but don't expect everyone to agree and don't be pissed if you get weird looks.

 As I said earlier, I welcome the opinions. And it can be said as simply as "I do not like Tyler as a girls name."

What I do not appreciate is obnoxious remarks. I don't think anyone appreciates those, but apparently plenty of people on here enjoy giving them.  

That doesn't express how awful and gross it is... I think a lot of people appreciate realistic feedback.

This (bolded). That is why I stay on this board. People are honest and don't sugar coat their opinions like family, friends, and people you see on the street (they just think it).

Yes, it is brutal sometimes. And yes, some people can be rude. But how do you expect your child to deal with the bad/different reactions when you (not directed quite at you OP) can't deal with them? You can't pick and choose how people respond.

No I can't pick and choose how people respond, but I choose to respond as a decent human being. A comment earlier saying that the name made her gag is completely un-called for, and not necessary at all. If someone were brutally honest about how ugly your child/baby is I'm sure most mothers would want to punch  that person in the face. And I also think most would say this was uncalled for. 

I am an adult and I expect people to act like adults. I do not expect things to be sugar coated, but I also DO expect just a simple response, positive, or negative. An honest answer can be simple, and without added 'jabs'. Its not the negativity that is disgusting, its the obnoxious comments that follow. Most people who are active participants in being "brutally honest" enjoy the brutality more than the honesty.  

You're comparing gaging at a name to calling a child ugly?

Tator86

I love this post

I'm a 22 year old girl, named Tyler. I love my name and always have. I have not once had a problem with people thinking I was a guy except with my name on paper, in which case I've almost always used my feminine middle name on things that have the option (school was important for teachers to know to expect me, and get me a pink nametag).

I even worked in a call center for some time and was never questioned beyond, "Really?"

It fits me, and the name really does set me apart from the Kelseys and Brittanys. I think if you want to use the name, more power to you! My mom had a ton of pressure to name me Taylor, and I am glad she didn't. The name is wonderful, and people generally spend about one second comprehending it and move on.. they don't get stuck on it, ever.

Also, my fiance loves my name and has never questioned it.. it's just a non issue once a child actually belongs to the name. This post cracks me up.. The name is wonderful. I've met two others in my life and they've agreed.

 

PhoebeJones3

IronyandNachos:

PhoebeJones3:

mj.reilly:

IronyandNachos:

PhoebeJones3:

TysMomPlusOne:

PhoebeJones3:

Did you know that Lindsey and Hilary used to be strictly for boys?

It does not sound like you really wanted opinions, just validation on your choice, if your mind is made up then great but don't expect everyone to agree and don't be pissed if you get weird looks.

 As I said earlier, I welcome the opinions. And it can be said as simply as "I do not like Tyler as a girls name."

What I do not appreciate is obnoxious remarks. I don't think anyone appreciates those, but apparently plenty of people on here enjoy giving them.  

That doesn't express how awful and gross it is... I think a lot of people appreciate realistic feedback.

This (bolded). That is why I stay on this board. People are honest and don't sugar coat their opinions like family, friends, and people you see on the street (they just think it).

Yes, it is brutal sometimes. And yes, some people can be rude. But how do you expect your child to deal with the bad/different reactions when you (not directed quite at you OP) can't deal with them? You can't pick and choose how people respond.

No I can't pick and choose how people respond, but I choose to respond as a decent human being. A comment earlier saying that the name made her gag is completely un-called for, and not necessary at all. If someone were brutally honest about how ugly your child/baby is I'm sure most mothers would want to punch  that person in the face. And I also think most would say this was uncalled for. 

I am an adult and I expect people to act like adults. I do not expect things to be sugar coated, but I also DO expect just a simple response, positive, or negative. An honest answer can be simple, and without added 'jabs'. Its not the negativity that is disgusting, its the obnoxious comments that follow. Most people who are active participants in being "brutally honest" enjoy the brutality more than the honesty.  

You're comparing gaging at a name to calling a child ugly?

I'm comparing being brutally honest about a subject including a child. To another scenario of being brutally honest about a subject including a child.

Usually it takes the 'extreme' cases to actually get the point across.  

