Clicky: Which was more exciting, engagement or bfp?

shoeboxx

I was thinking one day how I was much more excited about having a baby than getting married.  Don't get me wrong, I was excited about getting married, but knowing I was bringing a life into the world was more exciting for me. 

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Shayna0182

bfp!  I had an inkling that the engagement was coming, but it was more exciting to find out I was pregnant.  Dh and I were already living together when we got engaged, so not too much changed once we were married. 

kcisthebombdotcom

BFP for sure! I didnt think getting engaged was too exciting.

shoeboxx

KC_13:

BFP for sure! I didnt think getting engaged was too exciting.

Okay, so I'm not alone in that camp.  I wore my engagment ring on my middle finger for a long time because it needed to be sized.  I called H my boyfriend until we got married, lol! 

superaunt

nothing compares to a BFP when it's wanted IMO... nothing except seeing that doll for the first time.

cripes i'm such a sap!

SailorGray

Is it terrible that I said my engagement? We had been together for about 4 years and I was starting to wonder what was going on.  Then all of a sudden I was taken to a beautiful mountain with an awesome view and given a really nice diamond ring. I was engaged! I had no doubts or worries about marrying my H.

With the BFP, it didn't really hit me until the babe was here and along with the excitement, I was VERY nervous about becoming a mom.

melody921

Both were exciting, but BFP definitely wins out. It was a combo of excitement, anticipation, fear, haha

shoeboxx

SailorGray:

Is it terrible that I said my engagement? We had been together for about 4 years and I was starting to wonder what was going on.  Then all of a sudden I was taken to a beautiful mountain with an awesome view and given a really nice diamond ring. I was engaged! I had no doubts or worries about marrying my H.

With the BFP, it didn't really hit me until the babe was here and along with the excitement, I was VERY nervous about becoming a mom.

No way! 

shoeboxx

superaunt:

nothing compares to a BFP when it's wanted IMO... nothing except seeing that doll for the first time.

cripes i'm such a sap!

I have a secret...the first time I saw LO I didn't fall in love   My poor deprived child.  Once we got in our room, I was in love, but I thought 'I have a funny looking kid'. 

kcisthebombdotcom

shoeboxx:

KC_13:

BFP for sure! I didnt think getting engaged was too exciting.

Okay, so I'm not alone in that camp.  I wore my engagment ring on my middle finger for a long time because it needed to be sized.  I called H my boyfriend until we got married, lol! 

lol! My engagement was pretty uneventful. We had discussed getting married, we had already been living together and I picked out the ring I wanted (I'm a picky b!tch, lol!). I mean, of course I was happy, but it was nothing compared to seeing that second line. We were literally jumping up and down like little kids. LOL

mara005

BFP, because we were told we would have a hard time TTC, so it was a super surprise and way more exciting!

nealbl

well DH and I were already living together and pretty much living a married life when we got engaged. It was so amazing and exciting to get married and to call him my husband but wasn't a huge life changer since we were already living that life.

The BFP meant a whole new life was about to begin so I guess it was more exciting. Both we amazing times though!!!

2-Step

I picked equal because I think they were both perfect for the stage I was at in my life at the time. Getting engaged was the first step toward starting my family and I was so happy to be marrying my DH, planning a wedding etc., but was totally not ready for a baby at that point. Getting my BFP was super excited in a different way because we were totally ready to start our family, but it happened so quickly that it was also more scary and there were a lot more unknowns for me than getting engaged. Both were amazing in totally different ways!

BethD76

I love your questions.

BFP. DH were already good friends. Getting married was just making the same more official. Life with baby is never the same. In a good way.

shoeboxx

BethD76:

I love your questions.

BFP. DH were already good friends. Getting married was just making the same more official. Life with baby is never the same. In a good way.

Hahaha...thanks! 

That's a great way to put it. 

beautifulstr13

BFP because we tried for over a year with 4 months of fertility meds. We both cried. 

homebird

Well, I'm embarssed to admit that I wasn't happy when I got my bfp. It was a suprise. We had been married for four years and wanted kids, but we had literally JUST had a discussion (like, 3 days before my bfp) about how we wanted to wait another year to start trying. We were using protection, consistently. So, when I realized my period was late and I got a positive, I cried.

My mood changed quickly once I had the chance to process everything, so I'd say my pregnancy was more exciting than my engagement. Just not the actual bfp.

shoeboxx

homebird:

Well, I'm embarssed to admit that I wasn't happy when I got my bfp. It was a suprise. We had been married for four years and wanted kids, but we had literally JUST had a discussion (like, 3 days before my bfp) about how we wanted to wait another year to start trying. We were using protection, consistently. So, when I realized my period was late and I got a positive, I cried.

My mood changed quickly once I had the chance to process everything, so I'd say my pregnancy was more exciting than my engagement. Just not the actual bfp.

Okay, I have another secret...I felt the same way.  I was in denial and told H to stop jumping up and down because the test probably wasn't accurate and I'd take one when I came home from work.  I got a big slap in the face when I read the instructions that said FMU was the most accurate.  By the end of the day, I was super excited!!! 

chefs_baby

I picked other. I got engaged on the delivery table. So the most exciting time was delivering my ds1 and getting engaged at the same time.

Chrysallys

Considering both DH and I have IF, BFP. Weddings are a dime a dozen.

slmcronelaw

shoeboxx:

superaunt:

nothing compares to a BFP when it's wanted IMO... nothing except seeing that doll for the first time.

cripes i'm such a sap!

I have a secret...the first time I saw LO I didn't fall in love   My poor deprived child.  Once we got in our room, I was in love, but I thought 'I have a funny looking kid'. 

ME TOO!!! I had such a stressful delivery and hard time afterwards that I was so disconnected from her and I felt horrible! But, of course, it didn't take long and I fall more in love with her everyday!!!

 

aeg51107

I said engagement...

Everything about the engagement for me was a surprise. I had no idea that he was going to ask me and the ring (gorgeous!) was a total shocker too.  For the bfp, I was charting and my temps stayed up, so I kind of knew it was going to be a bfp when I tested.

I just answered for the initial moment though.......preparing and waiting for the baby and finally meeting him was more fun/exciting! 

KristinKD

BFP. I knew the proposal was coming, but my first pregnancy (after a year of ttc and fertility treatments, not to mention a false alarm period) was such an exciting surprise.

MarMat

for sure BFP!

I was already getting used to the idea that I would have no ring for my wedding (long story).

And the BFP, we were trying, but thinking that it would take us longer, besides DH had told me 2 weeks before that he "felt" we were pregnant. I was an awesome surprise!