Have 4 month old, and I want another baby soon!

Julias Table

If we are going to plan #2, is there a better time to do? Special things to consider about the timing?

Is it better to wait until LO is at least one year before we attempt #2?

 

DeeandBrad

My LOs are 14 1/2 months a part which has worked out wonderful for us.  DD was still little and very flexible when DS was born which made it easier to take care of a newborn and her.  I think if I would have waited and had DS when DD was closer to 2 it would have been much harder.  DD is a handful now and I don't think I would have the time to sit and hold a newborn because she would destroy the house.

Good luck in whatever you decide.  I don't think there is any perfect time to add another LO to your family.  Each time frame adds different challenges but the joy of watching my two LOs interact makes everything all worth it.

katie052409

I have a 4 month old and Im almost 10 weeks pregnant.  Although baby #2 was a huge surprise we are thrilled to have them so close together.  Before I got pregnany, my doctor told me to wait 6-9 months before trying again so that your body has time to recover, however, when we told them we were pregnant again they didnt seem too concerned.  Good luck.

kcisthebombdotcom

Theres no right time. If you wait until LO #1 is almost 2, you will have a child that is a little bit easier in terms of the fact that a 2 year old (or almost 2 year old) can communicate better, is ahead developmentally, etc. However, a 2 year old is a lot more challenging to care for than a 1 year old in terms of tantrums, saying no, may be clingier, etc.

If you have them closer together, it's easier because the baby is too young to truly be jealous and transitions easier than an older child. However, it's more difficult since a 1 year old doesnt communicate as well and is developmentally behind a 2 year old.

GL with whatever you decide!

JoannaJes

The only thing I thought was important was to get #1 to STTN before getting pregnant with #2. I didn't want to go through first trimester exhaustion while also getting up still at night.

DS started STTN (12 hours straight) at 10 months old. We got pregnant with DD when DS was 11 months old. They are 20 months apart.

moonfaerie

We started talking about #2 when DD1 was four months old. I got pg when she was almost 6 months old, and they are 14 months apart. It has worked out well for us so far. DD1 adjusted very well to the baby, and I think it was easier for me to be pg before she learned to walk.

monkeyqueen

Mine are 12 months and 4 days apart.   It's all good.   I like this age gap because Natalie was not walking or moving fast when Dominic came.     

But....I have to tell you that after my last was born and he was around 3 - 4 months old, I wanted to have another baby.   I think it was the hormones! 

kcisthebombdotcom

monkeyqueen:

Mine are 12 months and 4 days apart.   It's all good.   I like this age gap because Natalie was not walking or moving fast when Dominic came.     

But....I have to tell you that after my last was born and he was around 3 - 4 months old, I wanted to have another baby.   I think it was the hormones! 

I don't know about this. My DD is 3 months old (tomorrow) and I have NO desire to have another baby. lol!

Seriously though, I wouldnt have a baby solely because I had baby fever. We planned our kids to be close even before my first was even conceived. Think about the big picture and see if it would actually work for your family.

GL!

BrittKav

I got pregnant my BFP on DD's 6 month-birthday, and I love this age gap (14 mo). If I ever do 2u2 again, this is what I think I'll aim for.

moonfaerie

BrittKav:

I got pregnant my BFP on DD's 6 month-birthday, and I love this age gap (14 mo). If I ever do 2u2 again, this is what I think I'll aim for.

My BFP was on L's 6-month brthday too

elemar

JoannaJes:

The only thing I thought was important was to get #1 to STTN before getting pregnant with #2. I didn't want to go through first trimester exhaustion while also getting up still at night.

DS started STTN (12 hours straight) at 10 months old. We got pregnant with DD when DS was 11 months old. They are 20 months apart.

this exactly! 

roundtheworldgirl

You are going to get so many different answers.  Here's mine:

We did not plan DD2.  She was born exactly 12 months and 18 days after DD1.  I was terrified when I got pg again, but now that I've had them both for six months, I can honestly say I wouldn't change a thing.  I love how close they are in age.  Yes, it's hard, and I was totally miserable for the first four months or so.  But that time is fleeting compared to the lifetime of friendship my babies are going to enjoy.  It's just getting better and better.  

RNOHIO

DeeandBrad:

My LOs are 14 1/2 months a part which has worked out wonderful for us.  DD was still little and very flexible when DS was born which made it easier to take care of a newborn and her.  I think if I would have waited and had DS when DD was closer to 2 it would have been much harder.  DD is a handful now and I don't think I would have the time to sit and hold a newborn because she would destroy the house.

Good luck in whatever you decide.  I don't think there is any perfect time to add another LO to your family.  Each time frame adds different challenges but the joy of watching my two LOs interact makes everything all worth it.

 

I agree with this 100%.  My kids are 14 mos apart (girl then boy). I think that most people think that having them 2 years apart is ideal but to be honest, DD is a terror right now. If I had a newborn to deal with along with the terrible two's, I would be in misery.

WhitePicketFence

Every age gap will have it's advantages and disadvantages. Only you know what's a good fit for your family.

Good luck with your decision!