DH Vent

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DH will not let me go anywhere with LO!  I'm a stay at home mom and I need to leave the house sometimes or I am going to go crazy!  LO is six weeks and hasn't had his shots so I know why DH is concerned, but I'm not going to go to a crowded place or let anybody touch him or cough on him.  He doesn't even like me taking him for walks on nice days.

A friend of mine is having a small get together tonight and I said I would come.  DH said he'd stay at home with LO.  He just emailed me to say he has a meeting, so now I can't go.  I said I could go with LO for just a little while and not let anyone touch or hold him.  He said no.

 

What do you all think?  Nobody except our parents has seen the baby and I'm might go nuts if I don't get out!

simo7079

Are you married to a dictator?  Your baby is just as much yours at it is his, and if it were me I'd go.  

erbear

simo7079:

Are you married to a dictator?  Your baby is just as much yours at it is his, and if it were me I'd go.  

me too. You're both the parents here. Also I think the not taking a baby anywhere us odd...I can see a crowded place and not letting people hold and kiss her but I've taken both kids out from day 1. If your hubby wants kiddo home all the tine, he needs to be there

ameliahedlund

You have to ASK you H to leave the house with lo?  Time to sit down and have a talk.

LadybugPicnic2011

Was your LO premature or sick?  If not, I would go... and you and DH need to have a talk if you have to ask him to leave the house...

JJsMom211

My DS will be 8wks this Friday and I've been taking him out a couple times a week since he was 3wks. I never took him to the mall or crowded restaurants, but we woudl go on walks and over to visit friends. I really don't see the harm in that as long as your friends aren't sick and they wash their hands. My DH is kind of the same way but I just said F it and took LO out anyway. He got over it! You'll go crazy if you stay in the house that long. And a little fresh air will do you and baby some good!

Tempus

I say go. I took DD out a few days after she was born. Although, not in crowded places. You both need the fresh air and YOU need to get away and not be cooped up all the time. Your DH needs to get over it. You are his parent as well so you have a say(I mean did he make the baby himself??!! And who carried him for 9 months!!) Why do you have to ask to take him out in the first place?? It makes no sense. He sounds kinda controlling when it comes to the LO or maybe he's just being overprotective?? Still you can't keep them in a glass bubble,trust me I have 3 boys and now DD, sooner or later he will get sick. Your DH could bring something home from work and give it to him but I bet that doesn't stop him from coming home and holding him.

thatsmary

erbear:

simo7079:

Are you married to a dictator?  Your baby is just as much yours at it is his, and if it were me I'd go.  

me too. You're both the parents here. Also I think the not taking a baby anywhere us odd...I can see a crowded place and not letting people hold and kiss her but I've taken both kids out from day 1. If your hubby wants kiddo home all the tine, he needs to be there

Otherwise you are the adult in charge!

And on a side note - Not all abuse is physical. Emotional &/or monetary abuse are real. Please don't allow yourself and your baby to be manipulated by a controlling husband.

TiffanyTheMom

Just go. I understand he might be ticked, but ho can he really expect you to stay home fo 6 wks straight? no. what's he gonna do if you go, give you a black eye?

CAkelly

ameliahedlund:

You have to ASK you H to leave the house with lo?  Time to sit down and have a talk.

I agree with this. Why do you not have s say in what you do with your baby?