Bring Home Baby on TLC is scaring the crap out of me!

rvandiver0705

I am getting super anxious about those first few days, because my MIL is SUPER pushy and my mother tends to think everyone is judging her in these sort of situations, and hovers.

Under normal, less sleep deprived, circumstances, I am very good at controlling their potential "special" behavior.  What am I going to do when they start their crazy and all I want to do is sleep?    Can I clone myself just for a few days?  Is that possible? 

DowagerCountessofNJ

Lock the doors and not let either one of them in the house!

rvandiver0705

Sgt M's Wife:

Lock the doors and not let either one of them in the house!

If I locked my mom out, my dad would bring down a hurricane of Jew guilt like DC has never seen.  El Nino has nothing on a Bostonian Jewish male social worker.  NOTHING!  Also, there would be less Chinese food in the house, which is unacceptable.

Then MIL would start measuring the grass outside or something equally mindblowingly ridiculous.  I kind of want to put a nanny cam in my house just to document the BSC behavior for posterity.  It would make one of those awesome movies like My Big Fat Greek Wedding that WASPs think are exaggerated. 

itsmegin

Use your mother so you can sleep! That's my plan. My mom is not staying in our house but she did say how all she wanted when she had newborns was sleep and that when we had ours she would come over and help me nap.

rvandiver0705

itsmegin:

Use your mother so you can sleep! That's my plan. My mom is not staying in our house but she did say how all she wanted when she had newborns was sleep and that when we had ours she would come over and help me nap.

That is the official plan, but I'm scared that something will happen on all my CDs (MIL) and that magically the nursery will get "reorganized" so that it "makes more sense" (MIL again).  There will probably also be copious amounts of vacuuming (started by MIL and taken over by my mother).

I think I'm going to have to have a hormonal moment to my husband on the phone tonight so that he can start the learning process of "our house, change it and Rebecca will cut you."  

itsmegin

rvandiver0705:

I think I'm going to have to have a hormonal moment to my husband on the phone tonight so that he can start the learning process of "our house, change it and Rebecca will cut you."  

That needs to be the new motto of the house. Maybe get it engraved in a plaque over the front door.

rvandiver0705

itsmegin:

rvandiver0705:

I think I'm going to have to have a hormonal moment to my husband on the phone tonight so that he can start the learning process of "our house, change it and Rebecca will cut you."  

That needs to be the new motto of the house. Maybe get it engraved in a plaque over the front door.

I know places in Gatlinburg, TN that will do it... 

camdenfaithful

I'm already having mild anxiety about the time home after the baby gets here.  My mom is a star, but my MIL is passive aggressive and she and I just do not get along at all.

Right now I'm burying my head in the sand and pretending the issue isn't even there/has to be dealt with.

KCKSarah

I told my MIL she couldn't come until 2-3 weeks after the baby is born (she lives on the west coast).  I suggested the middle of May.  She seemed to take it OK, but I get an email yesterday that they booked their rooms and they got a cheaper rate because the rooms are non-refundable.  Passive aggressive, much?

I figure after 2-3 weeks I'll be in a better head space to deal with her than I would right after baby.   I suggest you be firm (or have DH be firm) about your boundaries.  When it gets to be too much and you need a break, then don't be afraid to tell them to leave.  You want to bond with your baby, not have crazy people hovering over you.  Chase them out and don't feel guilty about it!  You only get these first few weeks with you LO once.  

KellyM11

rvandiver0705:

Sgt M's Wife:

Lock the doors and not let either one of them in the house!

If I locked my mom out, my dad would bring down a hurricane of Jew guilt like DC has never seen.  El Nino has nothing on a Bostonian Jewish male social worker.  NOTHING!  Also, there would be less Chinese food in the house, which is unacceptable.

Then MIL would start measuring the grass outside or something equally mindblowingly ridiculous.  I kind of want to put a nanny cam in my house just to document the BSC behavior for posterity.  It would make one of those awesome movies like My Big Fat Greek Wedding that WASPs think are exaggerated. 

LMAO!!! Unfortunately, you may not be feeling up to visitors the minute you are home with LO. It is one thing if your Mom comes to help you but you certainly should not have to be worrying about any other BS then caring for yourself & baby. Maybe you could set it up so they aren't there together? I know it's hard. At our childbirth class that we took for DS, the nurse instructed the Dads that their most important job was to be the visitor police both at the hospital and at home. It's really hard because you know everyone is super excited and wants to share in the joy of your new LO but can be exhausting at a time when you are already wiped out. GL!

mommy411

My momand I butt heads. Our 1st night home we had no one here which was nice. I would recommend. From there out my mom stayed for 6 weeks and I cried when she left. I never appreciated her as much as I did then.

I BF, so when people where around and I got annoyed. I would disappear and say I was feeding DD.

Don't worry it will all work out