jntaylor

soon2Bkranz

I saw you wrote you were adopted...

My daughter was adopted at birth. Then (like the f-ing sterotype) I got pregnant and carried to term and am pregnant again. She is 3.5 so asking more questions and saying she grew in mommys belly. I love my son and I cherish this pregnancy and baby...but I am so scared it might be hurting her and I feel so guilty. We know we will adopt again and we are hopeful she will see how it is only a different way to join the family...but nothing more than that. Did you parents have any bio siblings? Do you know your birthparents? Sorry if this is to personal...tell me to shut my pie hole if it is!

jntaylor11

No, no worries:)my parents got me when I was 3 mons, my adoption was closed, so I don't know very much. I know where I was born and basic backgrounds but that's about it. I've always been curious and my parents told me that when I turned 18 I could try to get more information but I never have. I always said I'd look into it when I got pregnant and here I am, almost 19 weeks and I haven't done it;) that is tough with your daughter. She is very lucky to have you guys, and you shouldn't feel guilty, idk how you'd make a 3.5 year old understand adoption... I don't really ever remember my parents ever having a big talk with me about it, it was just something I always knew, they were very open with me, they made it clear that my birth mother couldn't take care of a baby and that they couldn't have one but always wanted one, So I was ok with it. I never had any brothers or sisters though so your daughter is very lucky:)

soon2Bkranz

Thanks...and hello hormones since I am crying. So many adults I know that were adopted hear my story and I am noticing they are all saying she is so lucky to have siblings..That makes us so happy!

We had a really open adoption but birth mom kinda went off the deep end. So I in contact with birthdather and birth grandmas. Also one grandma has her birthsister...

We talk about adoption...she "knows" we read books etc..But the deal is I couldnt have babies...DId 5 IVFs had 5 losses with all normal babies. But now I have (god willing) gone on to have 2 babies...I do credit her...That my body was waiting for her. That she was the one meant to make us a family...

Anyways I never wanted it to be a big deal...just a piece of her...like brown eyes. But she is bringing it up so we try to answer...Last night she called me back to her room after bed and said "mommy you adopted me and I adopted you" she is just perfect!

jntaylor11

I think that's the best thing to be open about it, as long as she knows, she may not understand it yet, but she will eventually. And that is a great way of putting it, that you guys were waiting for her to start your family, someone knew that your babies would need a good big sister;) She sounds so lucky to have found you guys and she sounds adorable. btw idk how to make it show under my name but I'm just west of Sacramento, and my mom actually grew up and San Jose:)

soon2Bkranz

Jennifer was born in Sacramento! At UC Davis. Her birthfather still lives there. We still own in San Jose and have renters...yay cali housing economy! But last year moved to Gilroy to get a "forever home" big enough for all the kids we want. Our local nor cal board used to be pretty active but its way slower now...there are a lot of sac ladies.

jntaylor11

Yes I posted in the nor cal board to see how many ppl were n there from sac, there are a lot. But I agree, I rarely go on there because its so slow:( but I spend a little time on this one and a lot on the Aug board:) what a small world:)

soon2Bkranz

My docs cant decide if I am due Aug 27th or Sept 9. I started off in Sept so I have mostly stayed there...but we will see.

jntaylor11

O wow thats a bit of difference. So will they tell you what they think at your second ultrasound? If your having one... Lol. we were a few days ahead at our first ultrasound, and I felt movement mid way through week 17 which is a little early for a first timer, But thats about it. I'm interested in seeing if we are still ahead or not at our anatomy scan:) Are you finding out the gender in this one?

soon2Bkranz

No we are "team green". We did know with Jennifer but didnt tell anybody. With our son we didnt find out.

I have had a million ultrasounds since I am high risk with all the miscarriages etc..I am on daily blood thinner shots. So my regular ob dated me at Sept 9. But when I went for my Nt scan the baby was wayy too big to get the measurements. So they dated me at Aug 27th.

My "big"ultrasound is tomorrow so we will see what they date me. I am thinking Sept 2nd! LOL All I know is nobody is inducing me for a long time since thats a big difference in due dates!!

Where are you delivering? I am with Kaiser

jntaylor11

Cool, we are finding out with this one, and hopefully will be team green with #2:) I'm jealous! Our anatomy scan isnt until April 12:/ we are delivering at woodland health care in woodland, about 20 mins west of sac. I would have liked to go with Sutter, but it didn't work out. My BF just had her baby with kaiser, she seems to like them, it was her first and she felt the is a lot of support.

soon2Bkranz

I have heard good things about woodland! I loved our Kaiser they have midwives and I wanted pain med free adn they really helped and supported that.

 

jntaylor11

I like woodland so far. They do more of a group practice, so I've seen 1 OB and 2 midwives and I see another MW in two weeks. The only thing I don't like is they don't offer water births which was something I was interested in, but they have tubs that you can labor in, you just have to get out for delivery. We'll see how it goes. Im excited to take a tour, I think a majority of my husbands family was born in the hospital and vie never heard anything bad... But idk if anyone would tell me at this point if they had a bad experience;) hope your apt went well today:)