Emotions

aarchuleta

I am currently at the end of my 25th week and I feel like I would be able to sail a boat if I were to collect the tears I've been shedding lately. I feel like my husband doesn't care anymore and is unattracted to me. I look in the mirror and realize I'm not the size 2 I was before. I even got upset when my husband watched "our show" without me. Has anyone had these feelings??? If so, how did you handle the situation? 

Thanks for the input

voplo

Well, I know exactly how you feel. Today I have been crying because I have really a lot of stress for different reasons (I am not going to explain now...) and he has ignored me completely! Then of course, I cried because I felt that he doesn't care at all about me. My hormones are making me really crazy...

I just try to wait until I calm and I can think clearly before I speak to him and something like "I want the divorce" come out of my lips...(just kidding). But sometimes when you give yourself a little bit of time to think about why are you so upset helps. My husband is really a nice person, but has his problems too and his way to cope with them, so I try to put him in the balance and always the weight on the "good side" is heavier. Some other times, he is just being a jerk and he deserves some spanks. 

 Just cheer up, I am sure you are very attractive to him even being pregnant We all have blue days and....it sucks. 

sarteratops

I get those feelings a lot. The problem with being pregnant is you never know when your hormones are making you overreact or when you're thinking rationally. Usually it's not until after the fact when we have time to reflect on the situation that we can decide.

Whenever I have been feeling that way lately I have been trying to talk to the man right away. I've found that ignoring the feelings will make them worse and make you feel more alone and most of the time it's just a misunderstanding. Just as we know that men can NEVER understand what we are going through at the time, it's also hard for us to imagine what they're going through. I guarantee you that your husband cares deeply about you and is still attracted to you, maybe he is just going through some other things himself. He probably has no idea how sensitive your feelings are right now. I had to have several discussions with my man about how the small things he did affected me and in turn how they then affect the baby. He had no clue that I was feeling that way and things have been a lot better since. Try to make him aware of how delicate your feelings are and I'm sure things will get better.

If not, that's what we're all here for.