I'll be back in a month

Nature Lover

I just realized that I've been posting on IF for 5 months (I think???) so I'll be back in a month. Love you ladies :-)

vanessagorc

Personally, i don't think there is a calendar u have to live by   6 months and good judgement are the general "rules of thumb".

AND u def exercise good judgement!

nola8446

Hey!

I have been thinking about you and I hope you are doing well.  How are things?  

Ginger71

vanessagorc:

Personally, i don't think there is a calendar u have to live by   6 months and good judgement are the general "rules of thumb".

AND u def exercise good judgement!

Agree

Nature Lover

well thank you ladies. I just don't want to offend anyone and I saw allof the crazy posts about people who are angry about this board (so stupid - why do they CARE!) so I want to be respectful of it.  But if I am welcome I will stay.  I feel like I know the "old crew" alot better than the newbies.  I suppose if someone is offended they will let me know (send me a PM) and I''' go back to IF for a month.

I have been good Nola.  DH and I took a break from IF after the holidays (you will recall I was in a pretty bad place) and it really helped clear our heads. I kept lurking on the IF board for ahwile but then hadn't been around much the past month b/c of some of the nonsense with newbies (drive by BFPs and I couldn't read one more question about something that was so basic they could jsut look it up on google in 3 seconds). I suppose it was more me than them but anyway the break was good for me and for mine and DH's relationship.  I was pretty much ready to move on to adoption without even trying any treatments b/c I was jsut so torn up by the whole IF thing but DH was very sad by the idea.  We are both on the same page now and have a plan :-)  We are going to do an IUI soon - probably April or May, and then if that doesn't work (which I have no hope that it will but am going to try so DH doesn't spend the rest of his life wondering "what if") we will try IVF once.  We are going to have that done in Panama through a hospital that is affiliated with Johns Hopkins.  There are cheaper places in Panama but I like the affiliation with JH and the credentials of their doctors.  So that is our plan.  If that doesn't work we will live childfree for a year and then re-evalaute at that point.  A plan is good :-)  I still wish we were not "unexplained IF" but we are and that's that.  How have you been?

DeputiesWife

Stay!

Stuckinthemiddle

::butting in::  I absolutely love your wedding dress, btw.  Stunning!

Edwina.McDunnough

Yes, stay.

nola8446

I am so glad that you and DH have a plan!  It always makes me feel better when we have a plan.  I am hoping that your IUI will work, but if not I am glad to see that you will try IVF.

We are "unexplained" and it is very frustrating every time we go through a cycle and it fails.  I am starting stims on Monday for my 2nd and final IVF.  If this one fails and we do not have any frosties, then we will be living child free.  We will not be able to afford adoption after spending so much money on treatments.  

I am ready to have this cycle completed and move on with our lives one way or the other.  It is becoming too stressful and I am a wreck not being to able to make any decisions about the future.  I am tired of being stuck in limbo and I am ready to get out.  Other than that, I am doing well

It is good to hear from you.  Please stay on this board!!  

Nature Lover

OK I will stay.  Thank you all for making me feel welcome :-)

And thank you StuckintheMiddle. I loved my dress too but my favorite part about that dress was that I got it on E-Bay for $200!  I think I am somehow not entirely female - not only can I not make a baby, I could not fathom the idea of spending thousnds on a wedding dress!  ha ha ha!  I am also not attached to it (as my estrogen should dictate taht I be).  It is sitting at my house looking for a new owner but I haven't had time to list it for sale yet. I would much rather have the extra space than to have a dress taking up room that in 10 years I say "my goodness what were we thinking with these crazy styles WAY back then".  Ha ha ha!