Rant and FFFC

tottee2u

This is my little rant  Remember Flame FREE

 

My little sister is pregnant and now on state assistance.   The baby daddy was a little more than a one night stand, they never used any protection.

 

We spent almost 9K on insurance last year, which was about how much I made (part time massage therapist).  Neither of our employers offer insurance so it's all out of pocket.  I hate that we have to wait to the end of the year to ttc because we're responsible and want to make sure we have money saved for our maternity deductible. 

 

I feel like we're being punished for being responsible!!!  I know that there are people that truly need assistance, she goes on vacation four times a friggin' year.  We can't go on vacation we have insurance to pay for!!!!!

 

Thanks rant over

 

Ps I'm still bitter that she didn't call me once while I was pg with ds

angelproberts

fredalina:

Your own sister aside, public policy often makes it feel like we're being punished for being responsible.  i really feel for people who have lost their jobs and are legitimately looking (forget those just collecting unemployment for 2 years and not really trying!), who have fallen on tough times and can't pay their home loans, but at the same time it sucks that they get help paying their mortgage and i'm just as upside down in my home but because i am still working hard every day, i still have to pay more than my house is currently worth without help and can't refinance. 

I used to feel the same way until I did "fall on hard times". I had a series of unfortunate events that has caused me to be on public assistance. I am not on unemployment b/c I quit my job to move to another state. I was unable to look for another job b/c I have a child and cannot afford childcare and then my foot was broken and I am now pregnant and didn't find out until after my first trimester was over. I do consider myself responsible. I'm not out spending the assistance I do receive on vacations or partying or anything of the sort. Truth be told it's barely enough to get us by every month.

I just find it very judgemental b/c you never know what predicament or situation you can end up in.

lilwildthing

I understand your frustration.  There is a big difference between people who are doing all they can and still can't make it, and people who just suck off the system.  It is very simple to not get pregnant if you don't want to be or can't afford a child.