The same questions over and over! (small rant)

babybuckley

I work in an office of about 40 people, mostly women. So of course when I broke the news, pretty much everyone was excited for me and wanted to talk to me about the fact that I was pregnant. The one thing I didn't count on was getting asked the same questions over and over and over. Some times even by the same person!

The most common question is "So do you have any cravings yet?" followed by "How are you feeling today?" and a tie for 3rd place goes to "Do you know what it is yet?" and "Are you going to find out what it is?".

I'm happy that they are so excited for me but it almost makes me wish I hadn't told anyone yet. It reminds me of when I got married. I worked for a department store where I would visit about 7 of our stores and everyone felt the need to ask the same questions... "So how does it feel to be married?" followed by "do you guys want to have kids?"

Are there any questions you get repeatedly asked and are sick of? How have you handled it?

corinneandalex's1st

I get "Do you know what your having?" I'm very patient and always say, "No, not yet, but we should know on April 11th if baby cooperates"

thetheisens

People at work ask me "Are you happy?" and "Were you trying to get pregnant" or "Was it planned?" I am married and 30, so I think that the answers are pretty obvious! I didn't realize I needed to tell everyone when my DH and I started having unprotected sex. I am annoyed with the people at my work as well!! Glad I'm not the only one!

shellybell15

I'm not sure how far along you are and if you are showing yet. If not, just wait until those questions come from complete strangers. I worked at a spa while pregnant with DS. Every client that walked in the door wanted to know when I was due, what the gender was, etc... I was pretty excited to talk about it and didn't mind most of the time, but it did get old toward the end.

jaminjeff

corinneandalex's1st:

I get "Do you know what your having?" I'm very patient and always say, "No, not yet, but we should know on April 11th if baby cooperates"

I can't wait for people to ask me this.  I'm going to say, "Yes, we're having a baby."

michellechacon

jaminjeff:

corinneandalex's1st:

I get "Do you know what your having?" I'm very patient and always say, "No, not yet, but we should know on April 11th if baby cooperates"

I can't wait for people to ask me this.  I'm going to say, "Yes, we're having a baby."

 

That is awesome... I'm totally going to use that.  The thing I hate is people asking ''what do you want?''  Yes I have a preference, but I dont want to share that too much, what if I dont get what I want, will people be asking me ''are you upset'' 

I always say that I want ''a healthy baby''

 

adri77

michellechacon:

jaminjeff:

corinneandalex's1st:

I get "Do you know what your having?" I'm very patient and always say, "No, not yet, but we should know on April 11th if baby cooperates"

I can't wait for people to ask me this.  I'm going to say, "Yes, we're having a baby."

 

That is awesome... I'm totally going to use that.  The thing I hate is people asking ''what do you want?''  Yes I have a preference, but I dont want to share that too much, what if I dont get what I want, will people be asking me ''are you upset'' 

I always say that I want ''a healthy baby''

 

I personally don't get becoming upset/bothered by this question.....I have always appreciated peoples excitement over my pregnancy and the kindness of strangers asking things as well.....maybe I'm odd??? Oh well, to each his own!   The only thing that has ever bothered me were the "was it planned" questions.....

babybuckley

thetheisens:

People at work ask me "Are you happy?" and "Were you trying to get pregnant" or "Was it planned?" I am married and 30, so I think that the answers are pretty obvious! I didn't realize I needed to tell everyone when my DH and I started having unprotected sex. I am annoyed with the people at my work as well!! Glad I'm not the only one!

 

Exactly! I too am Married and 31, so yes it was planned. And it is awkward to tell people you've "been trying". It's none of their business! As for being upset over the questions...what started me on my rant was a singular coworker that has asked me the same question about cravings almost every single day. UGH! Stop it! Other than that, I don't mind them too much. I just hate repeating myself all the time. I totally forgot about the "a baby" comeback to the what are you having question! I have to start using it asap! Thanks for the reminder!

dragon_chica

Meh, it's just excitement and as tiring as it is for YOU to hear it and answer it over and over again for that person it's their first time asking and hearing it.  It's like the moment you got engaged you become bombarded with the same wedding questions because people are just plain excited for you and want to connect.  It's always going to be something.  Once the baby comes out it's going to be, "How old?" "Walking yet?" "BF or FF?" blah blah blah.  Just keep smiling and answer their questions.

JandJ-A

1.  So, how's married life?

2.  Are you going to find out what it is?

3.  Why are you eating that?!!!???!!!!!!!

4.  Are you showing yet?

5.  Before BFP:  So, when are you two gonna have kids??

Mrs. Alice

I just found out that I was having twins and told everyone at work.  I think EVERY person I talked to asked me "do twins run in your family?".  I just responded "No, but since they are identical that is not a based on my genetics anyway".  I don't think the average person knows that, heck I didn't know that until after I did my google research.  I have a feeling that I will be answering that question and probably several others about twins for many years to come...

jenmarshall88

::lurking::

But when I first told people I got a lot of: "Are you going to keep it??"

And I was always amazed at them.

No, I'm having an abortion but thought that I would share the news with everyone beforehand. What kind of question is that?! 

sisterrael

jaminjeff:

corinneandalex's1st:

I get "Do you know what your having?" I'm very patient and always say, "No, not yet, but we should know on April 11th if baby cooperates"

I can't wait for people to ask me this.  I'm going to say, "Yes, we're having a baby."

 

I'm a smart@## and I'm tempted to reply with, "A Puppy!"  I actually told one of my students during my last pregnancy that we wanted a green monkey.  I love seeing their facial reactions.

bluebabka

jaminjeff:

corinneandalex's1st:

I get "Do you know what your having?" I'm very patient and always say, "No, not yet, but we should know on April 11th if baby cooperates"

I can't wait for people to ask me this.  I'm going to say, "Yes, we're having a baby."

 

LOL! this made me giggle : )

MrsG.060708

I'm a SAHM now, but when I was pregnant with DD I worked in an office. For like the last month of my pregnancy, everyday, I was asked:

Haven't had that baby yet?

Still here?

When's that baby coming?

 

Often asked by the same people several times a day...even if they just heard someone else ask me. Drove. Me. Nuts!

Leah8435

Though I don't mind a few questions (whatever they may be, just don't touch my belly) sometimes I wish people would remember that there is more to me than the baby growing inside.  Don't get me wrong, I'm SO happy to be pregnant, I just wish people would notice I am a person, not just an incubator.

FrauElyse

I've been getting a lot of 'Are you going to find out what it is?' And then when I say, 'no' people get all upset with me.  If you didn't want my honest answer, why'd you ask?  I'm super-moody right now though and have always been super-annoyed by overly nosy people....and to me, that is nosy.  If you're not close family (and even then sometimes), don't ask.  I'm more than excited to be pregnant, and I don't care if you know, but none of the other stuff is of your concern.   

courtney_lynne

Heh, With my Daughter hwne I got asked the "do you know what you are having?" question, it would depend on my mood I would either answer "Well we're hoping for a baby!" or "My Husband Kinda wants a puppy...but I don't know, all that extra work..." Yeah that was all hormones!