confession: ttc #2

kel716

DH and I are not yet ttcing #2...   but why does the thought of it scare me more than ttc #1? 

Am I alone in this camp? 

AgathiP04

I had no interest in TTC #2 until Niko was nearing age 3.  Then I got the itch  

l.m.k.

We've already got the itch. I'm off BC. But since I'm still nursing 8x/day, we'll see if/when AF arrives.

Mrs_D_in_KY

I'm right there with you. The thought of TTC #2 scares the beejebus out of me! 

buckeyethor

I think it is completely normal. You already know the level of commitment you are getting into and you want your already here child to be comfortable and not ignored bc they are already your world.

teacherjess

Now that I know how much work kids are, I am terrified to TTC #2! We aren't ready yet, but I fear that when the time comes, I will be too scared to move forward. We are kind of getting used to life with one child and, honestly, life is very convenient for us now with Leah being older. It is hard to picture willingly going back into the kind of life that having an infant requires.

kel716

teacherjess:

Now that I know how much work kids are, I am terrified to TTC #2! We aren't ready yet, but I fear that when the time comes, I will be too scared to move forward. We are kind of getting used to life with one child and, honestly, life is very convenient for us now with Leah being older. It is hard to picture willingly going back into the kind of life that having an infant requires.

This is exactly how I feel.  But then I watch B play in his room by himself and I get a pang for how much I want a sibling for him.  Then I see a snuggly newborn..  and my heart is melting.  And then my mind races back to reality and I think about how much work newborns are...  and I get scared.  I've gotta get over it because I know in my mind that all will be fine.  Maybe a little crazier, but fine.  If that makes any sense. 

 

allobosc

I think I was more scared with how quick I got pregnant with #2.  I thought for sure we'd have nearly 6 mos. at least.  I was freaking out but it all has worked out very well so far.  PS--the newborn phase this time around flies by way faster than it did with #1.  Too bad, so sad.

Dani3679

I'm kind of panicking (sp?) about starting over again! Ry is so independent now. My fear is not the newborn stage, but more the 1-3 range. I just remember how stressful it is having to chase after them. I'm also afraid of how Ry's world will really be flipped upside down. For the first 5 years of her life it was just her and I and then in the last 2 years we moved in with Quinton, but she's still been the only focus. I have fears that she'll have ill feelings towards the baby since he/she will take so much attention away from her. Wow, this turned into a novel! I'm sure there will be more posts in the future about these major fears I have since I barely touched on all that's going through my head lately!

hav2run

I am TTC #3.  I want a baby more than I want anything else right now, but for some reason, every time I think we might get a positive test, I freak the fark out and question every possibility.  It worries me because I did not do that with DD.  I think the practical side of me is beating the hopeful side's arse, and every aberrant thought is a big deal.  It's not fear of what is up ahead, it's fear of the known and it is very normal. Why wouldn't you question what you know about raising a NB, and how you do that and deal with a PSer?   Can I handle?  Can we afford? How do I? How will we? And so on.  It's hard to imagine life with another LO, but I also can't imagine life without it.  Crazy. 

JLPT830

I'm not gonna lie.....it's not been all sunshine and rainbows.  But then DS runs into the room trying to make DD smile and it makes all the craziness totally worthwhile.....especially when she looks right at him and flashes this huge toothless grin. 

MrsMoher

JLPT830:

I'm not gonna lie.....it's not been all sunshine and rainbows.  But then DS runs into the room trying to make DD smile and it makes all the craziness totally worthwhile.....especially when she looks right at him and flashes this huge toothless grin. 

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for this!!  I am completely freaked out (thus my post the other night) and I have maybe 48 hours until I have 2! 

Even with going to an RE and TTC for nearly 2 years to get this one when that positive test came up I still about had a heart attack.  And ditto Buckeye and Teacherjess... life is easy (relatively) now with an older child and I worry about Eli and how he'll take it.  I just think it is easy for two consenting adults to make a commitment to have DC #1 than it is for 2 consenting adults and a child who although asked for a baby has no clue to make that same decision.  KWIM? 

Superchicy

As much as I want another LO, I am petrified to TTC again.  I'm not even worried about the pregnancy, but caring for 2 LOs, I can't imagine how I'd do it if I had another one that sleeps as bad as DD.   I try to think about how close my sister and I are, and how I want that for DD, but it doesn't help anything that DH is not at all close to his brother. 

We are also approaching the deadline for having kids 3 years apart later this summer (my original goal), right now the thought of getting pregnant this summer terrifies me.  I think for now we're on the 4 yr-apart plan and if we don't have another before DH turns 40 (2 years from now), we'll probably be 1 and done.

linzpinz14

Pretty much what everyone else said!  It is and was scary!  I just think about how much I love my little bro and sis and how much DH relies on his siblings now that his mom isn't here and it reminds me that there is a much bigger reason for having multiple children.  I can't wait to watch my two little girls grow up with each other!  I know it will be harder on DH and I, but it will also give us great joy!  I am excited for all of you to announce your 2nd (and 3rd!) BFPs!