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July 2011 Moms
DMBfan41
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#1 thing you're scared about after the birth of your baby
DMBfan41
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Let's take fear of having an unhealthy baby off the table. What's your #1 fear post-pregnancy?
Here's mine, and I'll get ready to be flamed - but I'm not scared of sleeplessness or PPD or latching during BFing (although I should be concerned about all of those) - I'm MOST concerned with getting my body back. I'm SO scared about what I will look like post-pg. Will I have wrinkly saggy stretch mark stomach from now on? Will I ever feel comfortable in a bathing suit again?
I know these are selfish and vain concerns but that's what I fear. What are yours??
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Re: #1 thing you're scared about after the birth of your baby
I know everyone is different but it didn't hurt that bad. After labor though my pain scale is altered.
Two things:
1) That I'll have a crappy supply and will have to use formula.
2) Lack of sleep. I love sleep, I live for sleep. I'll give it up for a baby, but man, I'm going to miss sleep.
I didn't have the world's greatest body going into PG, so I'm not too concerned that I won't look like a waif supermodel afterwards.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
I'm scared that I won't immediately "bond" with the baby.
I love children and babies but every time I hold a baby now, I don't connect with him/her. I keep hearing that I will be instantly filled with love for my child once I see him but I'm scared that I won't and I will look at him like just another cute baby.
Ooh, I have several:
Dealing with pp healing (including normal bodily functions), figuring out the whole breastfeeding thing, functioning on little to no sleep, and losing my baby weight.
Honestly, I think the issue AFTER the baby scare me more than pregnancy at this point!
After 2 years, Injects, PCOS diagnosis and 2 IUI's, we were blessed with our beautiful twin girls!
Baby Girl #3!
SIDS
It keeps me up at night already. I had issues with anxiety over this with DD too. I think I checked her at least 2 times a night for her first six months. Its terrifying.
I think I am more worried about handling 2U2 on nights when DH is working than I was about handling my first baby! Or just having 2U2 in general, I'm very excited but also terrified!
Plus my boobs got so sad and saggy and small after I BF DS, I don't want to go back to that
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DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
Yes, totally! Everyone has told me that it is different with your own child but we shall see.
Also, all the vanity issues too! I have always been naturally thin so it will be weird to be in a new body...
My hospital gave me laxatives/stool softeners. It really wasn't that bad. And I had a vag birth with an episiotomy.
DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
Having a hard time adjusting to having a 23 month old & a newborn. I've been a SAHM to DD for most of her life & I don't know who will have the harder time adjusting, me or her.
I actually agree with a lot of the ones posted so far though.
Most have been mentioned! But DEF nervous that I won't produce breast milk..I mean as a first timer I have no idea how it's going to pan out. I've gone to the BF'ing classes and they say you should no matter what, but I've heard stories otherwise.
Also healing depending on what happens during labor. Annnnd my body - what I will look like after wards and how fast I'll get back to feeling like myself. It's peak summer time here when baby is around and I want to wear all my fun summer clothes still....I'll need a new wardrobe to make me feel better!
Spontaneous pregnancy #1
DD1 July 31, 2011
Trying for #2 since Oct 11
Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!!
1. Managing it all - baby, career, marriage, house, friendships, etc. I know it can (and is) done all the time, I just feel like my career is going to take a bad hit. Worst case scenario, I've prepared myself for that though. I spent 2 years agonizing about it before getting pregnant and still decided that a baby would be worth any sacrifice.
2. I'll admit to the body issues, too. I've always been pretty thin and athletic, and I think we can all agree it's rough watching your body get bigger. But this concern isn't as big for me because I've worked out/played sports basically my whole life, it's like second nature, so I don't think the postpartum exercise is going to be an issue. It's going to be getting off this carb train!!!
Mine used to be "what if my baby is ugly".
No... not ALL babies are cute. I used to practice my "happy mom" face, in case my baby came out not cute at all. My friends used to laugh at me when I would do that
But, all mine have come out cute. I was told my boys were pretty enough to be girls.
So my next fear is having a baby with colic this time around. My babies always slept well, and didn't cry much. I have a fear I won't be so lucky this time....
I have so much anxiety over how I'm going to handle a very energetic, busy almost 3 year old and a newborn and all the attention the new baby will need.
I also fear that I will never sleep again after #2 is born
When you get engorged, it does hurt. It feels like your boobs are hard as rocks & going to explode. But take a warm shower & run the water over them to help relieve it some. Cold cabbage leaves work pretty well, too. It will happen at some point, but it goes away.
To help with the bleeding, chaffed nips use the Lansinoh nipple cream. It works wonders! I loved that stuff when I first started BFing & after a week or so your nips have toughened up, so you will be ok.
NB diapers soaked in hot water (they expand like a heating pad) are good for the boobs too.
DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
OH. THIS.
We have a gas stove and I obsessively check to make sure it's off every night, even if we haven't used it. SIDS is a huge fear.
OH. THIS.
We have a gas stove and I obsessively check to make sure it's off every night, even if we haven't used it. SIDS is a huge fear.
Hmmm top thing is probably just the whole "I have this other human solely dependent upon me to keep it alive" thing.
I have other concerns about BFing, sleep, body issues, relationship concerns, etc. but just the whole responsibility of being a parent scares the crap out of me sometimes. I'm hoping that worrying means I'll be a good parent.....not run away screaming/crying lol.
Meeeee tooo. Must be an Indy thing.
Breast fed 3 babies. Last one for a year (and pumped between feedings) never once had a sore, cracked, chaffed, or bleeding nipple.
I decided it was the 3 L's for me. proper Latch-on, Lots of Lanolin, and no Lather (as in, when you wash your breast and nipple area in shower, use soft washcloth, lukewarm water...and NO SOAP on that area) At least, that worked for me
This.
Most of my fears with my DS #1 already happened. My stomach is a complete mess and I am in desperate need of a tummy tuck due to the fact that I have a stomach that is COMPLETELY (not one of two, they're everywhere) covered in stretch marks, and when I lose the preg weight my stomach is wrinkly and saggy like granny skin. But I'm not worried about that this time because clearly it's not going away. I'm not complaining, I wish I never had it but I have managed to find some sexy one piece bathing suits that make me feel comfortable and spanx do wonders in tight dresses.
My milk supply is pathetic. My DS would cry on my breast because it would dribble into his mouth. After 2 months of trying to breastfeed, I finally decided to just exclusively formula feed. This time around I am just going to formula feed, but I am prepared and that is not my fear either.
Ok, so for my big fear... my son and I are so completely bonded. He is a little momma's boy (and I love it!). I am worried that because he won't have all of my attention now he won't be a momma's boy anymore
Mine lives across the country and at 2 months w/o seeing her now that is the longest span it's been since DS was born. Usually she comes every month and stays with us!!!
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