OMG!!! Judge terminated rights today!!!!
Term trial started last week. Mom was a no-show, which placed her in detault. Because of this - the defense attorney is no longer able to provide a defense for his client. This basically cuts at least 4 weeks off of the timeline.
Well, the second part of the trial was today, she was still a no-show. Her attorney requested to be released from his service since he has had no contact with her in months.
Judge heard the case (hours and hours worth) and then took a recess. Came back and TERMINATED HER RIGHTS!!!
We thought it would take weeks, since I was given info about the standard timeline. But, that timeline would include a defense and then a rebuttal.
When my caseworker called me today, I was NOT expecting that kind of news. I was seriously speechless.
My C/W comes in about 2 weeks for a visit and we will start the adoption paperwork on that day.
The father is not terminated, as he still did not have an attorney. But he was notified of her termination, and we are pretty postive that he will do an id surrender. But, he either needs an attorney for that, or declare that he is representing himself.
A trial date was set for him for next month.
OMG - one day closer to calling him our SON.
It was a mixed emotional day for me. Yes, we want to adopt him. But, his mother lost her rights to him today. As a mom, that has got to suck big time - although she does not know it yet. I have met her, and I can almost picture her face when she finds out. I think it would kill me.
Re: OMG!!! Judge terminated rights today!!!!
That's fantastic!!
I know what you are saying about it being mixed emotions.
But I'm so happy for great news for you today!
Congrats.
Oh, MyColony, I'm so happy that you are closer to permanency with Little J.
I know the pain and mixed emotions of which you speak, though. What stuck me is how much it hurts to know that M lost his mother more than that his mother lost M. I'm sure you know what I mean. I'm sorry for all the loss they are feeling, or will feel, but I am so happy you are all one step closer to never being separated.
Sad, but also so amazing that he's closer to having a forever family.
Congrats!
As much as it will hurt her, and that is sad, it is SO good for Lil'J and for you!
I am so happy for you and your family!!!
This post is a long time coming! Congrats!
I'm on the fence about having mixed emotions. Yes she has lost her son, but she knew that was a possible ending in the situation if she didn't get her act together. In the end, she didn't do what she needed to do, after been given TONS of opportunities and tons of time to get it all done. There's a reason LIl' J was put in your home and that's for you to raise him and for you to be his mommy!
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Yay for you and your family! I am so, so excited for you.
I can totally understand the mixed emotions. It's the quintessential loss involved in adoption.
Whats right can often be bittersweet. But there is no doubt that this is what's right.
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This! So sad for Bparents but Yay! Yay! Yay! for Lil' J and your entire family. I'm still praying for smooth sailing from now on!
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That is wonderful for you! I am hoping to say the same thing some time this summer with my LO.
I know how it is mixed emotions about a mother losing her rights, we are dealing with our own TPR trial right now.
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Wow. Congrats! Certainly a big day for your family!....