Extracurricular Registry

andy'sgirl07

Hi everyone, my DH and I have been working on our registry and I think we are going to go with two places, Target and BabiesRUs, my question however is this...

We are interested in registering for some things that you can't find in either of these stores. (if this is totally rude please say so!) For example, we really like a rocking chair that we found at a furniture store, but they don't have registry options and it costs enough that I would never want just one person to buy it on their own! we're also interested in a bike trailer to haul baby around, and we live near an amazing zoo and would love a zoo pass to be able to take baby year round. 

I realize that these are bigger items and honestly I would be happier if many people went in together to get a zoo pass, for instance, than if each of these people bought something smaller that I could afford on my own later. We also have many of our larger, furniture needs such as a crib and dresser, so people wouldn't have to worry about those. 

How would you go about creating this "registry" or would you abandon the idea altogether?  

memali26

Not to be rude, but an "extras' registry is kind of tacky, I think. It's one thing if people ask for other ideas - if someone comes to you and says, "Hey, we want to buy you a rocking chair, is there anything specific you like?" by all means, tell them about the one you found. But I just don' t see how you could make an extra list of things like a zoo pass tactfully.

And things like a zoo pass are really great birthday/Christmas present ideas if/when grandparents, etc., ask what to get the munchkin.

stace114

I would use word of mouth for these items. For instance, do you have a bunch of aunts or work friends that usually chip in for bigger items? In my family, my aunts love to pitch in to buy a bigger gift..hey prefer to (plus they are so no one else will get).  And I love it too. Have a family member (mom, sister etc.) spread the word if you feel uncomfortable telling them. Make a group gift idea list...I am sure some group would love to give!

andy'sgirl07

Thank you for your kind honesty! it is muchly appreciated! I think I like your idea of waiting till people ask for specifics better, the longer I typed the OP the more I wondered about the tactfulness! . We will probably end up buying most of these things ourselves!

 

MissyOlivePants

If you do a registry on Amazon.com & use their wish list tool bar, you can add things from any website.

cozylittlecave

The only option for actually registering for those things is through Amazon's Universal registry feature. 

That said... bike trailers and zoo passes are pushing it. It'd be like me registering for a gorgeous (expensive) chandelier I might think about putting in the baby's room- not ok. Not gonna lie, if I saw that stuff on a registry, I'd think you were being greedy and ridiculous- especially since those things seem more for you than for baby. And the zoo pass certainly seems like something you'd want a little later (I don't think you'll want to go until baby is at least a LITTLE older). I would abandon the idea- particularly if ALL of these ideas are pricey items people need to go in on together. While they do sometimes choose to do that, you should never assume that people will need to. The rocker sounds more reasonable, but if it's just that one thing, I think you'll be ponying up for that one yourselves. 

Not to mention the fact many people don't even bother with registries...

Of course, if someone does come up and ask you if there's anything 'big' that they and so-in-so can go in on, go ahead and mention one of them. 

dedekins1001

If you really want to spread the word have your mom/sister do this.  That is a great suggestion. 

The last baby shower I went to they registered for some very high end stuff, ie HD digital camera with nice lenses.  Everyone was talking at the shower about how tacky some of their expectations were. 

With my families no one really uses the registry anyway, mom's usually end up getting nothing but clothes, not the stuff you need.  So do what you want, what you get in the end us usually a different story.   Good luck

momtoRaegan041008

If someone or a group of people ask you if there is something that you still would like or need, then you could suggest the rocking chair.  I would buy the zoo pass on your own or ask for it for Christmas.  We didn't take our daughter to the zoo until she was 1.  Plus children are free under 2 (at least at the zoo's around here) so they would be buying you and your husband/SO the pass and not the baby, KWIM. 

soon2Bkranz

I would way prefer to get somebody a zoo pass with a group than most other things!! Spread the word!

quezzo

cozylittlecave:

That said... bike trailers and zoo passes are pushing it. It'd be like me registering for a gorgeous (expensive) chandelier I might think about putting in the baby's room- not ok. Not gonna lie, if I saw that stuff on a registry, I'd think you were being greedy and ridiculous- especially since those things seem more for you than for baby. And the zoo pass certainly seems like something you'd want a little later (I don't think you'll want to go until baby is at least a LITTLE older). I would abandon the idea- particularly if ALL of these ideas are pricey items people need to go in on together. While they do sometimes choose to do that, you should never assume that people will need to. The rocker sounds more reasonable, but if it's just that one thing, I think you'll be ponying up for that one yourselves. 

This. If you want these things that badly then I think you need to get them yourselves.  

MrsNole

rmj80:

I would abandon the idea of an extra registry and plan on purchasing those items myself.

Ditto.

mabma80

This is what I believe, and was told, a registry should have. Just the basics of what a new baby needs.  Diapers, wipes, bibs, blankets, bottles, pacifiers, booties, onsies, clothes, etc. You get the idea.  Anything big item like what you've mentioned, should be kept off of the list. Unless you have very well to do friends, it would be inappropriate.  Usually the grandparents buy the bigger stuff like the travel system strollers, swing, play yard, etc.

The zoo pass could come later. 

MommyMeganx3

 No offense, but your extra list makes you sound greedy...

Me and anyone I know views babyshowers as celebrating a new baby coming. Not as "ooh lets see how much I can get!" ya know? Those things you don't NEED and honestly a baby isn't going to enjoy a zoo the first year...thats more for toddler years. The rocking chair i could see reasonable, but they have those at our BRU and Target...

lmjt

IDK anything about a bike trailer, but our zoo pass was only $94. for the year, DS is free, and it was mostly tax deductible. Good to ask for at Christmas time. 

I think asking for anything beyond a registry at a baby store is sorta tacky. I feel uncomfortable asking anyone but my mom or grandma for anything, JMO. 

marriedtoeric

I'd start an amazon registry and all all those things using their universal registry feature.  I believe myregistry.com has the same concept.  GL!