WTF!

catch2010

We haven't told anyone I'm pregnant yet aside from both sets of grandparents, since I'm only 7 weeks and I'm waiting to sign my contract for work before I say anything that I wouldn't mind being shared in public.  Both my parents and my husband's parents are well-aware that I haven't said anything to anyone and we don't plan to until I'm farther along and I have a job nailed down. 

So my mother-in-law posted a comment on my Facebook wall today that mentioned me being "a pregnant woman."

She deleted it as soon as I saw it on my phone (and called her and wasn't nice about asking her to remove it), but it was up for at least a half hour before I found it. Really hope I don't hear about this tomorrow at work, especially since I'm trying to keep things mum until I know that I'm going to be permanent there. 

So angry I could spit. 

Anyone else have their beans spilled for them?

jessica102706

I have been so worried about something like that happening. I am also 7 weeks and we had a miscarriage back in December so we are keeping just to immediate family until we get through the first trimester. Luckily no one has posted it on Facebook but my mom has "accidentially" let it slip to 3 of her siblings. She also told her lawyer, forgetting that I referred her to him and he is in the Chamber of Commerce with me. So I had to call him and make sure he understood not to mention anything at the chamber events over the next month until I am ready to announce it. Ugg! I totally understand your frustration!

rainlily

When I was pregnant with DD, my MIL told everyone she knew.  Ummm...I was less than 5 weeks pregnant.  I was not happy.  This time, we still haven't told his side of the family. 

We told my mom and sister because one of them watches DD when I go to the doctor.  I told them that I didn't want anyone to know yet.  My sister hasn't told a soul.  My mom told my dad, her brother, a cousin of hers, an employee and some random sales guy...that I know of so far.  I keep telling her to keep it to herself, because we are not ready to tell everyone.  Last week, I even told her that it is not her news to tell.  She keeps asking me if I am telling so and so yet.  I keep saying...not until the end of first tri. 

Still not as bad as last time with MIL.  Her family posted all over my FB and it was not cool.  I wanted to tell my friends the good news and I feel like I didn't get to do that because they saw it plastered all over my wall. 

HappyAardvark

hmmm, why don't you go ahead and disable anyone from making comments on your fb wall for now, mmkay?

catch2010

HappyAardvark:

hmmm, why don't you go ahead and disable anyone from making comments on your fb wall for now, mmkay?

Oh, done and done.

atizon

that's what I did I just blocked my co workers from reading posts on my wall or my update status. I didn't want they to find out yet.

catch2010

That's a good idea: I just set it up for everyone at work as well as my mother in law.  I'll remove her from that list when I'm not seething.

PansyPants

I found out through my brother that my mom accidentally told her minister and his wife and then showed them my 8 week ultrasound and they put it on the projector at her church during the sunday announcements and told everyone to pray for my mothers first grandchild.

Danny'sGirl09

I completely understand..... My M-I-L outted me on Saturday morning prior to my DS birthday party to all my SILs and BIL.... Apparently she was duped by my one SIL. This after both of them knowing I just MC'd in Jan. Have several kids of their own....and knowing it is too soon for us.... That I wasn't speaking of my MC'd.... mIL and I just planned to out us at Easter dinner as we are hosting and she was going to help me bake none the less.... So yup not only pissed off and hurt but I had to listen in all day and make sure none of them spoke about it,as my family knows nothing.... Speak of my MC on my sons birthday, causing me to become upset and everyone could tell I had been crying....be completely betrayed, but she took our right to surprise everyone and they instead of keeping it to themselves and acting surprised intentionally had to call, email, push the issue and text us all day long.... I feel for everyone that had to have their thunder taken from them and my heart sends hugs....

gracie076

My SIL did the same thing to me...she posted on her page 5 mins after I told her and I didn't know about it until a few days later. I was super pissed because I was only 5 weeks and we only told the immediate family. I wasn't planning to go public until 12 weeks.... Now my husband's family knows because of her post. We wanted to share the info when we saw them face to face and she ruined it for us. I know she was excited for us but it's none of her business! okay, that felt good to vent...When we find out the sex of our baby I'm not telling her! LOL

NikkiLovely

....I mean this in the most loving way possible but doesnt family Just suck sometimes? LOL! My husband and i Havent told anyone in our families, and im almost nine weeks. The only person That knows is my mom and We had to tell her Because she works in the OB/GYN department and I love the DR. she works with. Thats a plus i must say! Oh and our 2 1/2 daughter knows theres a baby in "mommy's tummy" and she hasnt even outed me! But my mom did out me to my daughters DR. and she was really happy for us. Even though it wasnt that big a deal, I told my mom Please dont go blabbing anymore, i know your excited but that its not Your news to tell, especially since its early. My mom was more than happy and understood our wishes. BUT a major High 5 to you and what you said to your MIL. saying it nicely sometimes doesnt work, the way you put will teach her to never share your personal business again!

Jovan3

I found out I was expecting at 3 weeks!! Super early! I didn't want anyone to know until at least 8 weeks! I told my best friends and he told his. Maybe 30 minutes later, my best friends were joking back and forth on my FB wall on how i have a sticky bun in my oven and it's baking just lovely. I was sooo pissed! After that everyone was texting me asking if I was pregnant. So we had to tell everyone. DH was happy and didn't see why i'd wanna wait but I just wasn't ready for the, "how are you feeling" "What do you want this time around" "Any names" But oh well. Next time I won't tell a soul! If that means hubby cant know until 8 weeks or so then so be it. He has a big mouth!

kalajaye17

i knoww how you feel! my own mother freaked out when i asked her not to tell anyone. we werent trying so we were pretty shocked and just trying to wrap our own minds around it when she decided to start telling people! starting with my ex fiance!!!!! i was so furious but her reaction was worse! she said by me asking her to wait i was taking the joy of being a grandmother away, started yelling and cussing at my boyfriend and that lasted over an hour. and said i was ashamed of my baby. i was shocked and pissed. we moved out a week later!

Ms.Jade

PansyPants:

I found out through my brother that my mom accidentally told her minister and his wife and then showed them my 8 week ultrasound and they put it on the projector at her church during the sunday announcements and told everyone to pray for my mothers first grandchild.

I am stunned and horrified. I knew there was a reason I'm waiting with my mom... 

catch2010

Oh, to top it off, today my dad told my best friend's mother who he happened to run into at the supermarket my news.  Random!  Then, when I asked my mom about who all she's told, she gave me a long list.  If we have another baby, grandparents aren't going to know until I've told work.  So glad I made my wall private on Facebook yesterday!