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does it drive you crazy when...

Floridamom224Floridamom224 member
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People make comments such as, "well, you don't know much of his background so aren't you worried what you're getting or the unknown?" Um and what makes your bio child so different?!
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  • cyndiathmacyndiathma

    Yes! This seems to be the reaction of every person we have told about our interest in adoption. Even more shocking with my friends who have children knowing that they are potentially passing on histories of mental and genetic illness. I find myself becoming outspoken in these situations and asking the same question back to them. Seriously, people?!

    Glad we have a place to vent because it is challenging. 

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  • amm78amm78 member
    I know exactly what you mean!  We have not adopted yet, but we have still been asked things like, "Aren't you worried that you'll end up with a baby that has problems?"  The same thing can happen with a bio child... but I guess people just don't think about that when asking those kinds of questions.  Actually I don't think they think at all before asking them.
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  • rickandcaitlinrickandcaitlin
    As a bio mom its great hearing that no matter who/what/how the child is a parent AP or BP will love them no matter what!
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  • MrsKolasaMrsKolasa

    We heard that a couple of times during our adoption process. It is infinitely annoying. DH's family has a history of heart disease. I have 2 cousins with severe mental handicaps. Doesn't everyone have something in their family health history that is questionable?!? Ugh. Last I checked you don't get to choose how your bio child will be affected by your genetics, so why would I be so concerned with a child I'm adopting?

    People don't always think before they speak. Sorry you have the added stress of hearing all the lovely input from people. ;-)

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  • fallsbridefallsbride
    YES YES YES!!!!!!! The unknown is okay it happens with ALL kids! :)
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  • smith486smith486 member

    This is generally when I point out my own genetic "issues" that I would be potentially passing along to a biological child. Obviously only if the offending person is someone I know well, I don't go sharing my medical history with strangers ;o)

     I am doing my part to eliminate these things from my family tree!

    (unless my child has these things from his/her birth parents)

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