Ex trying to bribe me

wonderjolie

Warning: this is a vent 

The ex called me 2 days ago and at first i thought he as calling because he had finally come to terms with the pregnancy, but that was clearly not the case.

He tried to bribe me into an abortion. He didn't bribe me directly but pledged to donate a very large amount of money to an orphanage, pay for and adoption and help financially maintain an adopted child. As long as i had an abortion.

Just don't understand what's going on through his mind right now or how he would suggest such convoluted things. This is not the man i knew for so many years

 I simply told him "i think you know my answer. i love you and you need to come to terms with this, let me know when you do"  then hung up the phone

 I've already come to terms with doing this alone, but that call let me see how much i wanted him to change his mind and how little hope i have that he will  

 Anyone else got weird convoluted suggestions from the ex? 

r9stedt

Call me stupid, but why do you love him after he tried to convince you to abort your child?



(FTR-- I am 98% pro choice, but  someone bribing me to have an abortion would be a deal breaker.)

achase123

Wow, he sounds like a real douche.  If my ex (no matter what the circumstances) tried to bribe me into something that I didn't want to do (especially regarding a decision as important as this one) I wouldn't go spouting off "oh honey, I love you so much but you do need to come to terms with this". 

You said it best when you wrote "I've already come to terms with doing this alone, but that call let me see how much i wanted him to change his mind and how little hope i have that he will"

Why would you still HOPE that he will?  Maybe he will and maybe he won't, however, I know that, personally, I would have a hard time forgiving someone and seeing them as someone who I'd want to be around playing daddy when he'd tried to get me to get an abortion.

ashleah83

Not from an ex but from MH which might make him an ex.  At our first u/s he could mad at me and implied abortion Saddest day ever.

You sound like an amazing woman. I can't believe how maturely you responded to his suggestion. Good for you! You are obviously very strong and will be fine without him.  I am sorry that you feel so hopeless about him coming around though.

fauxshelley

My XH tried to bribe me too.  He offered money, vacations, and jewelry.  When none of that worked, he told me to choose between him or the child.  You see how that went. 

::smootches siggy::

Starbuck5

Are you fvcking kidding me? Like a donation to a local orphanage will make everything better? And you know he sat around and thought about that....ridiculous.

This guy is a flippin' douchecanoe. This is the type of person that will never come to "terms" with the pregnancy.

Honey, move on. Surround yourself with people that love you and are excited about the beautiful new life that has been created.

((hugs))