IronyandNachos

Tator86:

I love this post

I'm a 22 year old girl, named Tyler. I love my name and always have. I have not once had a problem with people thinking I was a guy except with my name on paper, in which case I've almost always used my feminine middle name on things that have the option (school was important for teachers to know to expect me, and get me a pink nametag).

I even worked in a call center for some time and was never questioned beyond, "Really?"

It fits me, and the name really does set me apart from the Kelseys and Brittanys. I think if you want to use the name, more power to you! My mom had a ton of pressure to name me Taylor, and I am glad she didn't. The name is wonderful, and people generally spend about one second comprehending it and move on.. they don't get stuck on it, ever.

Also, my fiance loves my name and has never questioned it.. it's just a non issue once a child actually belongs to the name. This post cracks me up.. The name is wonderful. I've met two others in my life and they've agreed.

 

Do you really need an AE for this thread?

SnoopyLuv

Tator86:

I love this post

I'm a 22 year old girl, named Tyler. I love my name and always have. I have not once had a problem with people thinking I was a guy except with my name on paper, in which case I've almost always used my feminine middle name on things that have the option (school was important for teachers to know to expect me, and get me a pink nametag).

I even worked in a call center for some time and was never questioned beyond, "Really?"

It fits me, and the name really does set me apart from the Kelseys and Brittanys. I think if you want to use the name, more power to you! My mom had a ton of pressure to name me Taylor, and I am glad she didn't. The name is wonderful, and people generally spend about one second comprehending it and move on.. they don't get stuck on it, ever.

Also, my fiance loves my name and has never questioned it.. it's just a non issue once a child actually belongs to the name. This post cracks me up.. The name is wonderful. I've met two others in my life and they've agreed.

 

This is your first post, and you joined today.  Enough said.

I agree that it just sets her up for confusion later in life. She will be getting a lot of strange looks when she introduced herself as Tyler and on job applications no one will know if she's a boy or a girl. I just dont understand the appeal of unisex or boy names for girls.

And OP, you are taking this way too personally. But know that when you havea playdate a year from now people will talk about you behind your backs about you giving your child a boys name. It happened in my playgroup with a little girl named Sawyer.

It's not cute and it makes me think you're a little stupid that you don't see the obvious issues she will encounter.

Tator86

PM me your email addy, I'll send you a copy of my SSN. Then you can call me an AE

My old name contained my last name, and I wasn't about to put all this info on the internet.

PhoebeJones3

IronyandNachos:

Tator86:

I love this post

I'm a 22 year old girl, named Tyler. I love my name and always have. I have not once had a problem with people thinking I was a guy except with my name on paper, in which case I've almost always used my feminine middle name on things that have the option (school was important for teachers to know to expect me, and get me a pink nametag).

I even worked in a call center for some time and was never questioned beyond, "Really?"

It fits me, and the name really does set me apart from the Kelseys and Brittanys. I think if you want to use the name, more power to you! My mom had a ton of pressure to name me Taylor, and I am glad she didn't. The name is wonderful, and people generally spend about one second comprehending it and move on.. they don't get stuck on it, ever.

Also, my fiance loves my name and has never questioned it.. it's just a non issue once a child actually belongs to the name. This post cracks me up.. The name is wonderful. I've met two others in my life and they've agreed.

 

Do you really need an AE for this thread?

An AE?

Um, I have no idea what that means, but if you are for a second implying that I am needing a backup, or that I have enlisted 'help' from someone, you have bigger problems than what I care to deal with.

SnoopyLuv

And a child's looks/disabilities cannot be helped. Giving them a dumbass name can.

HTH!!!

Tator86

OK while you are all busy trying to tear into the OP, I will say I have never had any problems with job apps or school. In fact, I prefer leaving my middle name off of job apps because people assume I'm male and I feel like I get more interviews because of it.

 

OP- PM me if you'd like, but otherwise I love my name and don't feel like she would have any problems later.. she wouldn't.

RocknHoney

SnoopyLuv:

And a child's looks/disabilities cannot be helped. Giving them a dumbass name can.

HTH!!!

HannahO28

Man, I sure missed a whopper of a thread tonight. I'm calling DD in three...two...one...

