when were you ready for a second?

aggieoj

Not when were you actively TTC for a second baby but when did you  just itch?

HSartteach

When L started to become more independent--last summer--around 1 year old.

bluestreet

When mommy amnesia started kicking in (around 18 months) and I started forgetting how incredibly hard the first year was. Alas, the amnesia is wearing off as my due date approaches.

userdeleted

I'm still not ready for my second

Noisemaker

bluestreet:

When mommy amnesia started kicking in (around 18 months) and I started forgetting how incredibly hard the first year was. Alas, the amnesia is wearing off as my due date approaches.

Pretty much this.  Even then, it took me another 6 months or so to be really ready to pull the trigger.  

molliedb

i'm clearly the WRONG person to ask since i've been pregnant before or immediately following each child's first birthday.  after our 1st i was totally game for another one soon (like maybe 8 months?), but we felt it was within reason so we just went with it and i got pregnant right after she turned 1.  (i dont ovulate until i wean, so that dictated a lot for us)

the 2nd time (third baby) we were JUST getting used to the idea of maybe MAYBE going for a third eventually when i found out i was already 7 weeks pregnant.  it was scary and not in a good way   i think when it comes to the 2nd you can throw caution to the wind a bit.  when it comes to the third- brace yourself for a life changer.  lol.

balihaigirl

we started to get the itch when L was 18m, we started ttc last month (L was 23m).

userdeleted

molliedb:

i think when it comes to the 2nd you can throw caution to the wind a bit.  when it comes to the third- brace yourself for a life changer.  lol.

don't tell my husband that, lol!

MrsBeckO

Bahaha.
In our parent-teacher conference today, dd's teacher joked that it's time for us to give dd a baby sibling because she's so motherly/nurturing. DH and I both replied "not a chance" at the same exact time. We're a LONG way from ready to even DISCUSS the next (and final) one.

brideonjuly8

I knew I was ready when the thought of DS not being the baby anymore excited me and didn't make me sad.  It happened around when I thought it would- when DS was 18 months old, so that's when we started trying again.  That was a year ago next month.  Wow. 

JayandJack

The thought of two terrifies the ever loving snikies out of me so I'm obviously not ready .

ali-1411

Not until Jakob was 5 years old and my cousin got pregnant.  That was the first time ever I got baby fever.

Emer

Rach03k:

I'm still not ready for my second

Teehee  

We started talking about it when #1 was about 6 months old and started trying 2 months later.  After #2, it wasn't until he turned 2 that we were ready to seriously consider a 3rd. 

A&Jmom

I started wanting a second around 18 months.  I did not convince DH until DD was just over 2 years old. 

PrincessBrideSarah

I'm hoping I'll feel ready by the time #2 arrives.

amyliisa

I remember being in the waiting room at my dr's office for my 6wk pp checkup and wishing I was pregnant again, but not actually wishing for another newborn yet. I think when ds was about 5mo old I told dh I knew why people kept having kids - because they change and grow so fast and that's when I really wanted another baby. But we didn't start trying again until ds was about 17mo. And now he's 33 months, and we're still trying!

BLONDIE6FT

if we had a choice, i think we may have waited a little longer? i don't know. but i'm older and we had multiple miscarriages and complications with the first, that we didn't want to chance waiting.  now that she is 18 months and more independent, i think i would have started trying now.

rssnlvr

Just shy of her first birthday. And I wouldn't say it was an itch so much as a "doesn't scare the crap out of me."

Taytee

Ours was a calculated decision based on childcare needs and sleep . I wanted Abby to be "older than 2" when baby #2 was born. If I had not miscarried, Abby would have been 2y 3m. But she was 2.5 when Emily was born and it ended up working out for the best. Even now I feel as though they're "perfectly" spaced.

We also didn't wait too long as I had lost a couple pregnancies and I knew timing may not be all up to us. I didn't want our kids to be 5 years apart like DH and his sister. They're not close at all.

Duckie07

We got hit with baby fever about 3-4 months before DD's second birthday.  Before that neither one of us were ready to even think about a second child.  We weren't ready to start trying until about a month before she turned two.

bobcatsteph

I was ready when DD was 4 months old, then I snapped out of it.

