Confessions! Let's hear 'em!

stever

Mine is that I judged. I went to Target the other day and I tooootally judged.

There was a couple with a newborn - 3-4 months maybe - too little to sit up on her her own, swimming in one of those cart cover things. We went by them several times and the poor little thing would be almost sliding out of one of the leg holes before one of her distracted parents would notice and prop her up again. Then she'd lay down again and start to slowly slide out the leg hole... because she's a newborn and can't sit up unassisted yet.

I judged. Big time! And they didn't even look like stupid teenagers in over their heads, they were grown ups. WTF?

robynlesley

Even though we're supposed to be saving money and paying off debt I made two large purchases last weekend.

1. We bought a new sofa

2. I signed Aaron up for Little Gym

--

Though I feel I should share that my brother's older dog (formerly my in-laws') keeps peeing on the existing--and horribly uncomfortable--sofa. That sofa is fabric and the pee is seeped in there (though I poured like a gallon of Nature's Miracle on it) and she keeps going back there to pee. I can't sit on pee any longer and if spending $500 to get a new bonded leather sofa is wrong, I'm wrong.

 As for Little Gym... I justified the $300 (up front was hard/ weekly was doable) because Aaron NEVER interacts with other toddlers and I really feel he needs to--even if he only observes them and doesn't join in during this session.

Even so, I hate spending money I don't have and am totally feeling guilty.

rsd12

I really should not admit this because this was after my 3 yr old pushed another kid that was trying to take his cars from him (but the mom was happy because I noticed & said something to Liam & she corrected her son too to tell him not to take things from other kids). 

But we were at the library this morning & another baby (about 10 months old) was pretty much in my lap & I was giving him attention while his mom gabbed away with her friends - like it was her social hour.  I was trying to spend some 1 on 1 time with Keegan & singing songs to him since Liam was in a library class & Owen was at school.

So here is the part that I totally judged.. this same child then put some small plastic peice of something in his mouth & the mom (he was her only kid) was still ignoring him.. so of course I took it out of his mouth. She finally noticed!  Geesh.. I know I miss things too.. but not when I just have 1 kid with me ; )

KirstieC

I'm leaving town on Sunday for a 4-day business trip and I don't feel an ounce of guilt. Even though I'll be working it completely seems like vacation to me. I'll miss Betty Jane like crazy, but I'm really looking forward to not being "mommy on call" and having DH take on ALL the responsibility of childcare, dog care and household chores. Seriously, if you hear a HUGE sigh of relief on Sunday around 9am Pacific time... It's me.

choirgirl

Totally flameworthy:

I'm starting to cry whenever I read about BFPs from people who weren't trying.  And feel punched in the gut even when people were trying but got a BFP on their first try. And judgy when people who haven't been trying and have never suffered a loss of any kind post their 8dpo BFPs on a board with the blithe assumption nothing will go wrong.  And have to muster up the strength to reply to a post when someone other than a "friend" from the 2IF board announces a BFP.  I hate how bitter I am becoming.

Secondary IF both is a beotch and has turned me into one.

rsrn02

my husband and i booked a week long to the carribean in May and I am so looking forward to it and the time away.  A will be almost a year old. My lil sis (who has a ds same age as mine) asked me won't it be hard to be away from A for so long.  Umm I didnt even think of that.  Nor do we really have the money to do the cruise right now.

i'm only thinking of a week of bliss, no phone calls, no emails,. not carrying around two cell phones, or constantly having to be connected in some way.

i'm sure i will miss A, but dh and i need the time away. or i may end up losing my mind.

livvielo

I am taking off next week--rollover vacation days I have to use. And I'm still going to take M to daycare so I have the days to myself.

That's because I never, ever, ever get time alone. Literally, never! I am always with/around people, and I'm very much the type of person who needs time alone to stay sane.

Strunella

While I am grateful for all of the thoughtful and generous baby gifts we have received (even from people we don't know), I am so TIRED of writing thank you notes!  DS has so many outfits, they are taking over the world.

DH and I want to TTC #2 ASAP because I am old, but I have ZERO interest in sex.  First time post-baby felt like, well, the first time.  OUCH.

BrideBuddies

My guilty pleasure is the lurk on the Baby Names board.

Today a woman posted that her husband wanted to use the name Lauren Olivia if they have a girl.  I responded that it was way too close to Laurence Olivier.  

She did not know who that was.

Nor did another poster.

I am very very sad.

stever

BrideBuddies:

My guilty pleasure is the lurk on the Baby Names board.

Today a woman posted that her husband wanted to use the name Lauren Olivia if they have a girl.  I responded that it was way too close to Laurence Olivier.  

She did not know who that was.

Nor did another poster.

I am very very sad.

stever

robynlesley:

Even though we're supposed to be saving money and paying off debt I made two large purchases last weekend.

