I'm hiding from the IL's.. is that bad???

Meg4583

lol..

 Well I have an excuse Baby is sleeping upstairs in his swing and I'm not moving him, so I get to hide out up here while they are all downstairs.  I'm not comfortable leaving him but I do pop downstairs from time to time. 

I miss my mom.. she did things for us while she was here. Its harder with the IL's because they are here to focus on the baby.. just the baby. 

yesterday I offered them lunch around like, 2pm.They came over at 12 and I had an interview, so lunch was the last thing on my mind!  I didn't even get any help making lunch, which annoyed me to no end.

My  mom told me to get over it, and shes right but it would have been nice to offer help since I was rushing to fix lunch and eat before the baby woke up and needed to eat!  I ended up eating lunch while nursing a baby, upstairs on the couch. Ugh. 

I know, small vents, but I needed to get them out!

smallysmallz04

I don't blame you for being annoyed by no help, I hate when my MIL comes over she just sits there and holds the baby the whole time while I get dinner together and never offers to help. She barely wants to hand him over for me to feed him!! LOL

Bathlove

Maybe they don't help out because they're worried they'll get in your way. Next time they're over and you're thinking that it would be pretty sweet if they offered a hand with something, just say, "Hey, MIL, I've got my hands tied up cooking the food. Would you mind setting the table?" or something like that. If you ask them to do little things they will likely end up feeling more comfortable around you and they might start doing those things on their own without you asking.

Just remember that you and your mom have a different relationship than you and your in-laws. Your in-laws probably don't help out because they're worried you'll get upset if they just start tidying up your house, helping you cook, setting the table, or anything else. They might be worried that if they were to do some of those things you might take it the wrong way (ex: they're tidying up because they don't think you keep a clean house, they don't think you cook good meals or they're trying to teach you how to cook). Just don't get too upset at them, and try not to hold this against them. Good luck.

Meg4583

I don't mean to sound ungrateful b/c I am thrilled they came down to see their grandchild, I just wanted help. Rather, I would have turned down the offer for help, but it would have been nice to have it offered to me..

 I'm still a tired new mommy and just needed to vent about it all...