I can't take the crying anymore :(

liladelphia215

Does anyone else feel like they have the most cranky baby during the day?

My LO will get fed, changed, and will be so cranky when awake. I notice she is tired and I put her down for a nap, which she fights with a vengeance, and will sometimes go out for half hour increments. I feel like I only get a few minutes a day of happy play time. She is almost seven weeks old, and DH is at work from 3pm - 1am, so I am home alone with her for the majority of the day, and alone with her during the dreaded evening hours. I just feel like pulling my hair out sometimes. I don't think she has colic because she does calm down when I put her in her baby carrier. The one good thing, is that she is a great night sleeper. I get her to sleep from 10 or 10:30 until 4:30 and then from 5-7:30 and from 8:30 or 9 until around 10. But after that it is all crank.

I don't know what I am looking for; maybe someone who can relate? Or maybe I just needed to vent my frustration. 

sarag0116

I think everyone goes through this.  Right now, I feel like I have a happy baby... but then I look back to 2 days ago when I was pulling my hair out b/c she was fussy most of the day and really unhappy that evening.  I think when things go good, we just tend to "forget" about those bad days.  But everyone has been there.  You are not alone.  You do have a harder job being without DH during that evening fussiness.  Those are the times I feel like I NEED to hand off DD to DH.  So I'm sorry about that.  But hang in there!  Better days are ahead...

liladelphia215

Thanks, Sarag, that definitely helps DH also took the day off today, so he took the baby while I took our dogs on a nice, refreshing, walk. Lucky for him, she napped the whole time ;-)

misskassielynn

I went to a moms group last week and the nurse told me about something called the period of purple crying. PURPLE stands for:  Peak (it peaks between four to eight weeks and follows a bell curve), Unexpected (comes with little warning), Resists soothing (may not stop no matter how you soothe), Pain-Like-Face (looks to be in pain even if they are not), Long Lasting (for several hours), and Evening (happens most often in the evening). Basically its a theory that babies just go through this developmental period, and what we as parents need to understand is we do what we do what we can to soothe them but we won't always be able to. I have found knowing these things allows me to soothe him without felling frustrated when something doesn't work or stops working. I don't stop trying, but it helps me stay positive to know he is normal, not in pain, and it will get better!Hope this helps!

cgr8979

GrahamSchneider:

Thanks, Sarag, that definitely helps DH also took the day off today, so he took the baby while I took our dogs on a nice, refreshing, walk. Lucky for him, she napped the whole time ;-)

Of course this would happen...and his words were probably "I don't understand what you mean about her being cranky...maybe she just loves being with her daddy" lol

I'm sorry this is happening. I hope it gets better soon for you!

liladelphia215

misskassielynn:

I went to a moms group last week and the nurse told me about something called the period of purple crying. PURPLE stands for:  Peak (it peaks between four to eight weeks and follows a bell curve), Unexpected (comes with little warning), Resists soothing (may not stop no matter how you soothe), Pain-Like-Face (looks to be in pain even if they are not), Long Lasting (for several hours), and Evening (happens most often in the evening). Basically its a theory that babies just go through this developmental period, and what we as parents need to understand is we do what we do what we can to soothe them but we won't always be able to. I have found knowing these things allows me to soothe him without felling frustrated when something doesn't work or stops working. I don't stop trying, but it helps me stay positive to know he is normal, not in pain, and it will get better!Hope this helps!

Interesting - Honestly, all of "PURPLE" applies to Lilly for sure. Especially when I read 'Unexpected.' We were literally playing on her mat, and having a good few minutes, she was smiling and cooing - and out of nowhere she started crying! Like one baby turned into another in no time flat.  

 

Thank you for sharing this! 

liladelphia215

cgr8979:

GrahamSchneider:

Thanks, Sarag, that definitely helps DH also took the day off today, so he took the baby while I took our dogs on a nice, refreshing, walk. Lucky for him, she napped the whole time ;-)

Of course this would happen...and his words were probably "I don't understand what you mean about her being cranky...maybe she just loves being with her daddy" lol

I'm sorry this is happening. I hope it gets better soon for you!

 

No, but he was also taking a nap on the couch, which I don't get to do ::Shakes loving but angry fist at DH::   

misskassielynn

GrahamSchneider:

misskassielynn:

I went to a moms group last week and the nurse told me about something called the period of purple crying. PURPLE stands for:  Peak (it peaks between four to eight weeks and follows a bell curve), Unexpected (comes with little warning), Resists soothing (may not stop no matter how you soothe), Pain-Like-Face (looks to be in pain even if they are not), Long Lasting (for several hours), and Evening (happens most often in the evening). Basically its a theory that babies just go through this developmental period, and what we as parents need to understand is we do what we do what we can to soothe them but we won't always be able to. I have found knowing these things allows me to soothe him without felling frustrated when something doesn't work or stops working. I don't stop trying, but it helps me stay positive to know he is normal, not in pain, and it will get better!Hope this helps!

Interesting - Honestly, all of "PURPLE" applies to Lilly for sure. Especially when I read 'Unexpected.' We were literally playing on her mat, and having a good few minutes, she was smiling and cooing - and out of nowhere she started crying! Like one baby turned into another in no time flat.  

 

Thank you for sharing this! 

The website has more info: https://www.purplecrying.info/index.php?

*Merry*

Oh how I totally understand!!

 Ellie & I have had a very rough week!!  DH was out of town working form Sunday-Friday and so it was just me and Ellie.  Sunday was great, she was happy and content and we had a wonderful time.  She slept good Sunday night but then Monday came and she woke up a whole new baby.  For 2 days she cried and screamed and just was not happy.  Nothing seemed to help.  She refused to nap Monday (other hten 15 minutes here or there) but at least she slept good Monday night so that is what made it bearable.  Tuesday I took a shower about 4pm when my father (who was in town for just a few hours) stopped by to take us out for dinner.  Thankfully Ellie fell asleep right before we got to the restaurant at 5pm.  She napped for about 3 hours and then was up and cranky again.  She slept on and off that night, it wasn't our best night but not our worst..  I know she was tired but she just kept fighting it. I was starting to get so frusterated, I just didn't know what to do to help her.  Then Wednesday my little angel baby was back.  She napped great, and was content when she was awake.  Then Wednesday night came and I can honestly say it's the worst night we've had.  She slept form midnight to 1am and that was it.  We both had a few good cries that night.  I wanted to call Husby but I knew he was on reduced rest so I didn't want to bother him.  Thursday on one of his breaks husby called and I jsut broke down.  She was up all night and was cranky all day and I just needed a break but noone was around.  Thankfully she slept well Thursday night and Dh got home at noon on Friday.  I tried my best not to pawn her off on him since he'd had a long week but I just needed a few minutes to myself.

 

 The days and nights when she is cranky are horrible but days like today when she is happy, content and taking regular naps are wonderful.  I just have to remind myself that we all have our good days and our bad days.  She doesn't hate me and isn't angry with me, she's just a little baby trying to figure out this whole new world.

TiffanyTheMom

We're going through PURPLE crying right now too. It's exhausting.

liladelphia215

Thanks ladies.. all the responses have made me feel so much better, for real!

erbear

Sounds normal. This is a peak fussy time. I think my LO eats, is happy for about 10-20 minutes, then starts to fuss b/c she's tired. This continues until she falls asleep.

It's all a phase

liladelphia215

erbear:

Sounds normal. This is a peak fussy time. I think my LO eats, is happy for about 10-20 minutes, then starts to fuss b/c she's tired. This continues until she falls asleep.

It's all a phase

 

Thanks On a side note, I see you are from Philly - so am I Hello neighbor!