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tfarabians

Background: my  FIL and I do not speak.  He came to Cruz's birthday party and would not say a word to me or look me in the eye.

So it was great that my in-laws (fil and smil (smil is only 4 years older than dh and I)) recognized my birthday and sent me pajamas, however the enormous size they sent me was pretty offensive(not even at my heaviest was I that large), especially when they saw me a month ago. (having just lost 40lbs)  I think it was their passive agressive way of just one more dig at me.  So they couldn't send me something from someplace normal that I could just exchange it.... nope I will have to pay to ship the pajamas back and figure out if there is another pair of pajamas I can wear.  So now I have 2 questions.  1) Can I say something like "Thank you for thinking of me on my birthday, hopefully I can exchange the pajamas for a much smaller size"  and 2) Do I have to sign the email "Love"  or can I just put "Sincerely"

 

pixelvixen

LOL.  Some people just never "get" sizes, could they be like that?  I know some of my relatives are like that.  One year they'll get me something that there's no way in my lifetime I could fit into and then the next year it's bigger than I hope to ever be.  Could they have made a mistake? I know you probably don't think so, but I try to give people the benefit of the doubt.

I would probably not say anything about the wrong size, because even if it was a dig, you're the better person for not pushing it back on them. 

Maybe say something like "thank you for the pjs, it was very thoughtful of you to send me a gift on my birthday." And just sign your name.  You don't have to write "love" or "sincerely"...

cwhip77

I agree with Pix... worse case scenario and they were trying to insult you, I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of acknowledging it.  I'd just thank them for the gesture and sign your name. 

MrsHeidiR

I agreed with the pp.  It is better not to try to dig back.  Even if it was done on purpose, it serves nothing to acknowledge it.  In fact, if it was intended to be a dig acknowledging it would actually let them know they got to you.  I would go with sugar sweet.....nothing fake....so no "Love"....Sincerely or nothing at all is just fine. 

Short, nice, simple, to the point.....it will remove the drama. 

Seattle_JiLLn

Just say "thank you for thikning of me on my birthday", no need to write "love".  ANd then just give them to good will.  I wouldn't pay to exchange them.

m&m823

I haven't read the other responses yet....

I would send them a pic of you in the PJs along with a thank you card.  And I wouldn't sign it love or sincerely.  Just your name.  And you should be beaming a big smile in the picture.  That way, they can see how huge they are and you have not indulged their passive-aggressiveness.