MrsNJSwimmer

mrs.winter

I was just reading your post about co-sleeping and I didn't realize that you still co-slept.  We are too and since I am PG again, I really would love to transition Ashton out of our bed into his own but I don't even know how to begin it. I love, love having him next to me but I know with the new baby things will be different. I don't want to have the baby crying next to him in the middle of the night disturbing his sleep. We've tried the side carting of the crib with a big fat fail...MH now sleeps with half his body in the crib since Ashton is staring to take up so much room. I just don't know what to do and thought I'd ask you if you have plans to transition?

Married2MrWright

Hi Renee,

You might also check out the Attachment Parenting board as many of those mamas are bedsharing with their toddlers and are PG or have infants as well. Some have increased the size of their beds by adding a twin or full next to their queen or king. Not sure if you want to do that, i.e. bedshare with Ashton and the new baby or if you truly do want to transition Ashton to his own bed.

From what I've read, toddlers who bedshare seem to not wake if/when there's a new LO...somehow they learn to sleep through the crying. Amazing, huh? Guess it's the same for multiples and/or siblings who share a room.

One idea for transitioning...does he nap in the crib? If not, maybe start there. Some mamas will also start LO in the crib and then bring them to bed or vice versa...so LO is getting used to sleeping in his/her own bed for at least part of the night. Another idea is to get him into a toddler bed...some LOs are more willing to go to a "big boy" bed. You can even have the toddler bed next to yours and at least have him start the night there.

Finally, we transitioned Libby right before her 1st bday and I won't lie. There was crying. For about three nights. Then just fussing. Now, most nights she goes down peacefully but some nights there's a minute or two of fussing. That said, we're all sleeping much better. I don't regret at all bedsharing (although it was not my intention...we were going to co-sleep using the ARCS and then  transition to the crib around 6 months) but I knew I didn't want to have a 2 or 3 year old that I couldn't get to sleep in her own bed/room (like my niece who was bedsharing until 4 and to this day still comes into her parents room several nights a week and she'll be 9 this month...) Good luck!

P.S. Are you still nursing? Just curious. I am and we want to get PG at the end of the summer. I hope to have Libby weaned by July, but if not, we'll still TTC.

mrs.winter

Married2MrWright:

Hi Renee,

You might also check out the Attachment Parenting board as many of those mamas are bedsharing with their toddlers and are PG or have infants as well. Some have increased the size of their beds by adding a twin or full next to their queen or king. Not sure if you want to do that, i.e. bedshare with Ashton and the new baby or if you truly do want to transition Ashton to his own bed.

From what I've read, toddlers who bedshare seem to not wake if/when there's a new LO...somehow they learn to sleep through the crying. Amazing, huh? Guess it's the same for multiples and/or siblings who share a room.

One idea for transitioning...does he nap in the crib? If not, maybe start there. Some mamas will also start LO in the crib and then bring them to bed or vice versa...so LO is getting used to sleeping in his/her own bed for at least part of the night. Another idea is to get him into a toddler bed...some LOs are more willing to go to a "big boy" bed. You can even have the toddler bed next to yours and at least have him start the night there.

Finally, we transitioned Libby right before her 1st bday and I won't lie. There was crying. For about three nights. Then just fussing. Now, most nights she goes down peacefully but some nights there's a minute or two of fussing. That said, we're all sleeping much better. I don't regret at all bedsharing (although it was not my intention...we were going to co-sleep using the ARCS and then  transition to the crib around 6 months) but I knew I didn't want to have a 2 or 3 year old that I couldn't get to sleep in her own bed/room (like my niece who was bedsharing until 4 and to this day still comes into her parents room several nights a week and she'll be 9 this month...) Good luck!

P.S. Are you still nursing? Just curious. I am and we want to get PG at the end of the summer. I hope to have Libby weaned by July, but if not, we'll still TTC.

Thanks!  No, I am no longer nursing Ashton (we weaned around 14 months or so). I was really surprised how fast things happened:-) 

We really don't have the option of getting a new bed as we rent and they landlord bought us the bed we us now plus we may be moving early next year. 

Ashton is just really all over the bed (sideways, kicks me, pinches me for some strange reason, and he still wakes most nights). I love, love having him next to me as I love to snuggle.

I wish I had the support of MH but he just says as long as he is happy why change it. He's not the one who is still waking up with him nor the one who will be waking up with the new baby..kwim?

I am thinking a toddler bed may be the way to go, but I am pulled again because we most likely will be moving next year. We do have a twin bed in the guest room but my mom will be here for over a month once the baby arrives so then what would I do with Ashton?

I guess I can just see what happens in the next few months.

Thanks for the ides though....I may give them a try.

Hugs!

MrsNJSwimmer

My first question is - how did you get PG if A is still in your bed? lol 

mrs.winter:

I wish I had the support of MH but he just says as long as he is happy why change it. He's not the one who is still waking up with him nor the one who will be waking up with the new baby..kwim?

This is where I'm struggling too - I dont' have support from MH.  Mine says the same thing.

We have a plan to transition - but right now time outs are in his crib, and he obviously hates his crib now.  I just got a PnP the other night, and I'm trying to decide if I want to use that for timeouts, or if I want to have him sleep in there, but in our room, then maybe sleep in that in his room with me on the chair or something, and then transition to the crib from there? 

 

mrs.winter

MrsNJSwimmer:

My first question is - how did you get PG if A is still in your bed? lol 

LOL...we have a spare room with a twin bed:-)

mrs.winter:

I wish I had the support of MH but he just says as long as he is happy why change it. He's not the one who is still waking up with him nor the one who will be waking up with the new baby..kwim?

This is where I'm struggling too - I dont' have support from MH.  Mine says the same thing.

We have a plan to transition - but right now time outs are in his crib, and he obviously hates his crib now.  I just got a PnP the other night, and I'm trying to decide if I want to use that for timeouts, or if I want to have him sleep in there, but in our room, then maybe sleep in that in his room with me on the chair or something, and then transition to the crib from there? 

 

I just bought this book. We'll see how it goes.  Ashton hates the crib and has some sort of bad association with it. Not sure what happened. I'll keep you posted on the book.