Planning Shower for Best Friend

abbyfp2324

I am due July 31st and my best friend, who recently found out she is pregnant, is due in mid-October. She has mentioned several times she wants to throw me a shower (haven't set a date yet), but I am just wondering if later on I should offer to throw her shower? 

I want to be realistic because I will have a newborn...so don't know how well I will be able to plan a shower being a new mom. I was also thinking maybe I could just ask one of our other friends (who isn't PG) if she would help me throw the shower so I wouldn't have to plan everything by myself? 

What should I do? I feel like since she is offering to throw my shower I should be involved in planning hers as well.  

dragon_chica

TBH, I would say it depends on the kind of person that you are.  I'm a total planner and even with a newborn I was still constantly planning because it's just who I am and what I enjoy doing.  If planning parties is one of the last things you want to do I would say no it'll drive you nuts and you'll start regretting it once the baby comes.  If you're like me it'll be a welcome change to poopy diapers and constant feeding!  If you decide to do it asking for help doesn't hurt either.  But, don't do it out of obligation otherwise to me it's not a genuine shower.  I highly doubt your BFF decided to throw you a shower in hopes that you'll do the same for her.  You should do it because you absolutely want to and it was something popped into your mind the moment she told you she was PG.  It shouldn't be an afterthought once she offered to throw yours.

wklj875

My cousin offered to throw me a shower before she found out she was pregnant. As soon as I found out she was pregnant, my first thought was "yay! I get to throw her shower".  

I gave birth at the end of January this year, my baby had to go back into the hospital a couple weeks later and then I went in the hospital for surgery a week after that, and i'm still throwing my cousins shower in a month. I will also have to travel a few hours to it with a new baby, and all the stuff for the shower and spend the whole day preparing food in someone else 's kitchen and setting up in a church i have never been to. I'm also making all the decorations myself , including a diaper cake, and am making all the prizes for the games. this is on top of getting over having a baby and surgery and taking care of my two older children.

I think you can manage a simple baby shower for your best friend, and maybe you can muster up some excitement for it, after all she is your best friend.

ermaderma

I would probably feel obligated to throw her a shower also. But, a lot of people would say you shouldn't feel obligated.

Are you close to her family at all? In my area/circle/family/whatever, usually family throws the shower, so I would see if anyone else is already thinking of throwing her a shower. if no one else is going to, i would probably enlist the help of other mutual friends to help with the planning, logistics, etc.

CourtneyR2N

I say don't feel obligated, but I probably would feel obligated.  I think asking the mutual friend to help you is a good idea.  You could go ahead and do a lot of the planning now (theme, menue) and making lists of what you will need so a lot of the "thinking" part will be done by the time that your baby gets here.