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marbear81

I was at the hospital today with the twins for their PT... a woman came up to me and asked if they were twins to which I replied "yes".. she said "they don't look like twins because one is bigger than the other" ??? I told her my DD was 3 lbs 6 oz at birth and my DS was 4 lbs 4 oz.. she said "that's GREAT! you don't need them to grow big while you're pregnant.. they can grow bigger and stronger on the outside" what the hek?! my twins early arrival cost us NICU time amongst other complications :-(( what is wrong with people!? that comment really rubbed me the wrong way because while the babies lay in their isolettes, I remember thinking to myself, if I were still pregnant, they wouldn't need all these wires, tubes, intervention, etc... ((sigh)) just thought I'd share!

sandrarodz

Well thats just silly of her to say that. Some people don't think before they talk. I mean obviously she has never had any sort of experience with preemies or else she would have known that was the wrong thing to say.

I had a follow up eye exam with my twins and the doctor himself said something that I can not forget.  He asked how preemature they were and when I said 29 weeks he said "Oh thats not that bad"  REally? I mean yea it could have been worse but to me happening at that moment it WAS that bad.

hollerjeepgirl

you are going to run into that a lot!! i got a nasty look from a lady at the stoire who was due a day before my ds was suppose to be. i told her i had had him a few weeks prior to seeing her, she was about 4 weeks away from her dd, and she looked me up and down and said...lucky. wooowza. now i am dealing with a stupid coworker who has no better time than to try and see why my ds looks nothing like his daddy, like i cheated on him.my son has light blonde hair like my mil and dh and i have dark hair. big whoop. stupid people. people are dense and it is tough when your baby is in the nicu but hopefully it will make you stronger

AVA0908

People are just dumb! I am sorry that you had to deal with that! It's even worse when it comes from your own family and friends.

lemen99

Yikes!  That is silly.  I'm sure she was very ignorant and just had no clue what she was saying.

MamaLBF

Sorry your having to deal with comments like that. Why dont people use their head?

apokatie

marbear81:

I was at the hospital today with the twins for their PT... a woman came up to me and asked if they were twins to which I replied "yes".. she said "they don't look like twins because one is bigger than the other" ??? I told her my DD was 3 lbs 6 oz at birth and my DS was 4 lbs 4 oz.. she said "that's GREAT! you don't need them to grow big while you're pregnant.. they can grow bigger and stronger on the outside" what the hek?! my twins early arrival cost us NICU time amongst other complications :-(( what is wrong with people!? that comment really rubbed me the wrong way because while the babies lay in their isolettes, I remember thinking to myself, if I were still pregnant, they wouldn't need all these wires, tubes, intervention, etc... ((sigh)) just thought I'd share!

I had someone at the store ask if I was sure that she was mine. WTF?! I had an emergency c-section, so YES SHE IS MINE! People are so dumb sometimes!

Lavender444

I use to get really hurt and angry about stupid comments, but now I'm trying to tell myself that people mean well and don't realize how hurtful what they say is. Some days I'm good at letting it go and other days I educate them about how hurtful and uninformed their comment was.

In my perfect world people wouldn't try to speak of subjects and experiences they know nothing about.