Name ? Sort of repost from 1st tri.

vernab

DH wants to use a family name (William) for this LO if it's a boy.  I don't hate the name, it's just not my favorite.  MIL's dog is also named Willy, which bothers me.  She also guessed we would use this name for DS and really wants us to use it, which while being very petty, also doesn't make want to use it. 

He doesn't want to give LO a nickname so Liam is out, if LO wants a nickname DH wants him to pick it himself.  After a lot of discussing last night he did say that we could use it for a middle name (even though, I know he reallty wants it to be the first name) if I really wanted to.

Should I take the out, or let him use the family name?  Did anyone use a name they didn't love right away?  Thanks, ladies! 

knbarr

I wouldnt go with a name I'm not stuck on. My daughter has a family name for a middle name which I like. But I don't like having lots of jrs in the family- We have like 10 Thomas's

SailorGray

I think it's important that you choose a name that you both like. If I suggest a name to H or vice versa and the other doesn't like it, it is thrown out.  I think a name is too important to just settle on in order to make the other happy. I also would not push a name on my H if I knew he really didn't like it. I do think making it his middle name would be a nice compromise, though.

alli&pat

I wanted DS named for my father (also, William) but DH was against having the name William as a first name because he didn't like it.  So, we made it the middle name and searched for a first name we both loved, which also happened to be a family name.

William goes so well with everything that I would make it the middle name and search for a first name you both love. 

soko987

Take the out. You both need to agree. I'm with you on the dog thing. That's one of the reason Lucy was ruled out as a name for DD: it's my aunt's dog's name.

melody921

Take the out. If he's agreeing to let it be a mn, I'd go with that. Both parents should like their child's name. If you don't love William as a fn, keep looking. I'm also not a real big fan of family names though.

shoeboxx

LO's middle name is Kingston and I hated it at first.  Aside from that, MIL (monster in law) kindly pointed out H had a dog named King (we don't speak).  As time went on, I grew to love LO's middle name.  His full name sounds 'strong' to me. 

Singingmama

Is there anyway that you could make William the first name, but call the child by his middle name? In my family, my father is George E.... and he goes by his middle name, my brother is George M.... and he goes by his middle name. My grandfather is George T... and he actually goes by George, but only because his father went by his middle name.

However, I agree with you on family names. I am really glad that it's my brother who will be expected to pass on the family name. My name is 100% original and when my mother was trying to convince me to go with a family name, I told her I didn't see the need, since I don't have a family name, KWIM?

KariChadDora

Personally, I know it may sound petty to some, but just based on the dog thing alone I would not use it as a first name.  I think using it as a middle name is a great compromise and it's a wonderful middle name and should go with most anything.  A first name for your child should really be something you both love, not something you settle on. 

kcisthebombdotcom

I didnt like the family name that DH wanted to name DS. We used it as a middle name and chose a first name we both loved. That's what I would do personally.

essey1234

I would never pick a name that an animal in the family has. That being said....i would not give into either decision at this point. It is way too early and truthfully you don't like it. So a compromise is needed. Keep it on the list and go back t the drawing board, there is a name out there that both of you will love and he can middle name William

AutumnBride929

Use it as a middle name.  Unless it grows on you over time as a first name, there's no reason for you (or anyone) to use a family name you don't love JUST because it's a family name.  I think it's crazy that some people do, lol.  Using it as a middle name is a completely fair compromise, IMO.

P.S. Our boy's middle name will likely end up being William, too (after my grandpa). It's a good, strong name.  

ryry1977

I would just use it as a middle name.  No use using a name you don't love.  If you 2 have trouble finding a name you could always fall back on it.