Deadbeat Gma

ChristieRose16

My mom acts like she could care less that I gave her her first grandchild.  For the first few months she got his name wrong, and has made it a rule that we are not allowed to call her "grandma."  And that if DS every called her that she would ignore him.  She has also flat out told me she is not excited about being one.

It breaks my heart. 

 Anyone else's parents not happy about becoming grandparents? 

RitaT22

I am so sorry your mom is acting like this. I hope she sees the error in her ways before your LO is old enough to ask why grandma doesn't like him

Kattey

I feel your pain. When my sister had my niece, my mom basically kicked her out. I don't care what she says, we know it's because our 4yo sister wouldn't be "the baby" anymore. My mom's jealous of other kids in our family.

When I told her I was pregnant (with my first) I asked if she could come down at my husband's and my expense  and she said she doesn't know. FYI she doesn't even have a job to prevent her. She just does't want to come down. However, my 70yo Gramma will be staying with us for a few weeks to help me out.

So yeah, that really blows, I'm sorry.

SandiR36

It happend with MIL, she was hung up on her only being 50 years old and she said she didn't want to be called grandma. She spent all this time trying to come up with a name LO could call her!  But just because of that I knew that no matter what she came up with, LO would end up calling her Grandma (by my doing!)

She was a bit standoffish when we went to visit when LO was 2 months. Before we left I said something to her though...there was no way I couldn't!  And since then she has accepted it is what it is and is acting like a grandma (though a long distance one)

write2nicole

She couldn't remember "Max"?!

I'm so sorry. Hopefully your mom will grow up before Max does.

I have heard of women who don't like the "grandma" label. My aunt goes by "Nina." However, Nina is a very good grandmother and I don't think she's ever turned down an opportunity to spend time with her granddaughter.

Onyxblossom

My MIL told me flat out when DH and I were engaged that she didn't want any grandkids because she doesn't like children at all.  So it became my new mission in life to terrify her with "I've been feeling really nauseous the last couple days" and "I've been having such a bad craving for...".  And then when DH and I decided to have a baby we told her that it wasn't up to her.  She's said that she likes Kamaya now but every time she's ever held her she immediately starts playing with her laptop or phone and completely ignores the baby so our time spent with them is very limited now.  I hope your mom comes around!

JDO

I'm sorry you're going through this. My cousin, who is now 41 became a mom at 19 and a grandma at 40. My cousin wasn't ready to be called grandma at age 40, and had a very similar reaction to your mom. She was upset when she found out about the pregnancy and wanted nothing to do with the baby for a while.

She did get over it though. Now that baby Lily is 1, grandma is just over the moon about her. So much that she doesn't mind being called grandma one bit.

I don't have any advice to help you through this, but I hope your mom comes around soon.  Max is so adorable I don't see how she couldn't.

SarahWaggy

It took my dad time. But mostly because he went through his mid-life crisis at the same time I got pregnant.

shakes

DH's mom was like this before DS was born. It killed me that she didnt care. When we called her to tell her the second we found out, she said, "but I asked you yesterday and you said no, anyways going to bed!" and everytime I tried to include her in something it was "oh I dont really care, I dont like his name anyway, I'll call him something else!" ugh. I hear ya and it just fully sucks butt!  

LadyDelilah

my MIL acts like DD is just "another drop in the bucket" because she has 7 granddaughters and says that my son "isnt really her first grandson" because he isnt living...

We are moving far enough away from them that its uncomfortable to visit regularly...

JBear1005

It seems like my pregnancy set my mother off into a mid life crisis.  She's really irritating me and its pathetic that I am more responsible than she is right now.  She went out and got a very much younger boyfriend and is out all the time with him.  Yesterday for example REALLY p!ssed me off.  I went over to visit her (I am always the one to go there, she never comes to see me), and she spent maybe 5 minutes with me and 2 minutes holding DS. 

Then she just takes off to go out with one of her friends while i'm sitting there and as she's out the door says, "When am I going to see you again".  WTF??? I've been here all day and you haven't spent anytime with either of us!  I'm done, if she wants to see us she knows where we live.  

I'm actually surprised because I thought my dad would have a harder time with the baby because throughout my pregnancy he kept telling me how hard it was going to be.  Well now that the baby is here he cannot get enough of him.  Family is just annoying though.