oh why did DH say that?

IrishGal002

DH was on the phone last night with my MIL and she asked about my weight! So DH said I lost 5lbs between 8-12 week appointments, but that we go again in about a week. He also mentioned I am having some food averisions. When he got off the phone I asked him to please not talk at all about my weight with anyone aside from myself because it is no one elses business.

MIL has a thing about knowing about peoples weight, telling them they are plump, tells SIL to go to the gym & what not. So even though I am thin, i just thinks she should MYOB about my weight. DH says "Fine, I get it"

Of course MIL then tells SIL all this, then SIL posts on my facebook about it by the next day!!! Seriously people - when did it be okay to start talking about how much my weight just because I am pregnant???

TeacherVicky

How rude!

KimberlyBunk

bahahahaha!  Sorry..I had to laugh!    People can be morons! It is like if there is a baby in there suddenly nothing about your body is private!  I know your body is no longer 'yours' or what not...but sharing with a baby is much different than sharing private info with everyone's brother and uncle!

 At least you were losing weight and they weren't chastising you for gaining 30 lbs or something...right?

macdidlyicious

Whoa! That is beyond not okay.

I would totally ask her about her weight the next time I talked to her. See how she likes having people openly discuss her body. What a snot.

lily87

That's frustrating. This is exactly why I shut down my FB wall. 

Your DH should just say he doesn't know.

LNHinton

Unfortunately, sometimes men don't think about those things.  MH would have done the same thing without giving it a second thought.  We are wired so differently and the things that we consider personal are not even on their radar!

JenniferAnnes

Wow that is really rude.  I think I'd be even more mad at SIL for posting that on facebook.  Totally inappropriate!

iahlgren

That is annoying. I think I'd be most annoyed about the FB thing.

My MIL is always telling me about how I should be careful not to gain too much weight, which is pretty irritating because I've put on about 2-3 pounds during the first 12 weeks of the pregnancy.

She also likes to talk about how she only gained about 18 pounds when she was pregnant with my husband. I'm all about gaining a healthy amount of weight, but I'm 5'8", so I should probably gain at least 25 lbs.  In any case, if she keeps asking I'm just going to say something like, "I'm where I should be for this stage in the pregnancy," or "The doctor said everything is fine."

Azrayla

My MIL always wanted to know how much I gained but I think she just wanted to compare it to what she gained with DH and his brother..I hate talking about weight.

I've lost weight this time around almost 20lbs but those were left from DD.. So I'm assuming they cleared out just so I can put them back on later.. With DD I didnt gain a thing unto the month of 14-18wks so this coming month is big for me.. I gained about 7lbs a month with DD and I'm going to do my best not to because weight is sensitive for me..

DH is already bracing himself for all my emotional "I'm so fat" breakdowns

alynjohn

Stories like this make me thankful for my IL's. I'm so sorry his family thinks its ok to blab and post everything on FB.

khonaker

UGH I hate that! I have a similar story, though it didn't involve family members. I sent out a few texts/emails and such asking people to guess the gender of my baby just so I could take a poll. Maybe that's lame, but I am going on Friday to find out and I just wanted to get an idea of what everyone thought.

Anyways, this woman I go to church with texted me back and said "depends. How much weight have you gained? Is it all over or just in your butt? What are you craving?" And I mean I get that she wanted to compare it to her pregnancy experience or some old wives tales or some crap like that but seriously? "Boy" or "girl" would've been just fine.

emolm

My MIL has been super concerned about whether or not I'm eating enough and gaining weight b/c my morning sickness was horrible for a few weeks while we were visiting them and now I'm on my own without my husband to cook for me. (I seriously don't turn on the stove when he's out of town. I eat Sonic for breakfast every morning and live on cereal and microwavable veggies and such.) Talking about my weight doesn't really bother me but perhaps the Air Force made me less sensitive about it by being so belittling on a regular basis.

 

I'm sorry they all blabbed but I hope they just did it out of concern for you in some twisted way.

IrishGal002

emolm:

I'm sorry they all blabbed but I hope they just did it out of concern for you in some twisted way.

I am sure that this is the case. And I dont really know how these woman can surprise me after 10 plus years. DH is now crystal clear as far as the no weight rule