Anyone thinking of having baby #3?

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I can't even believe that I am thinking about this, because I thought we were done for sure. Now that my littlest is over 2 I can't help but feel like I want one more. My practical side says no, but my heart keep saying yes. I was just wondering if anyone has 3 LOs or is thinking about going from 2 to 3 also. Any advice from mom's of 3 before we take the leap!TIA! 

Pesky

Thought is about all we've done.  We originally wanted 3 but decided quickly on 2, which I think suits our family and our personalities.  Plus, I remember distinctly holding a newborn DS at home and thinking our family was complete.  Didn't hurt that in our personal poll of friends, family and random strangers, I would say easily 80% of parents of 3+ (usually just 3) advised us to stop at 2.

Peppernut

Our initial plan is/was three, but we'll see how we feel a year after #2 arrives.  I'm a "listen to your heart" kind of girl, and if your family doesn't feel complete yet I'd go for it.  My mom had one set of three and then one set of two 12 years after that, she said the main issue with the set of three was the politics.  Two of the kids would often gang up on the third.  I dunno, though, my sister and I were the set of two and we were at each other's throats most of the time.

Sorry for the scattered response! 

gimmietimmies

Two didn't feel right for us. We had started off wanting only two, but I'm like Peppernut, I like to go with my gut. We had said we were done at four and it felt right. S had other ideas so now we're at five. Totally and completely done. I can say for sure that you'll know what it feels like when you've "completed" your family.

I also only keep the discussion between DH and I. A lot of people throw their two cents in (family and friends) and think they know what's best and offer their opinion, good, bad, or ugly. I woud rather we made a decision that we could live with having no regrets.

Good luck with your decision, it's not an easy one.

dkays

You will know what is right for your family.  Going from 1 to 2 was a lot harder for me than 2 to 3.  I was also in my late 20's when this happened.  We thought our family was complete with 3 but  we were blessed with a very pleasant surprise 12 years later.  We are definitely complete with 4.   

ScoobyM

I have been thinking about it almost since Noah was born!  I am the oldest of 3, and there is definitely a part of me that feels like I want one more.  My DH is one of 2 and I'm pretty sure he feels done, but he will not come out and say so, possibly because he knows I'm not certain and he isn't ready to go through that discussion.  I know that I need to give it more time as Noah is only 6 months old and I wouldn't consider TTC till he is at least a year, plus I don't trust my own judgement right now anyway - my thoughts about it change constantly depending upon how easy or difficult the day has been juggling the two I have.  But I do feel a bit of time pressure since I will turn 40 this year and I am not sure how comfortable I am with the increased risk of Downs, etc. - so if I do finally decide I want to have another, I don't want to wait very long.

Honestly - my heart is pretty much saying I want another baby, but my brain is saying that we have a boy and girl, the added financial burden will have significant impact on our lives, and we are not getting any younger to be chasing after another little one...and I can't quite decide which one to listen to.

rsd12

For me - I just did not feel like our family was complete ; ) & I never wanted to regret in 10 years or so not having a third child.  I want my kids to have more than my husband & I as far as family.  We each only have 1 sibling.  I would have another if I could! 

I could not imagine our life without the baby.  I do feel like our family is perfect.  I found it so much easier in the beginning (until he started walking) - but this has more to do with personality - my middle son is a momma's boy & my third son is very independent.  My favorite aspect is that I am really really enjoying him more than I ever thought I would. 

Sassystace

I'm always thinking about it but haven't decided.  I'm not TTC (on BC) but am always 'hoping' that maybe I will be accidentally pg.  One day I am sure I want another, the next I think things are perfect as they are.  Pregnancy and that first year are so tough but when I look back are so worth it. I figure that I will wait until DS is 2 or 2.5 yrs old and then decide what feels right.  DH is happy with two kids but then he was happy with one and can be swayed pretty easily (I think). 

LyndaCarter

ScoobyM:

Honestly - my heart is pretty much saying I want another baby, but my brain is saying that we have a boy and girl, the added financial burden will have significant impact on our lives, and we are not getting any younger to be chasing after another little one...and I can't quite decide which one to listen to.

 

This exactly. We're going with Mirena because I'm not 100% done even though DH keeps saying he is.

broncoalum97

Definately want #3, we are thinking next yr probably.  DH is the middle of 3 kids.  I am an only child, so that's why I want 3, & DH is totally on board with it.

gotchagomo

(1) No way we could swing it financially. (2) I'm very content with the two I have. (3) There is absolutely no way I could have the patience and stamina to go through those early baby/toddler months again. (4) ALL my friends with 3+ kids have strongly advised to stop at 2 (several even told us 1 was all they wished they had). I even spoke with my OB/GYN yesterday about the NovaSure procedure since I am so sure we are stopping at 2. To each their own, though. Good luck with whatever you decide.