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Parenting after 35
need a little sunshine!
I'm not a "pregant over or parent after 35er" YET 
Hopefully soon though. However I am a Parent to an amazing 17 yr old daughter.
before ttc consistantly (over a year) I would never have thought I would be feeling my age- I always felt 28ish! This process has really made me take a real hard, reality based look at the facts- I'm in that statistical age range where fertility is lower and making a baby isn't quite as easy- so they say! I am currently undergoing acupucture after a few cycles of clomid then femara- a lap and hyst to remove a polyp and clean out a fallopian tube- planning on doing and IUI this summer!
Can you please help me see the silver lining? You all are my age and are pregnant and or parents. 
how did the process play out for you? Even if It was easy breezy I want to know! I know there is hope, but feeling a little deflated a the moment!
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Re: need a little sunshine!
I have been lucky and didn't have too much trouble conceiving, so I'm no help.
Just yesterday, some good friends of ours had a beautiful baby girl after several years of trying and two losses along the way. It can definitely happen for you!
I was lucky and got pregnant even without trying but my best friend tried for three years. She has a beautiful daughter! Another friend had three miscarriages and she never thought she was going to carry to term. She now has two wonderful boys.
It can happen!
Scientifically, the odds do go down over time. But for every woman who can't get pregnant, there's another that can. I'm a big believer in the power of positive thinking and lots of prayer.
I had one very early miscarriage in 2007 when I was 40 and a got pregnant the old fashioned way in 2009. I was told there was a 1 in 5 chance that my baby would have Downs. He's perfectly fine. Yes, I feel very blessed.
Good luck.
Easy breezy in my case. My 35th birthday was looming so I told DH, then FI, it was time to make a baby. Our first month trying, a few days before my birthday, we conceived DS.
Good luck!
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What is your age? I'm 40 and I conceived at 38 and delivered one month after my 39th birthday. I didn't need any medical assistance to conceive but it did take me a little over a year to get pregnant. And I don't mean having sex whenever, I mean at least 11 months of painstakingly charting my body temperatures, using OPK kits, taking herbs, vitamins, cutting back on caffeine and alcohol, using the fertility monitor, etc, etc. So it wasn't "easy" to get pregnant, but at least I finally got pg naturally. After 6 months of trying I got bloodwork and an HSG (which sucked!), and DH got a sperm analysis.
So all in all, TTC wasn't that fun for us. I think my DH may be scarred for life b/c sex isn't what is used to be. I don't know if it's b/c we're both so tired from work and parenting duties, or TTC sex just ruined the experience for us. Hopefully we'll make it through and regain our sex lives.
It's definitely harder to conceive in your late 30s and early 40s, but not impossible. I'm thinking of baby #2 as well, and I'm not sure I'm ready for the emotional rollercoaster of seeing that BFN every month. But it can happen, there's always hope, so keep trying!
Yes, this too. The month we got pregnant I swear I didn't give a crap anymore, and it happened! I've heard the same thing from a couple of friends. I think stress plays a part in it. You definitely need to be relaxed. I think alcohol may be our friend in this scenario, lol!