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Ugh Why is it so difficult

JJSunshine817JJSunshine817
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My Mother. I love her to death. She was a L&D nurse and wants to run the show. When I mentioned to her that DH and I want our delivery to be private (nobody comes in the room until 2-3 hours after LO is born), she said ok but made remarks like " well I'll be in the waiting room because you might decide you do want me there" and "its weird because most women do want their moms in the room....."

She also offered to take off of work the day or 2 after delivery to take care of me in the hospital. Like a nurse would. While I appreciate it and I told her theres no need, if you want to come and visit thats good but you dont need to like take care of me. I will have a nurse and my husband there. And she says "yeah but they are not your mother". And then when I try to dismiss it she said "just think about it" ALL the time.

I know shes just trying to be nice and help but shes not listening. Yesterday on the phone I got a little more assertive and I literally thought she was going to cry and I started to feel guilty. Its just ridiculous. I need an understanding mom, not a L&D nurse right now. This is whats stressing me out, not even the thought of getting induced tomorrow.

Whenever we get into it she says "just give me the benefit of the doubt, I love you and Im your mother. When you have Madelyn you'll be the same way." I get it. But please just listen to what I want!!! Its still my delivery.

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  • snowybride08snowybride08 member
    It sounds like she's stressing you out.  I would stick to your guns and go for the delivery that you want.  Don't let her bully you into doing something you don't want to.  Good luck!
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  • CMBallCMBall
    I'm sorry your momma is being so difficult. She sounds like she is the complete opposit of my mom. but either way yes you do need to put your foot down and tell her... as nice as possible... that she already had her babies and now its your turn and you dont appriceate her acting like she is the one who is about to give birth. that you love her and value her opinion but in this case its not needed. all about being nice and putting your foot down.          love ya girly
    "'Cause baby you're a firework Come on, show 'em what you're worth Make 'em go "Oh, oh, oh" As you shoot across the sky-y-y. Baby, you're a firework Come on, let your colors burst Make 'em go "Oh, Oh, Oh" You're gonna leave 'em all in awe, awe, awe" KP Photobucket Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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