MIA recently, update...(long)

becca070707Ken

First off I have to say I MISS EVERYONE!!! I havent' been on here in a while but would check daily on my phone. I only wish I could post from my phone. Second I want to say CONGRATS to ALL the mommy's who had their babies - ADORABLE and to those who got their BFP. I am friends with most of you all on FB so I comment/message there alot.

There have been lots going on so I will only talk about a few. I lost my grandma unexpectedly towards the end of February. She was almost 89 yrs old and her and my grandpa had just celebrated their 65 wedding anniversary. <~~This gives me hope that love can last a lifetime with one person. They were living proof! The morning she passed away and before we knew I told DH I was going to call her. I never got that chance. Kellen understood what was going on, but Ayden had lots of questions. On a better note DH and I decided to TTC again last month. I started charting again and man are my charts all messed up. My last cycle was 36 days and I didn't OV until day 26. So I thought I should give myself some more time to see how things look before getting upset or antsy at the end of every cycle. I'm ok with that decision, but if it happens in the mean time then YAY!!

Not sure if you all know/knew that I worked for my BIL. I have been with his company since he started it and my sister, his wife, works there too (my younger sister also worked there). Over 1 1/2 years ago he left my sister with no good reason. My niece is missing out on her father being in her life. He has not once taken her overnight nor asked. He sees her maybe 4 hours a week, if that. Things were ok at work, if he wasn't there and when he was we only talked about work. He thought it would be a great idea to bring his new gf in and hide her. Another coworker made it a point to tell me who she was and all about it. I made a personal comment that that specific coworker went and told him which started some very unprofessional comments made by my BIL/boss. I saved the emails he sent with the aweful comments and threats along with my professional responses to the other co-owner as well (if they are needed). I really wanted to tell him what was on my mind, but I know how to keep my personal life out of work. He on the other hand does not. My sister let him have it on Friday (they will be going through a divorce once taxes are done) and told him straight up what she thought of him as a person, husband, father, boss, and friend. My niece will sometimes call DH daddy and we correct her RIGHT AWAY. She is very attached to DH and my sister told BIL this. So now I am unemployed b/c my BIL is taking his personal life and bringing it into the workplace and out on me. I was told he does not want family working for him anymore and he doesn't want to have to "know" his employee's therefore there is no need for me. Nice huh?!?! SO.....that is whats up with me. Exciting really. Not!!

I'm hoping this opens the door for something better. I was NOT happy working there, but I stayed b/c of my flexability and sucked it up. So now i'm going to enjoy this time home with Ayden and Kellen (when he is out of school) all while looking for something new. Maybe i'll even be able to make a playdate

PS - if you made it this far your brave. Thanks for listening to my rambles and issues, but I know you all have good intentions and great advice and can make a girl feel better.

sistrkate

Big, giant bear hugs. 

You have amazing grace, Becca.  You have been through a lot recently yet you still have a very positive attitude and outlook.  I'm sure something amazing is coming your way.

mrs.george2be04

sistrkate:

Big, giant bear hugs. 

You have amazing grace, Becca.  You have been through a lot recently yet you still have a very positive attitude and outlook.  I'm sure something amazing is coming your way.

I couldn't have said it better. You are in my thoughts sweetie.

Moesten

That's a lot to contend with all at once. I am so sorry for your grandma's passing. Losing a grandparent is like losing a piece of your heart.

As for your trash BIL, good riddance. I'm only sorry your niece is the casualty But I do hope this gives you the freedom and opportunity to find fulfilling work you'll enjoy.

Don't be a stranger to the board although I am glad I get to keep tabs on FB. Enjoy your found time with your boys! 

andailey

mrs.george2be04:

sistrkate:

Big, giant bear hugs. 

You have amazing grace, Becca.  You have been through a lot recently yet you still have a very positive attitude and outlook.  I'm sure something amazing is coming your way.

I couldn't have said it better. You are in my thoughts sweetie.

I agree completely. I'm so sorry for you loss, and I hope that this new chapter in your life brings you much happiness, as something better will certainly arrive soon! 

Glad to see you back on TB.  Hugs!

KYmama9286

Wow Becca! You HAVE had a lot going on-- I am so sorry about the loss of your grandmother, I remember hearing about that on fb. I know losing a loved one is hard enough but I am sure it is even harder having to try and explain life and death to a child. ((hugs))

As for your crappy BIL, try not to let him get to you. He seriously has some issues which are evident based on all the failed relationships around him (with his wife, daughter, other family, employees, etc.) I will have my fingers crossed that a new, even BETTER door will open and that you will find something that will be loads better than your old job. In the meantime, enjoy the time with your boys! Hopefully we can meet up at the next play date! 

 Oh and GL with the ttc/charting! I am always up for chart stalking so let me know if you want another set of eyes to check things out 

Missbollinger

Wow,you have a lot going on right now ((hugs))  Everything will work out fine in the end and karma is a b**** so your soon to be ex-Bil better watch his back.  As for TTC I had have always had longer cycles between 33-37 days and because of that would ovulate late but once you work out where you are suppose to be the rest will come

 

addslove

Wow, what a rough time you have had! It sounds like you are handling everything the best way possible...good for you. Your ex BIL is a real douche. He will get what he deserves, I truly believe that. And I'm sorry about the loss of your grandma. Such a painful loss.