1. We bought a new sofa

2. I signed Aaron up for Little Gym

--

Though I feel I should share that my brother's older dog (formerly my in-laws') keeps peeing on the existing--and horribly uncomfortable--sofa. That sofa is fabric and the pee is seeped in there (though I poured like a gallon of Nature's Miracle on it) and she keeps going back there to pee. I can't sit on pee any longer and if spending $500 to get a new bonded leather sofa is wrong, I'm wrong.

 As for Little Gym... I justified the $300 (up front was hard/ weekly was doable) because Aaron NEVER interacts with other toddlers and I really feel he needs to--even if he only observes them and doesn't join in during this session.

Even so, I hate spending money I don't have and am totally feeling guilty.

Money well spent in both cases!

stever

rsd12:

I really should not admit this because this was after my 3 yr old pushed another kid that was trying to take his cars from him (but the mom was happy because I noticed & said something to Liam & she corrected her son too to tell him not to take things from other kids). 

But we were at the library this morning & another baby (about 10 months old) was pretty much in my lap & I was giving him attention while his mom gabbed away with her friends - like it was her social hour.  I was trying to spend some 1 on 1 time with Keegan & singing songs to him since Liam was in a library class & Owen was at school.

So here is the part that I totally judged.. this same child then put some small plastic peice of something in his mouth & the mom (he was her only kid) was still ignoring him.. so of course I took it out of his mouth. She finally noticed!  Geesh.. I know I miss things too.. but not when I just have 1 kid with me ; )

I'd judge that.

stever

KirstieC:

I'm leaving town on Sunday for a 4-day business trip and I don't feel an ounce of guilt. Even though I'll be working it completely seems like vacation to me. I'll miss Betty Jane like crazy, but I'm really looking forward to not being "mommy on call" and having DH take on ALL the responsibility of childcare, dog care and household chores. Seriously, if you hear a HUGE sigh of relief on Sunday around 9am Pacific time... It's me.

Sounds heavenly!

stever

choirgirl:

Totally flameworthy:

I'm starting to cry whenever I read about BFPs from people who weren't trying.  And feel punched in the gut even when people were trying but got a BFP on their first try. And judgy when people who haven't been trying and have never suffered a loss of any kind post their 8dpo BFPs on a board with the blithe assumption nothing will go wrong.  And have to muster up the strength to reply to a post when someone other than a "friend" from the 2IF board announces a BFP.  I hate how bitter I am becoming.

Secondary IF both is a beotch and has turned me into one.

Not flameworthy at all.

stever

rsrn02:

my husband and i booked a week long to the carribean in May and I am so looking forward to it and the time away.  A will be almost a year old. My lil sis (who has a ds same age as mine) asked me won't it be hard to be away from A for so long.  Umm I didnt even think of that.  Nor do we really have the money to do the cruise right now.

i'm only thinking of a week of bliss, no phone calls, no emails,. not carrying around two cell phones, or constantly having to be connected in some way.

i'm sure i will miss A, but dh and i need the time away. or i may end up losing my mind.

Enjoy it!

stever

Strunella:

While I am grateful for all of the thoughtful and generous baby gifts we have received (even from people we don't know), I am so TIRED of writing thank you notes!  DS has so many outfits, they are taking over the world.

DH and I want to TTC #2 ASAP because I am old, but I have ZERO interest in sex.  First time post-baby felt like, well, the first time.  OUCH.

ITA. 1st PP sexy time was super painful.

KirstieC

stever:

Strunella:

While I am grateful for all of the thoughtful and generous baby gifts we have received (even from people we don't know), I am so TIRED of writing thank you notes!  DS has so many outfits, they are taking over the world.

DH and I want to TTC #2 ASAP because I am old, but I have ZERO interest in sex.  First time post-baby felt like, well, the first time.  OUCH.

ITA. 1st PP sexy time was super painful.

Yup!

redheadedgirl

choirgirl:

I'm starting to cry whenever I read about BFPs from people who weren't trying.  And feel punched in the gut even when people were trying but got a BFP on their first try. And judgy when people who haven't been trying and have never suffered a loss of any kind post their 8dpo BFPs on a board with the blithe assumption nothing will go wrong. 

No flames.  Totally understandable. I did this.  I'm sorry - I don't know how you feel - but I am terrified something will happen (gross - but every time I pee I expect to see blood) and I'm terrified about telling my SIL who is my age (37) and has been trying for years and suffered miscarriages. Both my sister and I are terribly fertile, it seems, and I will not blame SIL one bit if she stops talking to me. 

Peppernut

I'm watching Margaux sit and "read" one of her books, she's flipping the pages, pointing, and blabbing at it.  I think it's so dang cute I can hardly stand it, but I am ALSO so relieved that she hasn't brought it to me to read to her.  I know I will miss it someday, but OMG if I read these things one more time today I will scream.

