Anyone else not left LO yet?

AllSmiles1210

We still haven't left A with anyone yet. That will end tomorrow since her sitter wants to have her over for a few hours as a test run before I go back to work next week and she's there for real. I'm a little stressed out and sad. I don't want to leave her yet and thinking about it makes my eyes tear up. It'll all be ok right?

Has anyone else not left LO with anyone yet? When will you?

thatgirl85

We left A with a sitter for the first time this past Friday evening.  I was nervous the whole time (a whopping 2 hours), but everything was fine.  That's very good of the sitter to do a test run.  Hopefully it'll make things easier on you next week- you won't have to go through your first day back at work and your first time leaving LO at the same time.  It'll all be ok  Good luck!

utlawgirl

I haven't either, other than with my mom in the early days while DH and I just went for a walk around the block. I mean, DH has taken her for a couple hours here and there, but I don't really count that. My mom is coming to visit next month and I think we'll try to leave her and go out to dinner then... but it does make me nervous, even if I am excited about getting some grown-up time. It's only natural to feel that way, but your LO will be just fine!

xxbabycakesxx

ive only left my LO twice and both times were with DH and not over 3 hrs.  there are no future plans as of yet of leaving LO with anyone else other than myself or DH.

awagner122210

I've been back at work now for about a month.....and I cried & cried the week before I went back because I felt like a horrible mother because I had to leave him & felt powerless.......however I did better then what I thought I did....I think it made it a little easier because my husband works day shift and I work 2nd...so he's only at the sitters for 3 hours at the most....so its comforting knowing B is usually always with one of us....

AllSmiles1210

awagner122210:

I've been back at work now for about a month.....and I cried & cried the week before I went back because I felt like a horrible mother because I had to leave him & felt powerless.......however I did better then what I thought I did....I think it made it a little easier because my husband works day shift and I work 2nd...so he's only at the sitters for 3 hours at the most....so its comforting knowing B is usually always with one of us....

This is how I feel and I've been crying at least once a day for the past 2 weeks. I feel horrible for having to leave her. We're going to have a similar situation. I work a normal 9 - 5 and my H works 2nd shift 4 nights a week. A will only be at the sitter on Tues - Fri mornings from 7:00 - 1:00, so I do feel better about that. I would be devastated if I had to take her to daycare where she would be there 50 hours a week.

AllSmiles1210

mlbnyy2:

We went to the store and left her with DH mom, that was an hour or so.  Even when I leave her with DH for dr's appointment, I can't wait to get home! I'm sure she will be fine and hugs to you=)

Thanks! I'm sure she'll be fine too. It's me that is and will be a mess.

awagner122210

AllSmiles1210:

awagner122210:

I've been back at work now for about a month.....and I cried & cried the week before I went back because I felt like a horrible mother because I had to leave him & felt powerless.......however I did better then what I thought I did....I think it made it a little easier because my husband works day shift and I work 2nd...so he's only at the sitters for 3 hours at the most....so its comforting knowing B is usually always with one of us....

This is how I feel and I've been crying at least once a day for the past 2 weeks. I feel horrible for having to leave her. We're going to have a similar situation. I work a normal 9 - 5 and my H works 2nd shift 4 nights a week. A will only be at the sitter on Tues - Fri mornings from 7:00 - 1:00, so I do feel better about that. I would be devastated if I had to take her to daycare where she would be there 50 hours a week.

that's good your in the same situation like me...it is a little better that they won't be at the sitter for the whole day every day...that was def. a plus!....but I was really surprised on how well I did when I actually returned....I acted worse when I was still at home on leave....it was just nice to get back into the grove of things and around all my works friends & adult convo every day....I think you'll surprise yourself on how well you do....I know I sure did...then the next day I felt horrible because I swore I was going to ball my eyes out all day at work & didn't and thought something was wrong...lol...you'll do great!....I've been back a month and there's somedays I get down & miss him sooo much especially since I work at a hospital and see babies everyday...that's hard...but we're tough women!

our1stbaby2010

Hello, I'm a little late on this post!!  However, I just wanted to let you know that it's a great idea to take A to the sitter for "test" this week.  I did the same thing last week and it eased my little broken heart some. The sitter is great with him she is such a positive person and I think my AJ senses that and it helps him relax. 

Okay, that being said, you will still cry (especially day one).  I couldn't leave my sitter's drive way because I just cried.  He was smiling when I left him too, and it didn't help!  I called her twice and both times I could hear him giggling and cooing.  And guess what, I still cried.  I got home that day and didn't leave his side until he fell asleep for the night.  The good news is that yesteray was day 2 and I didn't cry at all!!  Work has been very accomodating and I am able to pump every 2 hours!  So far so good in that area too, I haven't noticed a shortage.  I would recommend bringing a towel though because day one I spilled milk on my pants while pumping.

Sending lots of hugs and love your way especially for day one.  It will get easier.  It's great to hear that she only has to stay with the sitter 6 hours!  The same thing with our little AJ.  MH is able to go in to work earlier and I was able to change my schedule and come in a little later so our boy is only at the sitter for 6 hours too.  The only thing is my house is a mess!  If only we could find time to clean our house and make dinner.  I'm sure that will come with time.