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Feelings of guilt?
I'm pregnant with #2 and some days I feel so guilty when I think about #1 because I fear the lack of attention I will be able to give when #2 comes home. How did you all deal with it? How did your LO's deal with it? I think, How on Earth will I do bedtime with #1 when I have a newborn? Any words of wisdom? Does it all work itself out? Am I worrying unnecessarily?? I don't want to stress during my pregnancy but I am finding I am!!
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Re: Feelings of guilt?
If you told me that you never had these emotions during your 2nd pregnancy, I'd think you were kind of weird. We've all been there!
It does work out a lot better than you think. You can continue to give #1 attention-it just becomes more work. Many times during the day I'm sitting on the floor feeding DD while playing cars with DS or DS is sitting in my lap in the rocker while I'm feeding the baby at the same time. You get in a groove and you just learn to juggle it all.
There's a lot you can do to make life with 2 easier. I get everything prepped ahead of time-I have their clothes laid out for the next day the night before. I prep all of DS's meals while he's still sleeping in the morning or during naptime so I'm not dealing with 2 crying, hungry babies at the same time. I have changing stations all over the house so I don't have to go on a different floor and leave DS alone to change the baby. I wear the baby in a baby carrier a lot so I have my hands free to tend to DS.
Bedtime is still pretty easy for us-my DS bedshares and snuggles with me to fall asleep so he's kind of difficult. However, my newborn is easy-I just feed her, lay her down in her bassinet and she puts herself to sleep so we havent had any issues at all.
One way or another you will manage and do great.
I actually didn't have any feelings of guilt while I was pregnant - call me weird!! I thought that having two so close in age would be lots of fun for both of them!
But NOW I feel super guilty. DS is starting up speech therapy and special instrustion (mostly because he is self-directed and not parent-directed) ...and I can't help but think this is because of having a baby when he was still a baby. So yeah, there is guilt...but we do the best that we can and everything will work out.
I'm jealous! 90% of the time that I was pregnant, I felt that it was going to be fun and I was confident in the decision I made. My 2nd was planned. However, I definitely had some feelings of doubt/apprehension during my pregnancy.