I hate DD's nickname.

polkadotsock

I love the name Madeleine. (DD's name.) But I guess with my pregnancy brain I didn't even think of the horror of a nickname. Maddy. I HATE that nickname and would have picked a different full name completely but it honestly never occured to me that people would call her that. I thought it would grow on me, but after five months I still hate it and still cringe when she gets called that.

Is it something I'm just going to have to suck up and deal with? 

PhilsWife07

I personally hate that nn too. If I were you I'd just keep correcting people til they get the point. Once she gets to school it'll be a different story though as you won't be able to have a say in what her friends call her or what she prefers to be called. You may just have to work on getting over it.

manda326

Maybe you could just politely ask people to call her Madeleine. Or you could think of an alternative nn. I think you will have to bear with it in some cases. I am sure it will come up from time to time even when you correct it.

I love the name btw!!

BellaKelsey

It's perfectly acceptable to request that people use Madeline. However, your daughter herself may eventually create a nickname (or her friends at playgroup, school or whatever) and I'm guessing at that point you'll like what she chooses.

 

My son, whose name is Drew, calls himself "Drewey." I didn't really like it at first but hearing him use it makes it way better.  

jessicasuzann

Is there another nickname you might prefer? I think that with a longer first name like hers (it's lovely by the way) people will want to shorten it--even if you'd prefer they don't--so if you had a NN alternative to offer, that may help.

polkadotsock

That's what I'm hoping, with school, that her friends will come up with something more creative. haha! But that's five years away!

I try to only use Madeleine but we live with the in-laws and everyone else calls her Maddy no matter what I say. It's going to be hard when she starts responding to that! 

 

AwBeth

DH loves Madeleine, but I was worried about the nn too.  What about Lina (like leine -ahh)?

alliejo725

Just correct people. You are her parent, and she is too young to decide for herself what she will be called. Be gentle but firm; she's your daughter, and it's respectful for others to follow your lead on what to call her.

Of course, she can always be Maddy when she's old enough to decide, and that's something you may just have to get used to. But I think there's a big difference between your child choosing her nickname as a free-willed person and other people choosing it without your permission.

LuciaLucentum

I don't think you have to suck it up. I have a lot of friends who go exclusively by their full names and never by the easy nicknames common for our age group. I would just keep reminding people that her name is Madeleine, not Maddy. I have a friend Madeleine who I could never, ever imagine calling Maddy.

People will catch on eventually. There will always be a couple people who'll call her Maddy, but I'd just ignore it and be like, "Oh, sorry! Are you talking about her? Yeah, her name is Madeleine". 

TUGOsQueen

Frustrating but you should definitely correct people.

Do you have another non-name related nn that you use?

Wwe call my youngest Biscuit due to my excessive chicken biscuit consumption while pregnant and my close family still calls her this. Not related to her name at all but curved any name related nn.

krissyh21

Correct people. I hate Dill and Dilly and when someone says that I simply say, "It's Dillon". I have never had anyone not listen to me yet... well except my sister who likes to break em, but now she calls him pickle...which I think is kind of cute but if I tell her that, she would stop lol.

smo321

My DD name is Madalyn and nobody calls her Maddy that I know of.  I'm not a big fan of NN.  Daycare asked me if we were going to call her Maddy and I said no.  I told them I wanted her to learn her full name and when she is older, much older if she wanted to go by Maddy it would be up to her.  I have had a few other people ask me about if we will call her Maddy and I tell them no. 

I have also been out and have had people ask me what DD name is and I tell them Madalyn and a few have said Maddy what a cute name and I will polietly correct them and say no just Madalyn, thank you.

Happy2beMrsT

Just correct people when thay use that nn and tell them you are only using her full name.

tct1219

no, you'll just have to correct people and they will get it eventually, although you have to anticipate that she might someday choose to go by maddie/ maddy.

my friend katherine was sometimes given nicknames by people and she would say "that's not my name, my name is katherine" and they stopped doing it.

polkadotsock

1ht

I just want to say thank you ladies! I feel a lot better! I'll definitely start correcting people. If she wants to be Maddy when she's older, then fine.

Lina is pretty cute, actually! I call her Lulu all the time but thats like a special mommy nickname, haha! 

forensicmama

I can't tell you how I hate the nickname Maddy, too! That's why I've stayed away from all Mad- names. Try pushing Lena/Lina as a nickname or Della or something like that.

J+M+E

I know two little girls under the age of three with that name.  One is my cousin and they call her Mad's (ugh) and the other is called Maddy.  I think they are both horrid nns.

quezzo

I love the name too but hate the nicname. I think others are right and you just need to correct people when they call her something else, especially the in-laws. Also, you need to get DH on board with this. If he even calls her Maddy others will think they can do the same I'd explain to him what you told us about hating the nickname and would have named her something different.  

kimberlymautz

Unfortunately people are going to call her Maddy even if you try to correct them. I have a friend named whose mom constantly tries to correct people when they call her Jill instead of Jillian, but no one listens and she's still known as Jill. She prefers it but doesn't want to tell her mom because she thinks it'll make her upset. What is your daughter's middle name? Maybe you could make a nick name using that as well. I have a friend whose full name is Mallory Jane, but she goes by M.J. instead because her mom didn't like everyone calling her Mal.

 

Best of luck!

SharonWantsABaby

My sister has gone through this her whole life - her name is Deborah, and practically everyone she meets tries to call her Deb or Debbie at some point.

She would tell you to just correct them politely. 99% of people only need to hear it once.

I agree with PP's though, your DD might choose her own nn at some point, but that's in the future. 

StrawberryAlarmClock

MIL calls Desmond "Desi" which makes me cringe. What's worse is she keeps saying "let's find you a Lucy" (Desi Arnaz was not Desmond, he was Desiderio, but I digress).I started repeating back my preferred nickname: "Yes, I think Dez is hungry" but it occurred to me that it's not my name, it's his and their relationship is between them. If he gets bigger and wants her to call him Dez or Desmond or Captain Cookie, it's up to him. Not me. That thought instantly relaxed me the next time she said Desi.

dinnerfor2

I feel the same way. DD is Susannah and it makes me cringe when people call her "Suzy." I just correct them as politely as possible. DH helps too...he says "don't let her mother hear you" when someone calls her by the NN. 

iteachk

We named DD Kate but dislike Katie as a nn.  We let people know when she was bornt that she was not going to be called Katie.  We still get that sometimes, and yes, you are going to have to deal with it.  Just poilitely correct people.

sassy_mommy

You can tell people you want her to be called Madeleine and ask them to stick to that.  That's what I did with my son.  I don't like the obvious nickname for his name, but I still chose to give him his name because I love it so much.  When people call him by the nickname, I just tell them to call him his full first name.