Church nursery question

MeL2185

Alrighty preemie moms I have a questions. We have always been so active every week in church.

We had our girls on Sept. 30, (born weighing 2-12 and 3-10 due to IUGR.( one was in NICU until Oct. 16 and the other until Oct. 29. Then in Dec. they got RSV and we hadn't been anywhere but hospital and doctors offices.

Now its is almost the end of March and we have been saying we were going to go to church and its like I freak out at the thought of it everytime b/c I don't want to be them in the nursery- (DH is a SAHD so they aren't in daycare) I want to be back at church and have major guilt over it but just get so nervous. We have taken them to target and places where they are in stroller and we can pull the cover if needed. Nursery is different. We had all intentions to go tomorrow and one girl woke up with snotty nose this mornig.

What did you do with your twins.

ShannonSky

We didn't put DD in the nursery until she was old enough where she didn't want to sit still and would shriek if we tried to make her. We kept her with us during church until she was probably 9-10 months old. Can you take them and not put them in the nursery?

witt0198

Well, I don't have twins, but for the first 2 years we avoided church during RSV/cold/flu season all together. Then, we started going, but avoided for a few weeks if we noticed colds were getting really prominent in town. If I were to go with little ones at all, I'd probably try to keep them hidden in a worn baby carrier or in their car seat or stroller with the visors all the way down, use lots of hand wash, and try to sit in a back corner.

Could maybe you and your husband take turns going to church during cold season? I'd still be cautious during the summer, but we did venture to church during those first 2 years in the summer months. It's just not worth risking getting them sick if you can avoid it.

OH, and Evan's only been to the nursery, maybe 5 times total, and only 2 of those times were their other people in the nursery besides us.

ayram

I still wear Isaac (10 mo/7 adjusted) in church, and sit near the back so I can sneak out.

Irishsapphire

I started to bring baby to church with me at his actual age of 4 months.  My church has a mother's room--for nursing that is private, and I can watch on TV the sermon.  I really liked this room, because if baby was fussy --then I would just walk down the stairs and feed him a bottle and change his diaper.  For other mothers, they breastfeed in the mother's room--a little more private.  So it was a good time to socialize with other mothers. 

Just today, I just took him to the church nursery for the first time.  The church nursery policy was that he needed to be 6 months.  He is almost 10 months actual, 8 months adjusted.  He did okay today.  They gave me a beeper, and I was beeped out the sermon twice when he started crying and could not be calmed down.  They do not change diapers or give bottles at the nursery.  So I fed him a bottle the first time that I was beeped, and he calmed down.  And I changed his diaper the second time that I was beeped, and he calmed down.  I felt good about this being the first time to the church nursery. 

However, I will note there was another baby boy who was 9 months, and he kept crying--and every time that his parents would try to leave him there--he would start crying.  Eventually his mother gave up and just took her baby boy upstairs.  They told me that his parents have been trying for weeks.  So for some babies, it is just too much stress to be away from their parents. 

The other baby boy who was 9 months cried off and on.  But at least his parents got to enjoy the sermon. 

 Happy times at the church nursery! 

I am really looking forward to getting to know the other babies and parents better and be involved with the children's program as my baby boy gets bigger!