I want my happy baby back :(

RumbleLina

DS just seems to be getting worse and worse with his reflux and fussing. He is on Gentlease for almost two weeks now and Prilosec for almost a week and it is doing nothing for him. He is still spitting up a TON and super gassy with screaming when he has gas moving through him and when he has to pass it.

Today, beyond his normal spitting up, he had two huge spit up sessions (more like vomiting to me because it just keeps coming and coming) one right after another that he was screaming through . We have another appointment on Monday so I am hoping we can figure something else out. Fingers crossed.

He has started to coo but because he is crying and fussing so much I don't get to hear a lot of it and it makes me very sad. There is a very small portion of the day when he is awake and not crying or fussing for some reason. When did it all go down hill?!

Sorry about the vent but I am feeling beaten down. I have started to think "when am I going to enjoy my baby", which then makes me want to cry for even thinking that way.

 

AM2008

You are so not alone in thinking this.  DD just got put on Zantac, so I'm hoping that starts to help with the reflux.  She has done nothing but scream today, so by the end of the day I feel so beaten down.  Hugs to you - I've heard it gets better.

RumbleLina

AM2008:

You are so not alone in thinking this.  DD just got put on Zantac, so I'm hoping that starts to help with the reflux.  She has done nothing but scream today, so by the end of the day I feel so beaten down.  Hugs to you - I've heard it gets better.

Hugs back to you too!  Horrible feeling of being a parent and knowing that you can't take away your child discomfort or pain. I hope the Zantac works for your LO!

sciteach104

Did they test your LO for a cow's milk protein allergy? My LO has reflux due to having this allergy.  I would ask your pedi to test.  They do test the stool, so you may need to bring a soiled diaper if they decide to test.  I found out that the formula was making LO gassy and uncomfortable and now he is on SImilac ALimentium for the allergy.  Good luck and hugs to you that you will get your happy baby back.

RumbleLina

sciteach104:

Did they test your LO for a cow's milk protein allergy? My LO has reflux due to having this allergy.  I would ask your pedi to test.  They do test the stool, so you may need to bring a soiled diaper if they decide to test.  I found out that the formula was making LO gassy and uncomfortable and now he is on SImilac ALimentium for the allergy.  Good luck and hugs to you that you will get your happy baby back.

I was not aware they could test for the protein allergy but I think that is the next step we are going to be taking. She mentioned Nutrimagen last appt but she mentioned nothing about testing him. My insurance company may pay for the formula then if we find out this is what he needs so I wonder if they will require that test in the letter of medical necessity. Hm, maybe I will call on Monday to see if they need a dirty diaper and just bring one just in case. I want to nip this in the butt with the least amount of visits possible.

Thank you for that information!

dee1369

My poor girl has had very fussy/gassy days from my milk oversupply issue and it breaks my heart when it happens - it's worse because I know it's my milk causing the problem. At first I thought it was reflux - I know how bad that can be, my niece had it - but turns out I have a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.

It's always so hard to see our little ones in pain, especially when there is nothing you can do. At least for me I can try to regulate my supply, although until it's under control she is uncomfortable and fussy. 

Best of luck to you.

staryeyes

I'm so sorry you're going through this.  My Isaac had colic from 4 weeks to 4 months and it made me crazy.  I went to therapy to try and help me deal.  I'm glad you're being proactive about finding solutions for him.  I never asked about reflux or anything with him and wish I would have. 

I just want to say I know how you're feeling and you absolutely don't need to cry for thinking thoughts like "when am I going to enjoy my baby?" because it's a fair question!  No one enjoys hearing an uncomfortable, fussy, screaming baby who is rarely content...especially not the person responsible for him all hours of the day and night!  The best thing I learned from therapy about this situation is that you never need to feel guilty for the feelings you have.  Feelings aren't actions.  "Feelings are feelings" is what my therapist often told me when I gave her my harshest thoughts on my day-to-day with Isaac.  I was helped greatly by learning to not compound my frustrated feelings with mommy guilt.  I was honest about how f-ing hard my days were with him when he was like that, told people honestly how hard things were and got a lot of support.  In being more honest about my feelings and getting rid of guilt, I also had a better attitude and more energy to look at the positive.  It helps that it started getting better little by little. 

I remember you posted last week or so "I thought it gets easier" and I wanted to run into the post yelling "Oh dear God no it doesn't, we're on the first half of this mountain that peaks around 7-8 weeks!" but other moms said similar things.  One day you'll have the experience of me and DH, where you stare at each other and say "Huh...it's a lot easier now...he doesn't scream at me all day anymore."  It's a great realization.  And THEN it gets *much* easier.  Nothing has been harder than those colic months.  Teething was cake, potty training, terrible twos, defiant threes...nothing was harder than those first months.

