DH and I not doing so well

jessican08 · March 2011

My H and I have been going through some personal issues for a while now and unfortunately it seems like things are getting worse and not better. Maybe it's a good thing I'm on a break this month...I may be on a break indefinitely here for a while to see if we can get back to a good place, I definitely don't want to go forward in TTC until we're there. I hope you ladies don't mind if I continue to lurk and post while we're on hiatus.

DeputiesWife · March 2011

Just wanted to offer some hugs and hope that you and your DH are able to work thru everything.

Please continue to lurk and post. We are always here for you - break or no break.

::hugs::

madelyn07 · March 2011

I'm sorry hun.

I hope you are able to get back to a good place very soon.

Ginger71 · March 2011

(((hugs))) I'm sorry...I've gone through some rough patches with my DH as well. I can tell you it did get better for us.

I'm on a bit of a break too but I'm still here every day Wink I figure I can at least give some support.....

nola8446 · March 2011

I am sorry you and your DH are having a rough time. I hope you can get back to a good place very soon. Please stay and post and lurk, we are always here for you! (((HUGS)))

abbe19 · March 2011

Sweetie-you do whatever you need to do for yourself and your DH. We love you and please take care. Come back whenever/if ever you like. (((hugs)))

Edwina.McDunnough · March 2011

Biggest hugs Jessica. I hope that you are both on firm ground soon. We're here for you, for any reason, in any way.

cookie_queen · March 2011

I'm so sorry you are having problems and are in a bad place. I hope things turn around.

Are you seeing a counselor together? We have been since we lost the boys and it is really helpful.

MrsRich0226 · March 2011

I'm sorry to hear you're going through a rough time...I hope you guys get to a good place soon!

We'll always be here for you so lurk or come around whenever you want!

Thinking of you and sending ((hugs))!

Melicakes · March 2011

SO sorry to hear this Jessica Hoping the break allows time for you and your H to be able to get back to a good place with each other.

Hugs to you Hun

amaksym05 · March 2011

I am so sorry hun. Me and my H had a really hard time when he came back from overseas and I didn?t think we were going to make it. It is good you are a break and don?t have the stress of holding everything together. I wish you guys the best and hope time will heal the wounds and you guys can come back to a good place. ((hugs)) We are always here for you!!

07may07 · March 2011

((hugs)) I am sorry that things are rough between you and your DH. I hope that you two are able to work things out and get back to a good place. We're here for you!

jessican08 · March 2011

cookie_queen:

Are you seeing a counselor together? We have been since we lost the boys and it is really helpful.

I was seeing a counselor a few weeks back. My H came to one session. The counselor suggested my H seek individual counseling for some of his issues but so far my H has refused Sad He doesn't see the benefit of it but I'm hoping he'll change his tune sooner rather than later.

Eriksgal · March 2011

I'm sorry. We have been there before too and it sucks. You will get through this! Glad you are doing the counseling.

DeputiesWife · March 2011

for what its worth - it took a little bit to convince MH to go.

It made a world of difference.

Tanya+Da · March 2011

((HUGS)) I hope you get everything worked out.

Delta04 · March 2011

...I just wanted to pop in and say that I am sorry you have to deal with this. Marriage is hard. period. Add IF on top of it and it can be even more difficult. Please do what you need to do to get in the right place for you and your family. The board will be here. GL to you.

Sunshine05 · March 2011

I'm sorry to hear that, hoping you and DH can get back to solid ground soon. *hugs*

babystinkbreath · March 2011

DeputiesWife:
Just wanted to offer some hugs and hope that you and your DH are able to work thru everything.

Please continue to lurk and post. We are always here for you - break or no break.

::hugs::

ditto this. we will miss you if you leave, so please stay around. we are here for whatever you need.

big hugs.

hopefulmommy · March 2011

((hugs))

Marriage can be very hard and dealing with IF doesnt help. I hope you and your H can get to a good place soon!

Mandy_Lou83 · March 2011

So sorry your going thru a rough time. I hope things get better for you and your DH.

Nature Lover · March 2011

we took an IF break and it did wonders for me individually but also for us as a couple. I don't know how anyone survives all of this without counselling so I hope YH willagree to go to more sessions. Hugs.

illinigal · March 2011

Hugs. You need to do whatever is right for you and that is the important thing. We're always here if you need us.

mrsgcal · March 2011

I'm so sorry hun, I can totally sympathze. DH and I have been having a rough go of it lately too and it just adds extra stress. Good luck and HUGS!

Temp590840000005378 · March 2011

I'm sorry, I completely know how you feel as I often question if my DH and I are stable enough to even have children. PM me if you ever need to vent.... Hang in there!!

jlcrane78 · March 2011

IF can be very trying on a marriage. DH and I were not on the same page in the very beginning, and it caused a lot of fights. I feel like we also fought about more things that were non-IF related because we were just massively stressed out over our diagnosis. We weren't reacting well to anything that got thrown our way.

Right now we are on a break trying to enjoy life together without children. I thought I would hate it, but I have actually been embracing it. Being on a break is nice because I can have my coffee and go out drinking a bit and take my ibuprofen without feeling guilty. I just wanted to give you hope that a break can be very good mentally (and physically). Sometimes it's just what the doctor ordered.