SnoopyLuv

HannahO28:

Man, I sure missed a whopper of a thread tonight. I'm calling DD in three...two...one...

I'll save the page just in case. THis is awesome!

SnoopyLuv

What's interesting to me is that Tyler isn't mentioned in this thread:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/51886355.aspx

And also I remember you from the AP board. You wanted us all to tell you not to vaccinate and that was OK. You are for sure a smart one.

IronyandNachos

AE = alter ego

I'm implying that you (the OP) is also tator

Nanna

Tyler for a girl is terrible.  You asked for opinions, you got them.  You don't get to dictate the level of honesty someone uses.  NMS is not the same as someone LITERALLY feeling ill about a name.  Those are two very different reactions and opinions.  Name your child whatever you want, but I can GUARANTEE you that even if people smile politely and say "oh, what a nice name" when they meet your daughter, inside the vast majority of them will be thinking the exact same things these posters have taken the time to share with you.  

Me?  If I met your daughter with that name, I'd internally roll my eyes at her parent's terrible pick of a name and wonder if truly they had always just wanted a boy.  That's the truth.

PhoebeJones3

SnoopyLuv:

What's interesting to me is that Tyler isn't mentioned in this thread:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/51886355.aspx

And also I remember you from the AP board. You wanted us all to tell you not to vaccinate and that was OK. You are for sure a smart one.

If you read my post it clearly stated that I was wanting to vaccinate on an alternate schedule, which the end result will be a fully vaccinated child.

And FYI - I just recently came up with using Tyler as a girls name.  

HannahO28

Nanna:

Tyler for a girl is terrible.  You asked for opinions, you got them.  You don't get to dictate the level of honesty someone uses.  NMS is not the same as someone LITERALLY feeling ill about a name.  Those are two very different reactions and opinions.  Name your child whatever you want, but I can GUARANTEE you that even if people smile politely and say "oh, what a nice name" when they meet your daughter, inside the vast majority of them will be thinking the exact same things these posters have taken the time to share with you.  

Me?  If I met your daughter with that name, I'd internally roll my eyes at her parent's terrible pick of a name and wonder if truly they had always just wanted a boy.  That's the truth.

NANNA! NANNA! NANNA!  

Very well said. NMS and vomit-worthy are too very different things, OP. The name Declan is NMS. But Tyler for a girl makes me a little bit sad for your daughter. To put NMS and vomit-worthy on the same level does a disservice to names that are very nice, just not my taste.  

Manderlin923

I think it you sound like you are trying waaaaaaay too hard to be cool and edgy. I also think that Tyler Rose sounds like Tyler Ose. Bad all around.

You like the name so much why don't you change your name?

ETA- and wow OP, lol...you must be best buds with the block button by now, eh?

constella

• This is a real world scenario I ran into involving a woman named Tyler.
• 
  
• ::ring ring::
• Woman: Hello?
• Me: "Hi. Can I speak to Mr. Smith?"
• Woman: "Sure, one moment."
• ::man gets on the line::
• Customer: "Hello?"
• Me: "Hi, this is Me from X Company. I'm calling about your product."
• Customer: "I don't know what you're talking about."
• Me: "Your product you ordered?"
• Customer: "I'm pretty sure I didn't order anything from you."
• Me: "Is this Tyler Smith?"
• Customer: "Nope. That's my wife. Hang on." 
• ::Husband yells for wife and she gets on the phone::

After hanging up phone

Me: "Hey co-worker, this woman's name was Tyler."

CW: "Like, the boy name?"

Me: "Yeah, I've never heard that before."

CW: "Tyler? It sounds like her mom was a little loopy after birth and forgot a letter in Taylor." 

::Office erupted in laughter::

End. 

braveangel2

Sounds like an Aerosmith song.

The occupational name, Tyler (tile layer) is not all that great a name for me, but on a girl its just too close to Taylor/trailer. Rose is lovely, but I'd keep looking for a first name. Rose doesn't make it more feminine; it just takes the guesswork out of people reading her forms - but only those that have first and middle name like the doctors office. Email is a whole 'nother.

braveangel2

PhoebeJones3:

Did you know that Lindsey and Hilary used to be strictly for boys?