2mom74

Spent time today with a mommy group today and thought I was so thankful for being an "older" mom. I'm better off financially and emotionally. I don't have the same issues they do and I seem more relaxed and easy going. 

gimmietimmies

redheadedgirl:

choirgirl:

I'm starting to cry whenever I read about BFPs from people who weren't trying.  And feel punched in the gut even when people were trying but got a BFP on their first try. And judgy when people who haven't been trying and have never suffered a loss of any kind post their 8dpo BFPs on a board with the blithe assumption nothing will go wrong. 

No flames.  Totally understandable. I did this.  I'm sorry - I don't know how you feel - but I am terrified something will happen (gross - but every time I pee I expect to see blood) and I'm terrified about telling my SIL who is my age (37) and has been trying for years and suffered miscarriages. Both my sister and I are terribly fertile, it seems, and I will not blame SIL one bit if she stops talking to me. 

I know how that feels...I was due 5 days before my bff had a complete hysterectomy. She has no kids and really wanted them. She still talks to me but I wouldn't blame her if she didn't. I feel awful for her, I wish there was something I could do to make it right for her.

 

fiazo

Peppernut:

I'm watching Margaux sit and "read" one of her books, she's flipping the pages, pointing, and blabbing at it.  I think it's so dang cute I can hardly stand it, but I am ALSO so relieved that she hasn't brought it to me to read to her.  I know I will miss it someday, but OMG if I read these things one more time today I will scream.

hahahahahahahahahahaah! Oh I sometimes get that feeling too.

ateytelb

A few weeks ago I was was depressed about going back to work and obsessed over it in one of my posts. Then I went back to work and was calling the nanny a few times a day to check on the baby. A couple of days ago at about 4:30 pm I realized I forgot to call on that day. At all. We have a great nanny and, if anything, she would have called me, but, still, I feel so guilty.

NewMrs07

stever:

Mine is that I judged. I went to Target the other day and I tooootally judged.

There was a couple with a newborn - 3-4 months maybe - too little to sit up on her her own, swimming in one of those cart cover things. We went by them several times and the poor little thing would be almost sliding out of one of the leg holes before one of her distracted parents would notice and prop her up again. Then she'd lay down again and start to slowly slide out the leg hole... because she's a newborn and can't sit up unassisted yet.

I judged. Big time! And they didn't even look like stupid teenagers in over their heads, they were grown ups. WTF?

OMG, I judge like that all the time. I remember one time in Florida, this woman had placed the infant seat on the stroller frame all wrong, so that the seat was tilting forward and the poor little baby was falling asleep and her head was hanging forward. She didn't have good neck control yet and I kept thinking how that might be dangerous for her. The mom was at a checkout line, chatting away with another mom and didn't even notice. Once in a while she would push the baby's head back but never noticed the seat was positioned wrong. Dumbass!

NewMrs07

robynlesley:

Even though we're supposed to be saving money and paying off debt I made two large purchases last weekend.

1. We bought a new sofa

2. I signed Aaron up for Little Gym

--

Though I feel I should share that my brother's older dog (formerly my in-laws') keeps peeing on the existing--and horribly uncomfortable--sofa. That sofa is fabric and the pee is seeped in there (though I poured like a gallon of Nature's Miracle on it) and she keeps going back there to pee. I can't sit on pee any longer and if spending $500 to get a new bonded leather sofa is wrong, I'm wrong.

 As for Little Gym... I justified the $300 (up front was hard/ weekly was doable) because Aaron NEVER interacts with other toddlers and I really feel he needs to--even if he only observes them and doesn't join in during this session.

Even so, I hate spending money I don't have and am totally feeling guilty.

 

I see The Little Gym purchase as necessary to keep one's sanity, lol. Especially for you, since you're living at your parents house and have to deal with your brother. I think since you're saving money on rent, you deserve to splurge on those things. I take Adrian to Gymboree and he loves it. I'm going to cancel soon only b/c I don't have time to take him anymore and also, we're going to shell out $335 for a pool membership this summer, so LO is going to have plenty of activities to keep him busy, no need for Gymboree. But it's great, I'm sure Little Gym will be a blast. 

NewMrs07

And he's my confession:

Sometimes I leave work early on Fridays b/c I finish my stuff and there isn't anything else for me that day. So I don't tell DH (who's watching Adrian) and go to the mall instead until it's time for me to go home. I try to text DH instead of calling him so he won't notice I'm not at work. Otherwise, he would tell me to rush home b/c he can't wait for me to take over the baby duties. Right. I relish those couple hours of shopping (or just window shopping). It's the best feeling ever, sometimes I don't even want to go back home.

I know, it's bad, but A is getting so difficult and DH works such long, crazy hours that I need some alone time and the chance to try on clothes w/o a screaming toddler next to me. 

LMark

BrideBuddies:

My guilty pleasure is the lurk on the Baby Names board.

Today a woman posted that her husband wanted to use the name Lauren Olivia if they have a girl.  I responded that it was way too close to Laurence Olivier.  

She did not know who that was.

Nor did another poster.

I am very very sad.

omg...  I'm sad too