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are your parents divorced?
If they are how old were you when it happened? Do you wish it would have happened sooner/ made it work longer?
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Re: are your parents divorced?
However, at times I think they should have been, and times now I think they should be.
Their marriage vastly improved after my dad moved 90 minutes away, and my sister moved out. They haven't lived together for almost two years, but will begin to do so this summer again. We shall see.............
I was in 5th/6th grade and it was a horrible time. Such a tough age as it is dealing with changing from child to adult that throwing my parents divorce into the mix really rocked my world for a long time.
I wish they would have divorced when I was WAY younger. MY SD for example has no memories of her parents being together (they were never married) but regardless her life has always been mom's house/dad's house and is no worse for the wear because of it.
I was 19 when they divorced and then 22 or 23 when they remarried (eachother)...
ETA: To finish answering the question, it came as such a shock when they divorced so when they got re-married I was upset (very upset) and still at times wish they wouldn't have gotten back together....
Mine are divorced. My mom had an affair/left when I was 14. I was shocked (as was my bro {he was 16} and my dad).
Both remarried - my mom to the 'other man', who has since passed. About 5 years later, after I moved out, I realized how much happier they were in their new marriages. Looking back, they probably should have divorced 10 years before that. My mom is now in long term relationship, and very happy, again. And my SM is the best grandma ever (she has no bio-children). I couldn't be happier with the situation (other than the poor relationship with my mom - she's a good grandma tho).
ETA: also, my bro and I stayed with my dad on our farm....my mom moved away, and I spent very little time at her house.
they will be married 39 years in June. They are happy with each other and good for each other. Anytime they fought when I was growing up (which was seldom) I would tell them not to get a divorce. I am very lucky
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
No, my parents have been married for 40 years.
Some close family friends who we have known for a long time (maybe 30 years?) got divorced recently. It was VERY difficult on their adult children. I think it was a terrible shock to them.
No, my parents remained married 'til death them did part. My dad died 10 years ago.
He was an alcoholic, and not a functioning one. Most of my childhood was a living hell. My sister has seriously blocked most of hers out.
My mom should have divorced my dad many times over, but she didn't.
My parents divorced when I was 24. I am 35 now. They had both been unhappy for a long time. My Dad was a raging alcoholic for the majority of my life. He went to rehab when I was 16. My mother has several mental health issues. It wasn't easy for my sisters and I growing up. They are both younger than me.
Neither of my parents has been on a date or found anyone to be with since the divorce. I hope that one day they are able to find some peace and happiness.
My dad died in 2005, but by then I hadn't seen him in about 25 years.
My parents divorced when I was 12 and I was begging my mom to leave him.
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
No. They still act like newlyweds. Gross.
in all actuality, I try to model mine after theirs.
Yes. They divorced when I was a freshman in high school. They were apart for about 9 months and then got back together. And stayed together until a year after I graduated high school. Were apart again for a few months. Got back together and then seperated for good when I was 19ish (that part is foggy). See a trend? LOL
Anyway, my dad was a very abusive, volatile alcoholic and my mom is a very greedy, materialistic, selfish woman. Made for an interesting combo that should have never been together ....so should have DEFINITELY divorced LONG before they did.
They are getting divorced now. I'm 26 and it's been really, really hard.
It was totally out of the blue - my mom had some sort of crisis, had an affair, and became a totally different person... it wasn't something that was a long time coming and totally shocked everone, including ym dad.
Noel - August 2010
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No. When we were younger they probably should have split up. It was lots of fights and drama.
I am so glad they stayed together, though. They have an awesome relationship now and our family is really close.
I think having 4 kids so close in age when they were so young was really hard on them. Their relationship really changed for the better when we got older and closer to moving out.
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No, my dad died when I was 18.
DH's parents are divorced, they probably let it go about 5 years longer than they should have.
Yes, mine got divorced when I was 5. My dad cheated on my mom, abused her and was an alcoholic. I have blocked out most of my childhood until about 4th grade or so. Wish I could get back some of those memories but I can't.
I never ever ever thought they should get back together.
My dad married his mistress and they have been together 20+ years now. ( I still don't like her but really only see them at bdays and christmas). My mom got married 12 years ago to the most awesome man ever. Treats her well and they lead a really great life. I am really happy for her.
The divorce did have a profound effect on me even though I don't remember much of it. When I was 18/19 I met a guy and moved in with him. He was so much like my dad. He did drugs(i found out later), cheated on me and I broke off the engagement 3 months before the wedding. Best thing I ever did!
No, my parents are still madly in love to the point that its almost gross and they do have an "open" relationship.
MH parents divorced when he was 3. He doesn't much remember his dad; his mom had full custody and his dad didn't much want anything to do with them until the last couple of years esp since he became a grandfather. MIL remarried another man when MH was 8ish and divorced him (cruelly) when MH was 18--he was POed at his mom. She soon afterward remarried current sFIL (who is the creepy guy). DS2 is named after MH stepfather, to him, that was his dad....
No. Married almost 42 years. But, they shouldn't be. We spent many years listening to horrible, horrible fights between them. And, now, they are both so unhappy but I think they both feel like they are too old to move on by themselves. And my mom has some medical problems so my Dad would look like a pr!ck if he left now (even though I woudn't blame him). They put on a good act if you don't know them well, but they really don't like each other and I can't remember a time when they did.
Every once in a while when I am having a disagreement with DH I find myself sounding like my mom and it snaps me back to reality about how mature adults speak to one another and work out differences. I'm getting better, but sometimes I wonder if I'll drive my husband away because I have some of my moms tendencies. It goes for my parenting too. I hate myself for that.
They just celebrated 57 years and they have truly seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. My dad was a functioning alcoholic for most of my early years. It caused health issues and he finally stopped. It's crazy how both of them were so committed to each other and to us. Still are.
I could write a book - maybe I will one day. We went through economic ups and downs, my mother was absent sporadicallyfor about a year or so due to some property issues (long story) which affected me tremendously. One thing I learned from them is dedication and teamwork.