Would you be worried?- Long

NewlyWeds13

I am kind of freaking out... I travel internationally for my job and I am in Asia right now. 

My son is 9 months old and had been sick (a cold and then ear infection) about 2 weeks before I left.   He had been on antibiotics and was feeling fine when I left (his last dose of the 10 day course was the morning I left). 

Well-- just talked to my husband and I guess he started to feel sick again last night in the middle of the night and had a slight fever.   His cough has never entirely went away (had been very infrequent and still is).  He is eating normally and no nasal drippage this time (early in his cold, before the ear infection, had horrible running nose).   DS gave me the cold and I still also have a cough (only at night).

So... I am not flying home until 11 PM tomorrow Asia time, which means I will not be home in the states again until Friday morning.

Should I try to leave early AM tomorrow for this?

My husband says no, but I am really worried.  

Tell me if I am being overly emotional because I am missing him and away or if you also think this might be more serious than just a long cold.

DH called the pedi and they said it sounded like this virus just is sticking around a little longer and that as long as he is eating fine and his temp does not go over 102, that he should be fine and does not have to come in.

TIA!!

emilydholmes1

Oh that's tough. I am sure it is really hard to be so far away from your LO especially in a different continent. I don't think you are overrreacting becasue I am sure I would be upset too. But realistically, can you leave earlier without messing up ticket price and your job responsibilities? If you could, then I would but if not, like you said- the virus is probably just sticking around longer and he would be fine soon.

topbirdsix

I think you keep your flights as scheduled and try to get as much sleep/rest as you can so that you are well when you return. Maybe even take that airborne stuff.

We have been in the opposite boat this week where H has been in Europe on business and I have been sick, lingering cough and all. I cannot wait for him to get home so I can sleep to get better.

NewlyWeds13

To answer the question... it would be difficult for my job if I left as I am scheduled to meet with several customers and a government agency tomorrow about a capital project investment, but obviously I could cancel.   The cost is not an issue. 

I just don't want to be the boy that cried wolf and cancel all of this stuff, go home and then have everything be fine.  On the other hand... not sure I would ever forgive myself if I did not go home and it was more serious.

It is times like these that having the career I do and being a mother is so hard for me.  I feel like either way-- I am not going to be good at either one in this moment.

MotuCat

I would be worried no matter what if my LO was sick and I wasn't there.  I'm sure you miss him too and just want to get home.

If the pedi doesn't think it sounds serious then I would try and relax and just come home when you have planned.  Get some rest yourself as I'm sure your DH will need a break and you don't want to make yourself any worse.  I know this is all easier said than done so try and hang in there.

I'm sure your LO will be fine and I hope he feels better.

write2nicole

NewlyWeds13:

To answer the question... it would be difficult for my job if I left as I am scheduled to meet with several customers and a government agency tomorrow about a capital project investment, but obviously I could cancel.   The cost is not an issue. 

I just don't want to be the boy that cried wolf and cancel all of this stuff, go home and then have everything be fine.  On the other hand... not sure I would ever forgive myself if I did not go home and it was more serious.

It is times like these that having the career I do and being a mother is so hard for me.  I feel like either way-- I am not going to be good at either one in this moment.

I have to travel for work, too. I know it's so hard to be away from them, and nearly impossible when you know they're not perfectly happy. 

Given that (a) the pedi isn't concerned; and (b) it would be difficult for work if you cancelled tomorrow, I would stay. Think of it this way: there may very well come a time when you do need to cancel or leave early. You can only do that so many times before others start to view you as flaky and not committed to your job. Save the cancellation for the time when you really need it.

Try not to worry too much, and I hope your little one feels better soon.

kerribear1717

It sounds like you're just missing LO a lot.  I'm sure your DH can handle things and it doesn't sound like there's any trouble breathing or eating or even fever (if I read right and didn't skim too fast).  I would keep your schedule.  I know it sucks not being there.  Tough it out just a little.  I'm sure your LO will be fine.

mrs.kapow

NewlyWeds13:

To answer the question... it would be difficult for my job if I left as I am scheduled to meet with several customers and a government agency tomorrow about a capital project investment, but obviously I could cancel.   The cost is not an issue. 

I just don't want to be the boy that cried wolf and cancel all of this stuff, go home and then have everything be fine.  On the other hand... not sure I would ever forgive myself if I did not go home and it was more serious.

It is times like these that having the career I do and being a mother is so hard for me.  I feel like either way-- I am not going to be good at either one in this moment.

I totally feel you.

That said, I would stay.  Your H is very capable of taking care of LO and it's only an extra day.  He's done what he can with the pediatrician and will stay on top of that.  It sucks, but you have to trust that your LO will be ok in the care of your H.