Please tell me this is normal?holding on for dear life

Ignyte1303

My DD WAS doing so well STTN. We put them down at 8 pm and they didn?t wake up till 6:30 am?MY MY what a difference a WEEK can make. Within the last week she has started crawling (on all fours) and pulling up on everything ?couch, changing table and even in her crib, which is where we have a major problem. For the last 3 nights she has woken up screaming?when I go in to check on her I find her standing up in her crib holding on for dear life as she cries. I?m not sure if something is getting stuck when she tries to stand up, if she can't find her paci or if she?s being so dramatic just to get in bed with us (which has worked). When I try to console, lay her back down and walk out of the room she immediately crawls back to the side of the crib and STANDS up? Is this normal? If so, what did you all do? Let them CIO?? Put in a crib toy??.... ANY advice is appreciated. Good thing my DS sleeps through this whole fiasco? TIA

SLM05

J was doing this same thing.  I took a lovie blanket and slept with it inside my shirt (to get my scent) then gave it to J.  We also got him a fisher price seahorse that lights up and plays music.  It helped, now he might fuss fro a second but then goes to sleep and sleeps all night.  good luck!

tmbuchmann

DS#1 used to do that, he couldn't figure out how to get down.

Ignyte1303

tmbuchmann:

DS#1 used to do that, he couldn't figure out how to get down.

Didn't even think about that... 

 

Ignyte1303

SLM05:

I took a lovie blanket and slept with it inside my shirt (to get my scent) then gave it to J.  We also got him a fisher price seahorse that lights up and plays music. 

GREAT IDEA!!

ougrad1

I'd also put a few toys in the crib to distract them.  I have the seahorse, light up thing that has moving sea animals+music and sofie that stay in the cribs at all times.  These lull them to sleep at night and have bought us an hour extra rest in the mornings when they wake and play on their own before we are ready to go in and get them.

Haven1

The boys started crawling last week, and yes, DS1 had some serious screaming fits.  It became this game of Will He Sleep?  If you laid him down and he stayed flat-- success!  If he popped back up into his crawl position-- brace yourself.  It helped that I started putting DS2 down so they were facing each other.  That seems to help that he can see his brother.  Good luck to us all!

shipoopiisforme

my son is doing this right now during naps. he just can't figure out how to get down.

hunt2005

Mine did that too. They spend months trying to learn how to stand UP, they realize once they are they don't know how to get DOWN. I started helping my son during play time learn how to stand up, and then how to sit back down after. Made a WORLD of difference. It helps too that when he would fall down from standing I didn't rush to pick him up and make sure he was okay - I would look at him and ask and smile and he realized that falling on a cushy bum wrapped in a diaper wasn't the worst thing in the world.

 Now you'll have a whole new problem when he learns how to stand up on purpose so he can then fall on to the crib mattress on purpose But that's next week...

tmbuchmann

Ignyte1303:

tmbuchmann:

DS#1 used to do that, he couldn't figure out how to get down.

Didn't even think about that... 

 

I just thought that it would be helpful if I said that how I taught him how to get down is that I would let him play in his bed. I put some toys in there and he pulled up, and I would help him "fall" to get his toys. He started to get the hang of it and then got more comfortable with letting go and sitting back down.

caden

tmbuchmann:

I just thought that it would be helpful if I said that how I taught him how to get down is that I would let him play in his bed. I put some toys in there and he pulled up, and I would help him "fall" to get his toys. He started to get the hang of it and then got more comfortable with letting go and sitting back down.

Not that I have any personal experience with this, but I was just reading a baby book that said to do this if you find your kid crying while standing in the crib. It said to guide your kids hands down the slats to teach him how to sit back down. HTH : )

Temp6313048411121614

Yep, they learn to pull up before they learn how to get back down.  Honestly, we would gently push them back so they'd fall to their butts (it sounds worse than it is) so that they'd learn they can just fall and not get hurt.  GL, it doesn't last long.

amanda31H

Yes - it's the separation anxiety thing.

We have the FP seahorses and that helps.  I also started letting them take their "buddy" to sleep (a small blanky with a rabbit head- other people call them lovies), and that helps- it's something for A to cuddle with.

I normally don't pick them up if they cry at bedtime (we shhhh and rub backs/head, give paci, etc.)- but this was an exception.  If it got bad, I would go in and pick her up, give her a paci, and just cuddle for a minute so she felt safe.  Then I would put her back in, and 80% of the time, she'd scramble frantically to the edge of the crib.  I'd lay her back down, give her a paci and her buddy, and rub her head for a minute or two.  Then eventually I'd leave. She would cry most of the time..but not for a long time.  B would sleep through.

It's hard.  She did this a few times for a couple weeks, and then it was over. 

ppants

Luckily, mine didn't do the standing up thing, but sometimes they'd cry when they couldn't find a binky in the night.  I'd put 3-5 binkies in each of their cribs so they'd find one easily.