You mean Lindsay? Yeah, they were boys names once until girls took them over permanantly. Then people tried to differentiate between the two sexes by changing the spelling. Lindsey and Hillary.

Jack was also a popular girls name in the late 20s. But it's still a boys name today. Some make it past the fad and others don't. I don't think that should be the sole determining factor in your decision to make others confused about the sex of your child.

aubreysmom1

I personally love it for a girl I even know a girl named Tyler...and she is adorable! If you like it, use it. Don't worry about other's opinions...but if you ask for feedback, that's what you're going to get here. Honest opinions.

RaeJ004

jonnygurl76:

TysMomPlusOne:

As the mother of a son named Tyler this post makes me a little sad and a little annoyed. The fact that someone said Tyler is a unisex name annoys me. It is not. Could it become one? Possibly, but to say it is already just is not true. A girl named Tyler is not unheard of, there were girls named Tyler when I named my son that and I was aware of that fact. However it was the 20th most popular name for boys in my province the year I chose it vs. the 10 girls given the name. My son and I met a little girl Tyler (she was about a year younger then my son), he thought it was a little weird that a girl had his name, he was not bothered by it. Tyler Rose does sound cute, I'll give you that, but is that what she will go by? To me it is a boy's name, but it is your daughter so do as you please (of course), but also take a look at some of the other names getting a positive response on a phone forum, I have seem some and they are really jacked up.

several name websites would prove you wrong.  it is a unisex name and just because your son is named Tyler doesn't change this fact. 

evaazalea

RaeJ004:

jonnygurl76:

TysMomPlusOne:

As the mother of a son named Tyler this post makes me a little sad and a little annoyed. The fact that someone said Tyler is a unisex name annoys me. It is not. Could it become one? Possibly, but to say it is already just is not true. A girl named Tyler is not unheard of, there were girls named Tyler when I named my son that and I was aware of that fact. However it was the 20th most popular name for boys in my province the year I chose it vs. the 10 girls given the name. My son and I met a little girl Tyler (she was about a year younger then my son), he thought it was a little weird that a girl had his name, he was not bothered by it. Tyler Rose does sound cute, I'll give you that, but is that what she will go by? To me it is a boy's name, but it is your daughter so do as you please (of course), but also take a look at some of the other names getting a positive response on a phone forum, I have seem some and they are really jacked up.

several name websites would prove you wrong.  it is a unisex name and just because your son is named Tyler doesn't change this fact. 

You obviously did not read through the whole thing, you may agree that Tyler is a unisex name but the way I see it, if it is ranked high for a boy and not ranked at all for a girl... it's a boy name. Unless you figure all names are unisex.

kim1989

I like the name... for a boy

RaeJ004

TysMomPlusOne:

RaeJ004:

jonnygurl76:

TysMomPlusOne:

As the mother of a son named Tyler this post makes me a little sad and a little annoyed. The fact that someone said Tyler is a unisex name annoys me. It is not. Could it become one? Possibly, but to say it is already just is not true. A girl named Tyler is not unheard of, there were girls named Tyler when I named my son that and I was aware of that fact. However it was the 20th most popular name for boys in my province the year I chose it vs. the 10 girls given the name. My son and I met a little girl Tyler (she was about a year younger then my son), he thought it was a little weird that a girl had his name, he was not bothered by it. Tyler Rose does sound cute, I'll give you that, but is that what she will go by? To me it is a boy's name, but it is your daughter so do as you please (of course), but also take a look at some of the other names getting a positive response on a phone forum, I have seem some and they are really jacked up.

several name websites would prove you wrong.  it is a unisex name and just because your son is named Tyler doesn't change this fact. 

You obviously did not read through the whole thing, you may agree that Tyler is a unisex name but the way I see it, if it is ranked high for a boy and not ranked at all for a girl... it's a boy name. Unless you figure all names are unisex.

You must not read your posts before you hit that "Post" button.  Taylor (the unisex name everyone keeps coming back to) is ranked much higher for a girl... is it now only a girl's name??

chele129

It's NMS but the doctor I work with has a daughter named Tyler Marie