I really haven't even been allowing myself to go there and start thinking about it because it's not financially possible for us to have another one right now. I've had baby fever bad for the past few months, but we're not going to be able to have another one until one of us gets a raise (and that's not going to happen any time soon..we're just hoping to keep our jobs at this point) or DD starts school.

So, instead of being jealous of everyone having babies or TTC around me (or so it seems), I'm focusing on being healthier and enjoying my time with the family I have.

Chandley

Rach03k:

I'm still not ready for my second

 

ditto!

jml5q

i never really got an "itch" for a second or baby fever. we knew that we wanted at least 2 kids and we knew we wanted them about 2 years school wise apart, so when dd was 1.5 it was time to start trying to get in our window of the kids being 2 years apart in school.

DH was probably ready when DD was 9 months old. me, not so much! I'm still not sure if i'm ready!

SaraLouiseBride08

Hmmm ... about a month ago? DH makes sure everyday I take my birth control My mother told me 2 days ago that I had it too easy, and I'm going to end up with 10 kids. Unfortunately, we can't afford that. I'm guessing it will probably be a year from right now when we start trying again. I might have the itch, but DH is a little more practical than me and knows we should wait. Ideally, I'd like them to be about 2 years apart, but not more than 3.

And yes, I know number 2 is going to be a holy terror just as payback for number 1 being such an angel.

Mrs.Froggianna

jml5q:

i never really got an "itch" for a second or baby fever. we knew that we wanted at least 2 kids and we knew we wanted them about 2 years school wise apart, so when dd was 1.5 it was time to start trying to get in our window of the kids being 2 years apart in school.

DH was probably ready when DD was 9 months old. me, not so much! I'm still not sure if i'm ready!

This. Although looking at Luke's NB photos sure made me miss how snuggly he was back then! Right now the thought of a 2nd doesn't give me a panic attack, which is about as close as I'll get to having the fever. Unless of course someone can guarantee that #2 will sleep well. If I could get that assurance my attitude might change

Fa1ryG0dm0ther

Rach03k:

I'm still not ready for my second

This is totally me.  We knew we wanted 2, but I knew I wouldn't go through it again if it were planned.  I love babies, but the thought of the pregnancy and all of the difficult elements in the early days made me cringe.  We did want another, and we wanted them 3-5 years apart, but we weren't being preventative after having our 1st.  Surprise - 4.5 years later we had twins.  I'm done.  I won't ever have "the itch" again.

ndluvsrk

With #1, I started feeling the itch at about 8 or 9 months, but we were planning for about 2 or 2.5 years apart. We weren't quite ttc when bfp #2 came along, but he was a very happy, welcome surprise.

I started getting the itch for #3 right before #2's 2nd birthday. And I have it BAAAAD, as any of my friends will tell you. I can't stop talking about it. But, financially it's not feasible right now.

mlf625

About a month after #2 arrived.    I got pregnant with DD when DS was about 8 months old and we were definitely not ready at that point, but now I can't imagine life any other way.

And now I'm starting to feel like we *should* TTC #3 in the next 12 months if we're going to do it at all.  I know we're not "ready" but I also know if DD gets to be 3 I'm not going to want to go back to the baby stage. 

NoVA-grl

Good question!  I'm still not so sure that I'm ready!  But, I'm not getting any younger, and we always knew we wanted 2, maybe 3 kiddos and we wanted them 'close' in age.  I'll admit it was nice after I stopped BF'ing and I could get my body back and enjoy it for a bit.  DH was definitely ready before C had turned one, but we decided we would start trying after his first bday.

MrsMillerTime

MrsBeckO:

Bahaha.
In our parent-teacher conference today, dd's teacher joked that it's time for us to give dd a baby sibling because she's so motherly/nurturing. DH and I both replied "not a chance" at the same exact time. We're a LONG way from ready to even DISCUSS the next (and final) one.

I already told you that you are welcome to borrow my ute.  Call me.  Let's make it happen.