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an apology (mostly for mstie)
I'm sorry for the cryptic FB status the other night. This is awful of me, but this one woman at our church is always AWing about her perfect, amazing children and always one-upping everyone else. She does have really lovely kids (I like them a lot!), but I was at my wits' end on Friday and when I saw her post:
"is so proud of [PerfectChild1]...got her repot card today. Of 31 evaluated areas, 20 were 4's (exceeds expectations/working one grade level above current grade) and 11 were 3's (meets expectations/working at grade level)."
I couldn't take it anymore. That's why my FB status said simply: "oh barf."
I really try to not be nasty judgy inside like that, but as a teacher it drives me crazy when people don't get that other kids can work 10x harder than her naturally bright daughter and still not get such glowing report cards.
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Re: an apology (mostly for mstie)
I can't speak for that particular person, but I often use Facebook to demonstrate appreciation for someone. Declaring "you did good" publicly often means more than a quiet thank you. (It works especially well on men... you should see DH's chest puff up when I AW him). Maybe she is just reinforcing good behavior?
Personally, my joy about someone I care about is in no way an indictment about others. But again, can't speak for her. And for all I know, I'm blocked from a lot of news feeds. [:D}
I'm going to make an AWESOME big brother.
Oh me too, I'm sure of it. But I am very proud of my son and husband and like to celebrate them!
I think hiding the person might be the best because if it bothers you than at least you won't see the post. You can still view their profile by searching their name. You'll still be "friends" on FB and they won't know they are hidden!
i think seeing the status "oh, barf" would make me laugh. I post stuff like that all the time. If something annoys me at work or whatever. My favorite is "b!tch, please"
For me, cryptic status updates are only annoying if they are something like "why is my life always so difficult." or something like that. Those people I want to smack.
I can't speak for anyone else, but the bold above are the types of vague status updates I was referring to in my FFFC last week as irritating. They are the ones that IMO are looking for attention, and hoping people will ask "what's wrong?". Something like "Oh barf" is kinda funny and it doesn't sound like a need for attention to me, just a funny statement.
Like others said, when someone's status updates annoy me I just hide them from my News feed. That's the thing about FB anyone can post whatever they want on their page and that is okay with me. That's what FB is about. I just find that it's best for me not to look at some of them.
Haha, that was in my FFFC last week too. So irritating. I had a fb friend who's status was "hubby and I have a HUGE surprise!" and then instead of saying what it was, she "liked' everyone's comments and never responded. So irritating.
As for you not liking her AWing her kids, I don't see what is wrong with that. She is proud, which she is allowed to be, and wanted to share it. If you don't like it, hide her updates, but I don't see anything wrong with it. An "oh barf" comment to that would make me give you the side eye.
I refuse to ask "what's wrong?" when people are fishing for sympathy or attention in person or on fb. My mom does it all the time and it drives me crazy.
Shane- I had a feeling that's who you were talking about. I rolled my eyes at that too when I read it.
I think I need to clarify here. I have no problem with people being proud of their kids and celebrating their accomplishments. I think it's great and I know I do that, too (but please tell me if I get annoying). This particular person is always trying to prove that her kids are better than others' - that's what bugs me. Her kids are sweet and fun and fantastic, but she is super competitive and often seems to be pitting her kids against others instead of just being happy with who they are, even if they aren't the best at something. She'll also say things like, "My child was reading at 4 years old. Yours isn't yet? Isn't your child already 6?" It's just nasty, IMO.
Sorry for b!tching. I was feeling awful last night and now I feel better physically but like a terrible person. I don't know how to DD, though, so I won't.
You're right, I should just hide her updates. I thought I had, but maybe that disappeared with the last FB change.
Nice.
The worst are the passive-aggressive vaguebook comments. Like these from my two nieces:
Niece 1: "I now know why I was brought up knowing only certain family members......"
Niece 2: "May quit Facebook. I'm so sick of people thinking they should stick their noses in my business."
The last one made me LOL. I love them both dearly, but Facebook is NOT the place to air grievances, veiled or otherwise.
I'm going to make an AWESOME big brother.
This exactly! I refuse to play into things like that too with inquiries. If it really annoys me I'll block a person, but that means I miss out on watching drama. And I sure love me some drama.
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I don't have a problem with people AWing their kids, I do it myself, but come on we all have those friends who take it too far and get annoying. And yes, of course she can hide the updates but she's still allowed to be annoyed with someone. I don't understand at all why that gets a side eye. But hey, everyone is allowed their opinions.