Would a nurse lie to me?

laxjules

My LO is 3 weeks old now and I cannot stop thinking about something that happened in the hospital.

During on of our nights 4 hours had gone by without the nursery bringing me LO to BF (they don't allow babies to stay in the rooms overnight) so I called to see if he was awake and they said he had just fallen asleep again and they'd bring him at next feeding time. Well another 3 hours went by and he still hadn't come so I called again and the nurse told me he had just woken up and they'd bring him to me shortly. When she got there she told me she was glad I was awake because he didn't like the bottle. WHAT! Apparently overnight when the nurse brought him to me I told her I was too tired and to just give him a bottle! But I don't remember ANY of that happening at all even though she said we talked for a few minutes. I was extremely upset at the fact that I would send him away like that and felt horrible about it. Breastfeeding him was extremely important to me and I worked hard to make it work even though I had complications after birth.

After she left DH and I were talking about it and found it extremely weird that I can remember every single time they came to check my vitals which was a lot because I was getting a blood transfusion but can't remember this one time. DH is an extremely light sleeper and woke up every time the nurses came but he doesn't remember either. 

I know giving birth is a tiring process and I was exhausted but do you think it's possible for me to completely forget the conversation I had with her? Is it possible they made a mistake and didn't want to own up to it? Or am I just crazy?

1Mrs.Jones

After my experience in L&D, I have a HUGE respect for nurses and the job that they do...

But yes, I'm sure some nurses lie. They are people. Some people lie.

Or maybe the nurse is just thinking of the wrong person? Or.. (and I HOPE this is not the case) ... could someone have brought your LO to the wrong room, and someone else said "no, I'm too tired to breast feed, give him the bottle"? In that case, at least they said no.

They lied to me. When I was in triage, they told me they wanted me to walk for an hour because they weren't sure if it was really labor- but DH was in the hallway (he had gone to get something from the car) and he heard them saying that it was definitely labor but they didn't have any rooms open so they were going to have me walk to give me something to do until they got a room.

Also- "one more push" is usually a lie!!!

Jokes aside, I'm sorry this happened! It's hard to experience human error coming into play during such an important time with your new precious child.

March2011Mama

I think the pp pretty much said it all, but I just wanted to add that I am so surprised your hospital still has a nursery and that your LO was not allowed in your room at night! Where I live hospitals no longer have nurseries and all babies stay with their parents at all times.

CutieBean79

Maybe she mixed you up with another mom? I was exhausted and vaguely remembered some things, but never did I completely not recall something. Pkus, it is odd that your DH wouldnt remember either. I don't think you are crazy!

holly321

After issues I had with some of my nurses, I could see it. One of my nurses argued with my ob about whether my water broke, then when I woke from my section, told me dd was preterm.

beeunit

I could definitely see that happening.  That's terrible if that's the case.  And if it turns out you did tell them to just give him a bottle so you could rest..really, that's okay too.  

mrsbmw09

It's possible that she lied. I agree with a lot of what pp said. I too am shocked that LO wasn't allowed to stay in your room overnight! Every hospital around me either doesn't have a nursery or if they do they still encourage you to keep the baby in your room all the time.

My hospital did have a nursery and they mixed up a blood test for DD a few times and had to stick her more. She also had to be on the bililights for 24 hours and one of the nurses got onto me for taking her off the lights to nurse too often and for too long. She said if I couldn't make her wait at least 2.5 hours between feedings and only let her nurse for 20 minutes then I had to give her a bottle. She also criticized me because my milk hadn't come in yet and said that without formula she wouldn't be able to come home. So she forced me into giving DD a bottle and I was crying the whole time. Needless to say I complained and DD didn't get another bottle.

green bean

Hmmm yeah iam pretty sure a nurse lied to me as well on my first night there I had lo at 9:09pm they took him to the nursery to do some tests and give him a bath and said they would bring him back at 11 I feel asleep ans woke up he wasent there. So I called and they broght him in right away bit the nurse said she tried to bring him in but couldent wake me or dh up. I find that a little hard to belive. Sorry it happend to you but hopfully your lo is nursing well .