Serious D&C anxiety

AmberB75 · April 2011

So I had my d&c yesterday and I think maybe it would have been a better decision for me to wait to miscarry naturally. I just can't stop worrying that I might have voided a healthy baby. The doctor said there was zero chance the baby would make it so that should be enough for me. But there had been some growth since the previous u/s - but still no heartbeat at nearly 8 1/2 weeks. Has anyone else had this worry after a d&c? Does it get better?

theworms · April 2011

i never had this worry but i needed to have D&C because my beta were still rising and the baby's heart had stopped beating.

you made the right choice and your Dr. was right. many people never m/c naturally and wind up needing a D&C.

((HUGS))

it just sucks

Edwina.McDunnough · April 2011

I think your feelings are completely understandable, but you did the right thing.

Big hugs.

kthappy76 · April 2011

I am so sorry you are going through this and now having these feelings of doubt. I hope you'll be able to find resolution that you did the right thing, which I think you did. I haven't had a D&C, but miscarried naturally and it's a horrific experience. The pain was debilitating and lasted for days. I think that having the procedure may help you physicallly recover sooner than waiting and then maybe still needing it anyway. The coming weeks and months will likely be very difficult for your mentally/emotionally, so I wish you all the very best. (((huge hugs)))

Melicakes · April 2011

BIG , BIG Hugs to you Amber

kekis · April 2011

What you are feeling is perfectly normal. You will question everything and attach a "what if" to every scenario imagineable. It hurts so bad and doesn't make sense. All of us that have experienced loss go through all or some of the same feelings. It's not fair & it sucks.

My first loss was a blighted ovum & I worried that maybe a baby could have grown eventually and I ruined its chances. I knew that what the doctor said and what the u/s showed was conclusive, but my heart was broken and I second-guessed myself after it was over. Within 24 to 48 hours of my D&C, I started having major panic attacks. My doctor prescribed me meds to get through it, and thankfully that worked for me.

Remember that you are experiencing massive stress and anxiety-related grief. Take time to cry, be angry, whatever emotion you have. This is not your normal, but you will get through it. It won't be easy, but you will. I hope the hurting eases faster than not.

vanessagorc · April 2011

theworms:

i never had this worry but i needed to have D&C because my beta were still rising and the baby's heart had stopped beating.

you made the right choice and your Dr. was right. many people never m/c naturally and wind up needing a D&C.

((HUGS))

it just sucks

Exactly this....i had mine at 8wks ish. If there is no heartbeat at that point, it's not viable. I'm so sorry.

patchen30 · April 2011

Edwina.McDunnough:

I think your feelings are completely understandable, but you did the right thing.

Big hugs.

This. ((BIG Hugs)).

DeputiesWife · April 2011

::hugs::

SweetDahlia · April 2011

Hugs hon. You made the right choice. My last baby kept growing but the heart beat kept getting slower. We even waited and it didn't help.

I hope you feel better soon about it.

matt'sbride · April 2011

I don't have any advice, but I'm so truly sorry that you had to go through this. (((hugs)))

AmberB75 · April 2011

Thanks everyone...your replies are already helping me find peace.

emca · April 2011

I have miscarried 7 times and only had one D&C. What you are feeling is completely normal, but having the D&C was the right thing to do. Miscarrying naturally sometimes takes a much longer time and I found that I was able to move on a little quicker with my D&C since it was long and drawn out. I am so sorry you are going through this. HUGS.

wewannababy · April 2011

Lots of hugs sweetie! Having feels of regret or feeling like you did something wrong by having the d&c rather than miscarrying naturally, is definitely normal. The what-if's are terrible, but you made the right decision. HUGS!