Don't want to go to MIL's

IkesHawaiian06

DH's new job requires him to do travelling for college fairs, but the perk is that for ones that are driveable, Emma and I get to go with him. SO, he has college fairs over the next week in Portland and then up in Bellevue, Tacoma and Bellingham, so we get to go HOME!!! Except that we have to spend two days in Portland with the IL's. I really love my BIL, FIL and SIL, but MIL drives me up the freaking wall! I just feel like she hasn't respected me at all since we told her we were pregnant, and when DH finally talked to her about it, she started trying to buy me things to make it better. *while it's nice to receive gifts, it doesn't work to mend things* She still gives me those looks when I take Emma to go nap or go for a walk, whatever, and she doesn't get that just because she's grandma, it doesn't superceed what I say as mom. I know that I need to have a better attitude about it, I'm sure I've vented plenty'o'times before, but I just dread being there. Can I add that they have a dog that drives me crazy and they don't put him outside when we're there but MIL wants to put Emma on the floor and just let the dog play around her? But the dog gets all riled up and starts running all over the house and I don't like that Emma's right there about to get trampled by the dog! (Buddy, the dog, isn't a super smart dog) UGH! Someone tell me that it won't be nearly as bad as I think.

Even worse, I'm sure that I'll get an earful when she finds out that I talked a friend of mine from the area to keep me out of the house both days we're there....

IkesHawaiian06

I just read my own post... Gosh I'm a whiner...

applecider

(((hugs))).  Whining is what this board is for.  You should make some small effort to let your MIL get her Grandma fix and then do your own thing.

And if she makes random unwelcome suggestions feel free to be passive-aggressive.  Maybe just acknowledge them with pleasant grunts and smiles or really vague comments like, "That's interesting" or "Well, ya know."

cwhip77

You're not a whiner.    It's a lucky woman who doesn't have SOME issues with her MIL.....

I totally understand.  But, since the trip is inevitable I think how you approach the visit and the attitude you have going into it is going to make a big difference in whether you'll be miserable or not.  The more on edge you are, the more things are going to irk you.  I guess try to focus on seeing your friend and the other family members you get along with, and hopefully MIL won't be too bad. 

tfarabians

I totally understand!  And I wouldn't want my baby on the ground where the dog could get excited and run over her!  Try to think of it as lots of babysitters.  Maybe they would watch Emma while you and your friend went out to lunch?