((hugs)) I hate that any new mom has to have fussy, screaming babies for whatever reason...reflux, colic, sensitive temperament or whatever.  Don't get yourself further down by feeling guilty for being frustrated.

Lucky_Dragonfly

dee1369:

My poor girl has had very fussy/gassy days from my milk oversupply issue and it breaks my heart when it happens - it's worse because I know it's my milk causing the problem. At first I thought it was reflux - I know how bad that can be, my niece had it - but turns out I have a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.

what exactly is this?

dee1369

Lucky_Dragonfly:

dee1369:

My poor girl has had very fussy/gassy days from my milk oversupply issue and it breaks my heart when it happens - it's worse because I know it's my milk causing the problem. At first I thought it was reflux - I know how bad that can be, my niece had it - but turns out I have a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.

what exactly is this?

It's caused by my oversupply, DD gets too much foremilk when she nurses and not enough hindmilk... the imbalance upsets her stomach/digestive system - making her gassy and uncomfortable, as well as causing her to want to nurse all the time. 

RumbleLina

staryeyes:

I just want to say I know how you're feeling and you absolutely don't need to cry for thinking thoughts like "when am I going to enjoy my baby?" because it's a fair question!  No one enjoys hearing an uncomfortable, fussy, screaming baby who is rarely content...especially not the person responsible for him all hours of the day and night!  The best thing I learned from therapy about this situation is that you never need to feel guilty for the feelings you have.  Feelings aren't actions.  "Feelings are feelings" is what my therapist often told me when I gave her my harshest thoughts on my day-to-day with Isaac.  I was helped greatly by learning to not compound my frustrated feelings with mommy guilt.  I was honest about how f-ing hard my days were with him when he was like that, told people honestly how hard things were and got a lot of support.  In being more honest about my feelings and getting rid of guilt, I also had a better attitude and more energy to look at the positive.  It helps that it started getting better little by little. 

Thanks. I needed to hear all this. I know it will get better, I just have to accept it is okay to feel this way because as you said "feelings are feelings" and not actions.

I just didn't expect it to be this hard as we have never had to deal with spit up reflux issues or allergies, whatever it is, with sDD so it was something I never even thought about to be honest.

RumbleLina

dee1369:

My poor girl has had very fussy/gassy days from my milk oversupply issue and it breaks my heart when it happens - it's worse because I know it's my milk causing the problem. At first I thought it was reflux - I know how bad that can be, my niece had it - but turns out I have a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.

It's always so hard to see our little ones in pain, especially when there is nothing you can do. At least for me I can try to regulate my supply, although until it's under control she is uncomfortable and fussy. 

Best of luck to you.

Have you thought about Mylicon gas drops to see if that helps your LO when she is being gassy? Isaac was taking those for awhile. I figured it was best to take him off everything while we were doing trial and error on everything else.

dee1369

AllysunC:

dee1369:

My poor girl has had very fussy/gassy days from my milk oversupply issue and it breaks my heart when it happens - it's worse because I know it's my milk causing the problem. At first I thought it was reflux - I know how bad that can be, my niece had it - but turns out I have a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.

It's always so hard to see our little ones in pain, especially when there is nothing you can do. At least for me I can try to regulate my supply, although until it's under control she is uncomfortable and fussy. 

Best of luck to you.

Have you thought about Mylicon gas drops to see if that helps your LO when she is being gassy? Isaac was taking those for awhile. I figured it was best to take him off everything while we were doing trial and error on everything else.

We just started them yesterday. They seem to have helped - we're giving them with every feeding. 

Mrs. Sarah&Micah

dee1369:

Lucky_Dragonfly:

dee1369:

My poor girl has had very fussy/gassy days from my milk oversupply issue and it breaks my heart when it happens - it's worse because I know it's my milk causing the problem. At first I thought it was reflux - I know how bad that can be, my niece had it - but turns out I have a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.

what exactly is this?

It's caused by my oversupply, DD gets too much foremilk when she nurses and not enough hindmilk... the imbalance upsets her stomach/digestive system - making her gassy and uncomfortable, as well as causing her to want to nurse all the time. 

I am worried my LO is getting too much foremilk and not enough hind milk. What are you doing to fix it?

dee1369

Mrs. Sarah&Micah:

dee1369:

Lucky_Dragonfly:

dee1369:

My poor girl has had very fussy/gassy days from my milk oversupply issue and it breaks my heart when it happens - it's worse because I know it's my milk causing the problem. At first I thought it was reflux - I know how bad that can be, my niece had it - but turns out I have a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance.

what exactly is this?

It's caused by my oversupply, DD gets too much foremilk when she nurses and not enough hindmilk... the imbalance upsets her stomach/digestive system - making her gassy and uncomfortable, as well as causing her to want to nurse all the time. 

I am worried my LO is getting too much foremilk and not enough hind milk. What are you doing to fix it?

I'll start a new thread - don't want to take over this one!