Anyone read ahead in The Toddler Manual re: FIBBING?

DavezWife

I've not gotten to that chapter yet, best get on that! ;-)

Ava has stated telling "fibs"  (tall tales, innocent lies, exaggerated truths). Now, she's Irish. So I get to cut her some slack. bbrruuhaaaa.

But this weekend she told daddy I said she didn't have to take a nap (hellzno) and fibs about things like "did you wash your face?" etc. already.

I try to use the phase - "Is that the truth?" and not use the word LIE. I've also learned from another mommy that you don't even ask them questions you know they can fib on. Praise when I know she admits to something, etc.

Thoughts on this? How to handle it? Read more about this?

 

brideinOC

My near 11 yr old stepdaughter is going through a major lying phase, obviously because she doesn't want to get into trouble.  And I realize that she's way past Ava's age, but I've stopped asking questions that she will lie about.  I know when she's brushed her teeth, etc so I've quit asking just to see if she'll lie or not.  Sanctions are killing me.  I haven't found her currency yet.  She's not happy with losing tv or computer, but the behaviors aren't changing.  Reaching for a positive reward is better for her, but after she gets that reward, she lies again.  I'm not going to keep giving her rewards for behaviors that should be able to achieve.  Very frustrating.  Sorry to ramble about the pre-teen, but I agree with your mommy friend about what/how to ask. 

My daycare mom uses the words "fairy tales."  "Don't tell a fairy tale."  That sounds corny to me. 

DavezWife

lol, Fairy Tales wouldn't work here, Ava's obsessed with Tinkerbell right now, ha.

 

pandabearlover

DavezWife:

lol, Fairy Tales wouldn't work here, Ava's obsessed with Tinkerbell right now, ha.

 

So is Betsy!  Fairy tales would be something good.